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Please help, I need some advice, got myself into an awful situation.

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 16:24

Long story but came out of a long term relationship 2 months ago, met another man not long after, things happened and 3 weeks ago we slept togther 3 times!

I also made the big mistake of sleeping with my long term relationship partner 1 week and 2 days ago, all of this is awful awful! self destruct button has certainly been pushed lately, not sure why!

So not been feeling great, brought a pregnancy test today (well 2) and it's bloody positive Shock

Now i have no clue why it's showing so soon but the lines are strong and came up straight away literally 20 seconds on each one! BUT big question can you get a positive after 1 week of sleeping with someone? or 3 and what am i going to do, i cant actually believe i am in this situation i have NEVER done anything like this in my life! silly silly women i am!!

HELP

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chipmonkey · 09/09/2010 20:39

I would pretty much place a bet based on your timing that it's the new man rather than your ex.

Don't beat yourself up. No-one is perfect and we all do unwise things from time to time.

dating scan, I think can be done from about 6 weeks?

gallicgirl · 09/09/2010 20:39

Between 11 and 14 weeks I think.

row78 · 09/09/2010 20:38

the NHS scan is at 12 weeks, you can get a private scan from around 6 weeks I think

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 20:34

Does anyone know?

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 20:25

Thank you, i see what your saying, how soon can they do a dating scan?

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row78 · 09/09/2010 20:16

Once you have a dating scan you may have a better idea who is definately the dad based on dates. I don't think it can be your ex as you usually can't get a very faint positive until at least 9 DPO, also your dates would point to it being the new bloke.

Try to keep calm, no matter where this goes you will survive, you've done this before. We all make mistakes, it happens, it's what we do afterwards that counts.

Good luck

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 20:08

I know what you are saying but it's so hard, coming out of my long term relatioship (10 years) then getting myself in this situation, I have been getting all sorts of emotions from my ex since the split, i have had tears, rage, anger, upset, hurt my head really is all over the place, I have told only my closest friend and the other man about what has happened, i can not and will not tell anyone else, my family will probably disown me and god knows what else will happen, i have a great job i am trying to hold down and 2 gorgeous children i am trying to keep to routine and as much stability as i possibly can, and now this .....

Thanks SoH good to talk

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ShowOfHands · 09/09/2010 19:20

Do NOT do that. Do NOT be ashamed. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Better women than you and I have unplanned pregnancies.

Do you have good rl support? Anybody you can talk to? Your GP should be a help to you.

You are in desperate shock. If you want to talk off board CAT me. I've been there.

zazen · 09/09/2010 19:04

Based on your dates, this new man is the dad.

Take folic acid. Have a chat with your doctor.

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 18:59

Yes i would say it was probably 5-7 days depending on cycle but they are mostly between 28-30 days, oh god what a mess i am so so ashamed i could cry for days Sad

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ShowOfHands · 09/09/2010 18:57

So you had sex with the longterm relationship chappie 5 days before your period would be due? Is that right? That would make the new bloke the father.

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 18:53

My last period was 9/8 i had sex with other man on the 20/8 and with long turn relationship on the 1/9 usual cycle is 28 days.

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row78 · 09/09/2010 18:50

fairy, when was your last period and what is your usual cycle length?

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 18:49

Anyone else help me with any more info?

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FairyLand1234 · 09/09/2010 16:37

Oh dear, oh dear, I just feel it's the wrong time, my head is all over the place and i can't even believe it, I am seeing my doctor next week she is away for a week but i feel i need to see her as i cant believe the situation i am in, as for the timing i don't have a clue i would have thought that after a week and 2 days it would not show up! I am so so ashamed, yes i have other children from my long term relationship (which i ended) why oh why have i got myself into this situation! Sad

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fedupttcnosuccess · 09/09/2010 16:32

I am so so sorry for you. You poor thing. The likelihood is that you are pregnant with your "other man": as it is recommended that preg tests work over 14 days post ovulation. I'm sure someone more educated will come along soon, but please be brave. Try to seek some help from someone in realife. I wish you all the best. Good luck.

Theantsgomarching · 09/09/2010 16:32

Oh you poor thing. Congratulations firstly. As for the timing etc I suggest talking to your gp. Don't be ashamed. No it's not ideal, but you can deal with this. Good luck! Have you other children?