MC a while ago and still TTC, Join in the chat, support and laughter in the 6th Form Common Room for a bit before Grads.

bb have you had all the tests for recurrent mc? Seems like your cycle has bounced back fairly quickly, can't imagine giving it a miss for a month would make a huge difference in the grand scheme. After my last mc I was intent on waiting, but it took me 45 days to ovulate so by the time that swung round I was desperate to give it another go.

Thanks for looking out for me. Scan went well yesterday, measures 6 weeks and heartbeat was flickering away. They also found some evidence of bleeding, not near the pregnancy site, but warned me it may come out over the next few days - which I'm desperately hoping won't. Back in another couple of weeks to check all is progressing well. So keeping my fingers tightly crossed for then.

waves to freezing and hippy

BB I really feel for you. i've had 2 MC's and I already think, "Oh what's the point" so i totally understand your fears after 4.

I keep saying to myself - You've gotta be in it to win it - and that makes me try again.

I don't know your age but I am pretty sure you're younger than me (most people are!!! ). So if you want to take a month off of trying then I think you should. On the other hand you might prefer to just get back on the horse - IYSWIM. Good luck, sweetie. x

Hola, just popping in to say hello and see if there's any news from digi..... I just saw it was a scan day for her yesterday.

How's everyone doing?

urd any sign of RTD yet?

prettymrsg what news? How's the handies? And splints?!

Welcome prinpo so very sorry you have had to go through the mc's. You've found your way to a lovely place, feel free to rant at will. I hope your stay doesn't keep you here too long (in the nicest possible way!)

I'm plodding on, CBFM says high, half of me wants to start again the other half wonders if there's any point as odds are I'll mc again. I think 5 will tip me over the edge. See, it's already making me pessimistic!

Love to all x

hello again everyone, I haven't posted in ages because internet access at my parents is totally pants so I'm completely out of touch with everyone, but I have been thinking of you all. It looks like there's quite a bit to catch up on.
BB I'm really sorry for you

MrsPV sorry that your mitts are still giving you grief

Viv have a lovely holiday

And big congrats to all the preggers ladies digital, viv, battery I've probably missed someone too, sorry if I have.

Well another month has gone by here without any SWI , god I can't wait for our house to be finished so we can move back and get back to some semblance of normality, and a bit of nookie too

Big waves to everyone

Welcome prinpo, sorry to hear it's taking so long for you. It's really hard feeling so out of control of such a huge part of your life. I found myself doing all sorts of things in order to regain control after my last mc - dieting, over-organising my social life (and poor ds's), starting a running regime...anything that made me feel that I was in charge again. I think it helped.

ladybee is it your appointment tomorrow? Good luck if it is.

Hope everyone has had a nice weekend. It was our anniversary yesterday so we went out for a lovely posh dinner and felt like a couple again. Then had family over today for a nice dinner - but didn't announce anything.

I have my scan tomorrow afternoon. Sort of wished I'd booked it for next week now...

prinpo Hi - you sound like me. I have an under-active thyroid and am also on the plump side (to put it politely).

I also find myself thinking many of the things that you have said.

I go between, 'it will all happen soon and the next one will be fine' AND 'this will never happen, why not give up.' So I do know what you mean.

Welcome .

Hello everyone,

Can I join? Think this might be the thread for me. I decided a while ago that I was sick of having a season ticket for the sodding buses and I've stayed off the threads for a while but now feel the need to let rip in a way that I don't want to in RL. I'm guessing you know how that feels .

Our situation: have two dds so very lucky, I know. They're 5 and 8. We started trying for number 3 in about March 2008. Had two mcs in 2009 and so far nada in 2010. I've been, I think, pretty sodding patient and stoical about the whole thing and now feel like throwing all of my toys out of the pram. Very down. Feel like I'm heading towards giving up and very, very sad at the prospect.

I'm 39 so it's to be expected that it should take a while for me to get pregnant. GP did some basic tests after 2nd mc which showed under active thyroid, but not bad enough for medication. I also know I have some cysts on my ovaries but, again, been told they're nothing to worry about. I'm way too fat, so I know that's not helping much. Basically, I think that we have lots of minor things against us but nothing that warrants any sort of intervention. I'm pretty sure I ovulate every month and my periods are pretty regular, so that's something at least.

Part of me is saying, "be patient, it will happen", but I feel as though I've been telling myself that for a while now and life feels like it's been on hold for too long.

Wow, I really needed to have a good old rant . Thanks for that .

Look forward to getting to know you (getting to know all about you).

Hi all just a quickie, still no sign of AF,5 days late, done another test today, felt sure, but no, got a BFN, gutted been really regular 27/28 days since MMC in Feb.

