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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Planning ahead!

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decafgirl · 04/09/2005 09:53

Is it just me who's planning ahead before she's even ttc? I've decided to come off the pill at the end of December and have started to drink decaf (v. difficult!), eat more fruit and veg, cut down on the vino etc. Am I mad to plan this far ahead?

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Artoo · 27/09/2005 17:49

Yup, as per the link Spod posted the luteal phase is the time between ovulation and your period starting. In most women it should be about 14 days. Anything less than 10 days and there just isn't enough time for the egg to get to the womb and implant (if it's fertilised) before your period flushes everything out again. In fact some doctors worry at anything less than 12 days.

Last three cycles mine has been 6 days (give or take a day).

The good news is that I have done some reading, found some supplements I can take, and I have almost enough data to put in front of a doctor to sort some treatment out (I think Clomid is a possibility).

Hugs,
Artoo.

jersey · 27/09/2005 14:56

Decafgirl how long is your cycle? since being on this pill my cycle varies from 26 to 30 days, not sure what will happen when I come off.

I thought about stopping mine this month but if ( a big if)I got preg straight away I would have both kids birthdays in July!!! Not brilliant planning. Must hold off till next month xxxx

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decafgirl · 27/09/2005 13:49

Hi guys, just a v quick update - I'm going to the doctors on fri to talk about my long cycle and the poss of coming off the pill a bit earlier. It's all getting a bit real now!

xx

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jersey · 27/09/2005 13:46

Thanks Spod, understand now. Good luck for both of us for Nov.

spod · 27/09/2005 13:37

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spod · 27/09/2005 13:35

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jersey · 27/09/2005 08:32

Artoo, sorry but what is a luteal phase?

Artoo · 27/09/2005 07:09

Nope, it's definitely AF, and my suspicions now are that I have a problem with my luteal phase - it's looking like it's about 6 days, which is too short for me to be able to get pregnant.

So I now have a whole load more reading to do.

Hugs,
Artoo.

jersey · 26/09/2005 09:58

Fingers crossed Artoo xxxxx

Artoo · 26/09/2005 09:01

Just a quick update - I've noticed spotting this morning, which may or may not be AF on her way. It may also be a sign of implantation, so I'm watching what's happening today and taking it all as it comes.

Hugs,
Artoo.

jersey · 26/09/2005 08:37

H everyone, we are growing! Welcome to loubag, spod and scrobble.

I have cutback on the booze, although with a 14mth old, etc. don't drink much now adays anyway!! You soon learn that getting up in the night, and early mornings with a baby and getting pissed don't go together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Started the pregnacare vitamins this weekend. Not starting till nov decafgirl so one more month . I just hope it happens as quick the second time as it did the first.

Hi Spod looks like we are in the same boat, fingers crossed for us! Going to try temping again this time as it worked for me last time.

Sorry long message I don't get on here at the weekend.

spod · 25/09/2005 19:58

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decafgirl · 25/09/2005 19:57

Me too! Take care hon and good luck xxx

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spod · 25/09/2005 19:52

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decafgirl · 25/09/2005 19:48

Too true! I started another thread over on the pregnancy side about whether or not people try for a xmas baby (I thought it would be a nightmare being stuck in hospital over the festive period) I got a lot of feedback needless to say! I think me and dh will just keep trying coz I so want it to happen for us!

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spod · 25/09/2005 19:43

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decafgirl · 25/09/2005 19:34

Hi everyone! Wow, so many new people, this is great - I finally know I'm not the only mad, planning ahead one out there! (Hoorah!)

I have definately done all the programs, books and paying attention to new mums in a 'special, just interested kind of way' so's not to arrouse suspicions in anyone. I couldn't bear all the 'any luck with the baby yet?' questions. Aagghh!

Artoo, I've got my fingers crossed for you, I hope you're lucky enough first time round but if not hey, at least we get to keep you on this thread for a little longer!

Jersey, glad you had a good hol, now you're all chilled out and AF has been (and gone) you can get started (sorry, tried not to be so blunt but couldn't find a better way to put it!) it's all so exciting!

A warm welcome to kleggie, loubag, spod and scrobble, it's nice to be among like minded people (my dh thinks I've gone a little soft in the head!)

Hope to hear from you all again soon xxx

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scrobble · 25/09/2005 17:28

We've done the same as you, decafgirl - cut out all booze and caffeine (both me and dh) but so far no joy since Feb when we started! Will maybe start charting etc. if no luck this month as I'm getting impatient! We already do the ovulation kits and have been going on doctor's advice, but dh was doing some internet research and found that somewhere suggested about 6 days before ovulation is the best time to start going for it, not just when you get the LH surge like the sticks show, so will try that! Wee sticks are a pain for me cos I find it a real challenge to go 4 hours without going to the loo!
There's a company called LoNo on the internet who do quite nice non-alcoholic wines if anyone's missing them - just google for it - we get a lot of the Ariel ones.

Good luck to everyone trying btw!

Artoo · 25/09/2005 08:00

Good luck to you too muppet3! Have a lovely holiday

Hugs,
Artoo.

muppet3 · 24/09/2005 15:03

Hi guys - scarily organised people unite! I've been reading everything I could lay my hands on for months - and spending far more time on mumsnet than a non-pregnant not-yet-mum should do. Anyway, ttc as of now and pretty nervous to be honest. But still, here's hoping for some good news soon Off on hols for two weeks tomorrow. No idea what cycle is as only just off pill, so wish me luck. Good luck Artoo

Artoo · 24/09/2005 12:10

Welcome Spod and Loubag to the scarily organised people thread

Hugs,
Artoo.

spod · 23/09/2005 21:30

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loubag · 23/09/2005 21:04

Can i join you? it's great to find some like-minded people! i'm coming off the pill next month and we're going to ttc for the first time straight away - desperate, moi?! have also been wondering if i'm crazy doing the cutting down on wine, caffeine thing, obsessing over vitamins and reading anything that's going! am totally scared though!

jersey · 23/09/2005 15:55

hi kleggie join the club, I got told off by my DH for watch everything, reading everything, etc.. But I like to know whats going on!!!!

compo · 23/09/2005 15:53

hey Kleg me old mucker