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anyone decided NOT to have IVF for unexplained infertility?

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nouveaupauvre · 27/09/2010 22:16

after 18 months tttc number 2 with no success, we are looking at a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. which means it's IVF, adoption (which neither of us are keen on) or just accept that it's probably not going to happen. we have a three year old already and although we desperately want a sibling for him, am finding myself weirdly hesitant about IVF.
maybe it's having had a couple of close friends go through real turmoil with it - one marriage nearly broke up over it - but am now starting to wonder whether we want to spend money we haven't got on what's probably a wild goose chase (I'm nearly 40 and as nobody knows what our problem actually is, i guess the chances of success are not that great) and potentially putting the family we do have under a lot of strain. i just wonder if we'll regret later not having given it every possible shot.
has anyone been in a similar position and decided not to have IVF but keep trying naturally? or had unsuccessful IVF but wished later they hadn't?

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notcitrus · 27/09/2010 22:35

I've always been against IVF, even after 7 years of trying for a baby. Luckily MrNC agreed after I explained some of the details and the likely success rate. After I somehow produced ds, we're now going through the various drugs and stuff to try to get me to conceive again, but basically I've decided to give it until I'm 40 (4 1/2 years) and then give up.

I'm pretty sure the stress and anxiety of IVF would just not be worth it for me.

Hulababy · 27/09/2010 22:29

I have unexplained secondary infertility. I am 37y now, as is DH. DD is 8y and been TTC since she was 2y, so six years now. I was dx with Asherman's Syndrome and had a couple of ops and treamtment for that, also had 6 months of Clomid. But nothing has worked. But Dh and I decided against any further intervention, just felt it wasn't right for us really, esp after all the hormione treatment I had to endure after my ops - had had enough. Haven't ruled out pregnancy as such yet, but after all this time it is very unlikely. Although not particulalry happy about the non arrival of a second child, I am resigned to it now I guess.

fedupttcnosuccess · 27/09/2010 22:24

Moi.only we have no dc. I'm 40, he's 43. Been together 7 years. Ttc seriously for the past two. After numerous tests: unexplained infertility diagnosed. Hesitant to intervention as strongly feel that if there's no diagnosis of problem then how can we fix what seemingly (according to tests conducted) is perfectly normal. Still optimistic that we will conceive naturally, although if nothing changes, we are considering ivf privately in the new year. Time is running out fast. Biological clock is deafening us both. Both in stressful, but fulfilling jobs! Parents need us more and more. But we are now feeling our own mortality: and asking who'll be there for us? Questioning our life choices more and more frequently, while trying to remain positive.