Hello all. Sorry I've been away from here for a while. I've been so busy and you fell off my 'I am on' list ! anyway, have spotted you all so am jumping back on.

BB thinking of you. x

Viv have a fab holiday. SO glad to hear you're preg is progressing well.

clareanna sorry to hear that all the shit is hitting the fan at the same time. Hope your DH is better soon and how sad for you to lose a friend/ex-boss.

urd - news??????

digi hang on in there, the first couple of weeks are the hardest and the slowest.

I'm on day 13, a couple of days ago I had my positive on OPK (second line was even darker than the control line - so that's good). Had pains since last night and have managed a good amount of SWI. So troops in place, bring on the egg (but make it the freshest egg possible please)

Love to all.

To any X factors amongst you - enjoy tonight. (Jolls - stop salivating over Simon Cowell).

had my candle going too x

Have a great time Viv!
Hello Prittypritty xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Urd still late????
Good luck for Monday Digi if I don't get a chance to pop back on.
Clare how is dh?
How you doing BB???
Big wave to everyone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have my 2 candles burning in memory of DD2 and little bean x

Alright gorgeous

I missed you enormously but can't hang around as I'm only bloody off to Turkey. .

Will be back in a week when I expect to hear good news from those of you in the 2ww window.

Mwah xx

Hi all
DIGI Good luck to you on Monday
VIV Great news about the scan
BATTERYHEN hope this next week goes quick for you
HI to MOO HIPPY BB JOLLS AND ALL
Well I'm two days late but done POAS this morning and neg, feel a bit tired etc, cramps but Idon't know if you will them on sometimes. I was a bit poorly at beginning of month only cold and all that but I wonder if thats why I'm late. Just have to wait I suppose. Will let you know. Take care all

viv that is good news for you - now you can have a lovely relaxing holiday :) - I have my scan next friday when I will be 12+5. I am really nervous, and am having very bizarre dreams which is obviously me just worrying.....

to everyone else xx

hooray viv thats brilliant news. And now [deep breath in] relax [deep breath out].

Morning all x

So ended up going for a last-minute nuchal scan yesterday as there had been a mix-up at the hospital (don't ask) and everything is absolutely as it should be. No cystic hygroma and the nuchal measurement is perfect, meaning my chances of having another chromosomal abnormality are really really slim. Eeeek. :)

xx

ps - My solution to anything is booking a holiday, so barren, I definitely think you should try and get away.

Same goes for you clareanna - me and DH had originally planned to go on a long-haul holiday over Christmas (we didn't want to be at home given it should have been our first Christmas with either baby) but the prices were bloody astronomical. We were then hamstrung by the fact DH has got to do jury service for the last two weeks of November, and his work wouldn't allow him to take holiday either side of that as it would mean one month out of the office - so from originally looking at going to Thailand or the Maldives in December, we were left with only one available week in Oct when we could go. Hence Turkey. :)

However, as - in my head - I'd already spent the money on the Maldives, we're going to go in January instead. I'm expecting lots of comments from family saying 'ooh you should be saving for mat leave' but fuck it. Had it not been for the jury service, we'd be going anyway and quite frankly, we'll never get another chance to go on a holiday like this so Maldives me up...

barren - completely agree with you on other list. I keep my stats there partly as reference for me and partly to depress myself.

Why not book a short and sunny holiday to cheer yourself up? A weekend in Morocco perhaps?

Hi all
viv v jealous of some sun- have a lovely time, are you thinking of having a private scan before you go?

moo hope you are ok too? Must be v demotivating at work at the mo

digi the early days really drag- hope you're finding plenty of distractions? I have long cycles too so also found the dating really irritating

bb big love to you

cchhhheeepzzz are you there??! Hope Dubai was fab- where did you stay? We are thinking of going in nov which is a totally ridiculous use of cash just before Xmas/ mat leave etc but I sooo want some sun and guaranteed glamour!

I am ok- had a Shit day- my ex-boss who i worked for for 11 years died last night so have been very very shaken by it- she was in her prime. My dh has a serious lung infection and is likely to be sent foram X-ray tomorrow so is completely incapacitated and rolling around groaning- still good practice for having two kids I guess!

viv awh, thanks . When's the scan? Are you having one before hols? Very jealous of you going away and sunning yourself, lucky, although it is thoroughly deserved and it'll do you good.

digi good to hear you're doing ok love, hang in there and stay positive and stay with us as long as you want. Fingers crossed tightly for all being well on Monday for you honey x

moo I have my fingers crossed that it turns out well with the work situation. These are very scary times for us all I think, particularly in the public sector.

hippy I've had the usual barrage of blood tests done after 3 mc. The hospital I'm going to do all the tests recommended by St Marys which are (at least the ones I can remember) karyotyping, lupus, thrombophilia, thyroid, progesterone.... I'm sure they're are others but I can't remember what they are! I should really start writing things down! Apparently they've pretty much got to the point where they've done all they can for me at a general hospital level hence the talk of referring me on. I've got to wait for another appointment with the consultant first to see what he says.

