Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 6)

((((((huge hugs)))))) to tunnocks and wombat sorry you're both feeling so down.

tunnocks it is really tough after the ERPC, but it does get easier... little by little. Don't beat yourself up about your mothering skills, I think all of us with a dd or ds already have been there. You're doing the right thing, taking care of yourself and letting DH look after your DS. I highly approve of curling up on the sofa with brothers and sisters on...in fact, I may do the very same thing this afternoon

hehehe jam you make me giggle. I think hubbies should be much more obliging!

good luck persuading DH nicks, think you've got some pretty good steps there.

and hairy WOOOOOOOOOHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
so pleased for you. that must put your mind at rest a little bit? Now... we just have to keep you sane until the perfect scan next week and it'll be plain sailing!

any news from MummyA with results? Thinking of you lovely. x

welcome AandR, so sorry you've found yourself here... snuggle down on the sofa and help yourself to copious amounts of wine/tea and chocolate!

I'm doing better today, feeling more positive...like maybe things WILL work out well in the end.

hello to izzy, mamap, lolly and everyone else

I wish I could see happy things in the future too. At the moment I just can't get past the fact that I have a c.60-70% chance of losing any future pregnancy. It makes achieving our dream of a family seem almost impossible. And I'm getting more and more paranoid that physically there's something else wrong. Argh, I'm driving myself demented.

(((((( big hugs )))))) to wombat and tunnocks - I'm sorry you're both having a bad time of it

tunnocks I remember after the ERPC feeling like everyone expected me to just return to normal and I just felt so so sad, and empty and alone, and I really really missed my baby even though we had never really met, does that make sense? Two months on, and it's still hard, and I still have wobbly moments but they're getting further apart all the time. It does get easier to bear, but try not to put too much pressure on yourself to get there too quickly. x

Tunnocks ((hugs)) it will get better.

I'm really sorry I'm not writing personals. I'm struggling to keep up with the thread and don't want to miss anyone out, so end up not posting at all. Am also struggling emotionally and suspect my posts would not be very cheery at the mo. Will try to do better.

mamap by dimple do you mean the opening to the cervix? I thought it felt a bit different last night and am now panicking slightly thinking that I am actually ovulating, on time, after all. Tried to seduce DH last night with an 'honestly, I just feel a bit saucy, it's not cos I think I might get pregnant' line, but he didn't fall for it and was highly uncooperative. Sooooooo frustrating when they do that. Will try again tonight

Sorry for not name checking everyone but hello and welcome to any newbies

YRMOTB has now earned the title of widdlesticks! TBH DH is a morning person, sadly i am not.. far too grumpynot alert before coffee kicks in!

oh, I forgot, can I have a fish slap? Despite being only 8 dpo, and even worse, having not had any meaningful sex this month, I did a POAS. Which was of course...
A) Negative
B) Stupid
C) A waste of a quid
D) All of the above.

Send me the whale

I find that waking him up with sex usually works, get his body to agree before his mind catches up!

I suspect ERPC was thought up by a man in a big office, or a robot, or a combination of the two.. manbot?

Go Hairy HpT! thats very good news.

Hairy fab news....

Cant use the "up all night" excuse, thats for today DS decided to get up for the day at 2am We both finally went back to sleep at nearly 5am... now i have a monster day to get through before my weekend starts tonight!

Izz thankyou Gratitude Sex?? Not heard that one before.... up there with the term Sympathy Shag!

Nearly forgot - hurray hairy!!!!!! Go, mini-HT !!!!

. Haven't seen you for a few days, how're you doing?

a&rmum - welcome to the thread. I'm so sorry you're here, I also had a mmc after two normal uneventful pregnancies and healthy births, found out at 16 week appointment. I know how much of a shock it is and I'm sorry you've had to go through it . I had an ERPC and made sure I got the -ve on a HPT before trying again because I didn't want to be worrying about whether it was s new pregnancy or leftover hormones. For me it took a week to get the BFN, so you may not gave to wait too long.

