stick dunkers r us! poas addicts anonymous

Skandi i read somewhere that its fine if only one edge of the line is as dark as your lh surge has been picked up on - good luck!

Rosieposie,

So sorry it didn't work out! Fingers crossed for your next cycle.

I am doing the ovulation sticks (boots own atm). I know I ovulated last night because I had ovulation pain and temp was up. Obviously BD but the line on the ovulation stick doesn't look as broad as the other line. Its as dark but not as thick. Does this mean there is something wrong with the test or I am incorrect about ovulation??

I suppose rather than ponder the minute detail I should just do lots more BD with DH and see what happens.

Has anyone else become obesessed with POAS when trying for #2 when they were totally relaxed with #1?? For me it has literally been overnight.

xxx

fedup you are on the cbfm thread with me arent you?

Looks like i will be on there with you for a while longer now as i tested again yesterday lunchtime expecting to see a nice positive and got a negative, same again last night and twice this morning. Obviously hcg is supposed to rise and by now i would have expected to see a pretty strong line not negatives. Given that this happened to me at the beginning of the year too i know the signs, af will be a few days late but i will be glad when shes here so i can get cracking again.

Fedup if you keep timing it every month at the right time you will get pg, i used to think that if i timed it right i would get pg that month but it sadly doesnt work like that and it really does seem to be random luck, i think its like a 15 percent chance each month and obviously as we are neither in our 20's statistically it may (or may not!) take longer.

Dont worry about starting late, some people are just not ready for parenthood when they are younger, and at least you will have the benefit of life experience and financial stability which alot of prospective parents dont have. Your only a year and a half older than me and lots and lots of women in their 40's get pregnant. Just try the cbfm/opk/charting and if nothing happens within six months you can go and voice your concerns with your GP. They say wait a year of ttc but i think the consensus is that when you are older and you arent falling pg then investigations are better done sooner than later.

Anyway, with any luck you wont need any of that just try and make sure you BD when you get your highs off your monitor and obviously when you get a peak or a positive opk then do it that day and the next two to three days.

Thank you for your lovely complements lol - they are just good photos and they are far away, i feel a bit old these days but i also feel i make a far better parent now (more patience) than when i was was in my 20's. My girls are wonderful and now i have my DS everything is perfect, i hope it happens for me again but if it doesnt it doesnt and im quite pragmatic about it. I feel a bit greedy wanting number 5 when lovely ladies like you are trying for number 1 - i really hope you can have everything :) you have a great job and DH just keep trying and you will have your baby soon enough.

Lol for the record im NOT buying any more hpts for next month. Im going to watch my temps and if they stay up right until day 14 then i will test - NOT BEFORE! (famous last words) I am disappointed this month didnt work out but i figure after having a really shitty miscarriage three years ago i would rather it all went wrong now.

Skandi have fun with those hpts but remember some of them are so senstive that they will pick up very early pregnancy and sometimes (like me this month) it doesnt work out. Good luck!

Been on amazon - poas-o-rama!

Thanks for the advice (now I can really indulge).

xxx

Thank you for such kind words. Your fantastic advice is invaluable to me, especially as our intentions are not public knowledge in RL. You ARE the voice of experience to me. I'll definitely "keep in touch" and let you know how I get on. Last month we BDed 3 days before smiley face on opk and 2 after. Had lots of symptoms, inspite of not looking for them, had an attack of cystitis; only for af to appear with a vengeance. Thought had covered all bases: a rarity for us (!) - but obviously just wasn't meant to be.
Just seen your pics. Your dcs are lovely. Your baby boy is soooo cute. You DO NOT look like you have teens. You look about 29! I am 40, look 40, feel more like 70! Wish I had had the foresight to have done all this when younger, but was too busy pursuing career goals . Oh well, you can't have everything can you?

Im 39 in 4 months so not the youngest ever to concieve but i honestly do think its been helpful working out exactly when i oved and with the help of charting that i DID actually ovulate as i had heard that some months you dont or that your body gets ready to but doesnt actually release the egg.

After getting the sign that i ovulated from the opk last month my temperature rose not the next day but the one after, the same went for this month when i got the peak on the cbfm it was two days later when my temperature rose, according to FF that meant that i had oved the day before but to be on the safe side you can assume as the opk's say that you ovulate between 12-36 hours after your surge has been detected. FF reckons if you record a peak off your monitor or opk then it assumes (and warns you) that you are likely to ovulate the following day, only the 3 days of sustained rises in temperature will actually tell you if you did though. It looks like both months i ovulated on the day after the surge - everybody is different though i think.

I went with the high days on the fertility monitor to SWI and then when i got the peak i did it that day and the following two days. TBH we found it laborious and rubbish as 7 days of consecutive shagging are not as easy as they sound with a toddler and house full of teens and we are far more spontaneous usually but did it anyway. If i were you i would BD in the days before you ovulate (about three) and once you have charted for a while you should see when they are roughly then on the day of your positive opk or peak on your monitor then for two (or even three days afterwards).

I really hope you get some results out of charting, its a bit of a pain sometimes (i didnt record at exactly the same time every morning as sometimes my toddler would get up at different times but it seemed to work ok. Let me know how you get on - will keep everything crossed for you x

Also trying to work out when to BD when smiley face appears? And for how long afterwards?! Elderly parents and jobs are taking their toll! But me being 40 and him 43, with no dc is not looking good either!