Where's jolls?

Also still here. Feeling ok, still flitting between positive and pessimistic realistic. These very early days (only 5+3) are really dragging. No 'real' symptoms to latch onto either. Just hunger and regular period-style cramping. No sore boobs and no nausea (hence only lurking on the ante-natal threads - don't feel I can join yet). On the plus side I don't feel as 'empty' as I did last time.

Scan on Monday, when I think I'll be 6+1 but as it won't tie in with my LMP (long cycles) I'm expecting them to get all concerned and ask me back two weeks later. (Just hoping it measures right for my dates).

ladybee good luck with your appt on Monday too. Definitely write everything done.

viv week on a Turkish beach sounds amazing! Hope you can relax and enjoy it as much as possible.

bb Glad to hear you're feeling ok (well as ok as you can).

carimoo Hope the rumours turn out to be false. But have you any idea what you'll do if the proverbial does hit the fan?

Morning lovelies x

I'm still here but no news. 11 weeks today (or 11+2 based on my scans) so getting ever closer to the point where we got bad news on both previous pregnancies. Am doing okay - have been a bit teary emotional and totally knackered all the time, but feeling quite positive about it all, and looking forward to a week on a Turkish beach next week.

bb - I think you're totally amazing missus.

moo - will you get greater clarity on your work situation in the Spending Review next week, or will it take longer? I think the uncertainty would be doing my head in, so hope you're okay.

digi - hope you're hanging in there, and bee, good luck at the hospital. I definitely echo the idea of writing all your questions down in advance so you don't forget anything.

Hi to everyone else - hope you're all loving this gorgeous weather xx

BB its good that your consultant is seeing you again. I'm glad they haven't fobbed you off and its good to see that you are doing so well under shitty circumstances.

Bee best of luck at the hospital. Definitely go armed with questions and be prepared. I always get home then remember all the pertinent questions I should have asked!

How's things with everyone else? I saw things 1 & 2 are well at least for 8s today on FB!! PV what's your progress on hands and the old cycle? Digi how are you doing in these early days? Clare you still keeping well and blooming? Any news from Jolls, Viv, Hippy, Owl or Urd?

bee I appear not to have answered your question the other day. We are being abolished completely, rumour has it at least - official announcement not made yet. I can't say too much until then but there have been some rumblings in the press since the weekend and some support in our favour so we'll see what happens. It ain't looking good though.

Hello lovelies, thank you all for your very kind thoughts, I'm doing ok thank you, surprisingly (and sadly) it's all become a strangely normal occurrence.

I did another test on Monday and as expected it was negative so the scan has been cancelled and I'm pencilled in to see Consultant when he gets back from holiday.

ladybee not insensitive at all, I've not been on the other thread for a while as I became very detached from it, I couldn't keep up with all the newbies and found it hideously depressing seeing people pop in for a month or two then get their bfp. God I sound so bitter, I don't mean it like that at all, i think you know what I'm failing miserably to say! Well done on getting through your recent tough time and the very best of luck for your appointment, go armed with questions and don't do what I do and sit there nodding and grinning like an idiot! X

pv how are the hands doing? And the pant snot?! Still flowing freely ?

Morning all,
bbrook I hope you're surviving this week so far, am I right in thinking you'll have a scan in few days to see where things are? Sorry this is a sensitive question but I wondered if you want me to take you off the old stats list on the other thread, I don't want to jump the gun but equally don't want it to be upsetting for you if you drop by there.

I'm just about at the end of what feels like a really long wait for my results from mc testing at my local hospital. Appt is next Monday so I'm going to start thinking about putting together all my dates and questions. Am pretty sure I won't be rocking up to it and throwing down a +ve test stick - still a while before I can test but there's no indications of diffedness.

I managed to get through our 1st wedding anniversary without a tear on the weekend, prob because I did all my wailing in the days leading up to it. I threw away my pill and we started ttc#2 the same month as our wedding, so that makes it a year with some luck getting pg, but none holding on. Sigh.

Oh well. Will keep on keeping on.

Hope you all are taking it easy and enjoying this last flush of good weather