((( urbanlolly ))). Sorry you've had a crap day, it's really hard to see pg women and think "that should be me!". I have had 4 birth announcements on fb in the last 10 days, I'm really pleased for them all but the relentless onslaught of happy baby pics is starting to get to me now.

nickstermum - I would second the sexy if uncomfortable underwear, cooking and beer. Another sure-fire technique in this house is doing the early morning shift with DCs and granting a lie-in, especially a weekend lie-in. Guaranteed to bring on Gratitude Sex within 24 hours

hairy fantastic news about your hcg! really really delighted to hear that things are going well.

A&R yeah you are right it is the most horrific term and I reckon it should be renamed. My baby was not a P of C. He or she was a little human life.

lolly that must have been so hard going back to work in that environment. Well done you! It is really hard to see other pregnant people when you know you ought to be too.

Hello a&rmum Sorry you too find yourself here i too lurked for quite a while before saying hello to everyone. You'll find great support here....I too had a mmc and only found out @ first scan, Its devastating.

Time and the girls here will most certainly ease some of the pain.

But be warned it's impossible to keep up with them!!!

Xxxxxx

Gosh nickster no! It should at least double every two days and it has :)

Thank you all so much for your advice and help. I had a ERPC (which btw is the most disturbing, horrible term ever!). I think I am just being impatient for my body to return to something approaching normal. I will do a pregnancy test to see if I am still testing positive (very weird to want a negative!)

Well done Urbanlolly. Everyone seems to be pregnant and it is so hard to not spend the whole time thinking That is supposed to be me! My sister is 20 weeks and one of my friends only 5 weeks ahead exactly same as for our other two.

Thanks to all for being so helpful!

hairy what does that mean? Fab news - could there be a pair of beans in there!??

Jesus crying my eyes out to grand designs .... HELP!!
WAVES to everyone just been catching up with all the news...was feeling really proud of myself earlier...I work in a kids dept!!!!! my first week back was a bit shakey, but not because of the clothes, endless fresh babies and bumps... But because 2 others are preggers. So today I finally looked One in the eye and talked about her pregancy.... She is or was 10 days ahead of me.....
and the other is was a week behind. So happy I crossed that bridge with no tears, obviously I have some really difficult milestones to share with her as we work in same dept. Like you all I'm hopeing to be preggers before the due dates......O dear up & down...up & down

thinking of you all xxxxxx

Hello all . Posting and running but will try to catch up tomorrow.

hcg has more than doubled and is 980 and they will scan me next Friday!!

Failing that i will be scrubbing the toilet bowl with his toothbrush

we havent met!

Carib & YRMOTB we just had a blazer and in temper
dragged up some old shit, and said some mean things to him - which in hindsight i perhaps shouldnt have!

Mmm powers of persuasion....

1. shaving legs
2. letting him back in our bed
3. taking off big whities and resorting to mini cheesewire
4. making burgers
5. buying beer and getting him drunk
6. offering to look after DS whilst he goes out with his pals

Any more tips gratefully received

Answer to A&B If you only MC 2 weeks ago - so very sorry for your loss - its rubbish! Have you passed everything yet - or is the brown goo the start of something to come - or have you had EPRC?

I MC at 12 weeks, was sent away MC naturally (which you would know about - severe blood loss) and then re-scanned 1 week later to make sure womb had cleared That may be just Macc hospital policy, may differ elsewhere.

If you havent yet passed the debris, that could be MC starting off, Mine started with a show.

EPU also did 3 blood tests each week to ensure HCG levels were dropping as they felt pg tests were inconclusive. My BFN didnt arrive for another two weeks, only then did i get discharged.

nickster what did you do to DH??

Hello ladies, been lurking too but wanted to answer AandR. Must have been a complete shock finding out at the scan, but don't feel guilty about not knowing - so many of us have had different experiences leading up to a miscarriage - and what with some women bleeding or having no symptoms even in successful pregnancies it's impossible to predict. If you've had at least 21 days of no bleeding then this bleed could well be an anovulatory bleed, where you're body's just resetting itself for a proper cycle. I had lots of odd brown spotting in my WTF cycle after my last mc, it seems to be very common.
However if it hasnt been at least 21 days since you last stopped bleeding after the mc, then this could still be part of your mc. I had blood tests at my local epau to confirm hcg was dropping, can you ask for similar?