I'm going to take your advice and follow your example. Just joined ff. Hope it brings me luck. Been trying seriously for 2 plus years, all results came back fine: unexpplained infertity. But according to doc need to stress less. One more question, Rosie: how long after smiley face on Digi did you ACTUALLY ovulate? I know everyone's different, but just to use it as a guide/ to compare notes! Thanks x

Sorry to answer your question yes charting tells you after you have oved - bbt thermometers are cheap and if you join fertility friend and enter your temps they work out everything for you. The tutorials are good too :)

Fedup I charted last month and it did correlate exactly with when I oved according to my digital opk. I used my cbfm last month but didn't get a peak because I have such short surges it's unusual for me to get a positive opk in the morning so I backed up my monitor with a digi opk and luckily I caught my surge - it was gone again next morning.

This month I set my monitor for testing in the afternoon and just held my wee. I got my peak and the day after I think according to fertility friend I oved. Charting definitely gives you a good idea if you have ovulated and if you do it for long enough you should see a fairly predictable pattern emerge. I think charting in tandem with a fertility monitor or Opks ( or even both) is really accurate - not sure if it helped me or if it's just luck but I spent 7 months trying and last month and this using cbfm and charting and it seems to have worked!

Rosie: with charting, the temps change AFTER ovulation, don't they? Doesn't it just give you a good idea for scrutinising after the event? During the high and low temps you are just observing to see how your cycle behaves are you not? I don't know much about this charting lark, but just what I gathered from dipping in and out of threads here. How did you chart? In conjunction with poas? Do tell, especially as you graduated with such flying colours! Well done x

Ive really got to stop poas'ing! ive done loads and loads of tests in the last three days most coming up positive though which is good - all this mornings ones did. Im going to stop now till tomorrow morning as im quite happy that ive got so many positives its just that AF isnt due till Weds so one every morning just to make sure is in order.

Katy charting is the way forward, ive been doing it for 2 months and think that its really good, you can tell exactly more or less when you ovulated - i combined that with a clearblue fertility monitor and got a really good picture of my fertility. Good luck!

Kat - I don't know when I ovulated - I've bought I basal thermometer to start charting - not sure if I should wait untill AF or not, may just start tomorrow.
Rosieposy - they look like lines to me, but I don't really know what I'm looking at as I've not used tests like that before. Hope it is a line though!

Katy, Amazon is great - i use ebay but its the same sort of thing. Each pg is different, i didnt test positive for DD2 for ages either - cant remember how long now because it was a long time ago.

Sorry you feel fed up, i reckon the worst thing you can do though is google because there is always someone somewhere who has never tested positive ect ect, mind you there are apparently some people who never test positive because their body doesnt metabolise hcg properly.

With DS i found out on the Wednesday and i was due AF on the Saturday so really early with him - tbh he is responsible for my poas addiction as i always expect an early result from now on. I have just tested with 10 miu internet cheapy just now and there is a line again (but the background is all pink and streaky) so i dipped another two and there are lines on them too but they are all pink and streaky - ive put the photos on my profile, have a look and see if you think they look positive? I bloody hate this bit - not knowing either way arrghhhh!

Oh wow, I have just looked on Amazon, it's POAS heaven! I will be purchasing forthwith!

Feeling a bit blue though because I've been feeling like I'm about to come on for ages, and I am now on cylce day 42. Have run out of sticks to p on and to be honest don't think I could face seeing another negative.

I keep googling things like "10 days late am I pregnant?" because that brings up loads of forums with other women who say they didn't test positive untill they were 2 weeks late etc. etc. But I can't find any solid medical advice that says that ever happens.

Sorry to moan, feeling really fed up about it today.

I'm glad it's not just me ... I just can't wait and I'm a terrible poss addict. Started testing st 8dpo this cycle and am now on 10dpo. Got three lines from the same sample yesterday (Internet cheapies) and I dipped this morning and thought it was negative but ( upon fishing out of the bin 10 mins later the is the faintest and I mean squint and you miss it of lines - looks sort of like an evap but after those three yesterday I'm thinking perhaps ...

Om also thinking Chemical pg though as this happened back in feb the lines disappeared after a couple of days and af came.

One things for sure though I'm the worst poas addict ever and will merrily just keep testing till af comes ( or not).

Hello, my name is Katy, and I am a pee-on-a-stick-aholic. It's been 2 days since my last test...

I must have spent about £100 on tests in the last few months. I need help....

what are perimenopausal tests?

my new spiritual home.....

it has become my obsession almost overnight. when ttc dc1 i waited till af was late and did one test (fell first month) was completely relaxed and had a sort of what will be will be attitude.

have decided last week to ttc dc2. i have instantly become a poas addict!

i've already bought hpts weeks early (8 of them!). and despite the fact that i have always been able to feel ovulation and always felt signs of it being about to happen, i have bought ovulation sticks (peed on 3 today alone(blush)).

i am only at beginning of cycle to nowhere near needing to poas on anything!

its my new secret obsession. and am glad to have found a fellow obessive (smile)

and you now you tell me there are perimenopausal sticks to pee on! ooh off to boots tomorrow to get one (seriously better be a bfn).