We're not obsessing, we're Just Shagging! Part III

Ha ha, thanks for the support truffkin. PMSL brassica, you cheeky mare!

truffkin I have also been thinking of the Christmas reveal I thought it would be a way of making up for having kept the secret for 12 weeks. But I'd have to be preggo now for that with my cycles. I'm 2DPO so maybe I am, but I have just destroyed my body with wine, vodka, and a large strange bottle of orange Caribbean alco-pop, so I doubt it. Though I have been drunk on or about ovulation day the last three months in a row . Even thought I could put scan pics in Christmas cards for our parents.

But in reality I think that probably is a bit nuts because it would force people into having to have an amazed face (a combination of , , ) - like it's a brilliant present we're giving them! So I doubt we'll do it that dramatically. But I like your style! And it would be nice to tell people then!

Just realising that if I get preg between now and Christmas and it's less than 12 weeks at Christmas I'm going to have one heck of a job keeping it quiet. Guess I'll have to pour my 10 am Baileys into a pot plant on Christmas day, and get 'sick' on New Year's Eve!

In the spirit of helping takethat build strength to not tell anyone until 12 weeks when she gets her BFP soon what have you guys all thought about when / how you would do this?

Originally I thought that having a September BFP would be great for a Christmas 'reveal' as we could buy grandparent and 'aunt & uncle' Christmas cards and write the good news in there. I know this sounds a bit over the top but as I've mentioned in previous posts, it will be a big surprise to everyone that we have decided to have children so am kind of wanting to make it special. (I'm also quite rubbish at imparting good news that relates to me, was blushing like a beacon when we told PILs we were engaged and DH did all the talking then!) I'm also wondering as it's highly likely possible that we will miss the September boat now, is there a way we could do the announcements when it's not Christmas but that's still a bit different and special?

Please do feel free to give me a sharp kick feedback if you think this is a stupid idea and we should just tell our families like normal people

With regards to DH, I would want to do a test when he was here so he would kow straight away. I clearly say this having not had to do a test when there was even the faintest chance a likelihood that I could actually have a bun in the oven, so am well aware that my resolve may crumble when it comes down to it

Hehe Truffkin that feeling certainly does arrive once you get up the duff. It's called morning sickness. (Evil emoticon)

Brassica I could have written that post myself, especially the bit about getting defensive when people ask. DH's family are highly that we have been married for 3 years and not even a whiff of a sprog so I do get a lot of questions. All well meaning but at first it annoyed me that people couln't accept that we got married for being married rather than 'starting a family' and now it annoys me because I don't want people to know we are TTCing and so have to think of ways to respond without out and out lying (which I feel bad about)

I'm not sure which thread it was on that we were thinking of amusing comebacks, there were some good suggestions but I'd never be brave enough to say it! I usually resort to the catch all "oh well, with grandchildren on both sides at least the pressure is off us!"

I have to say that although we've taken the plunge so to speak, I do still have wobbly moments. Usually when we've had a really good weekend that would not be possible with children (you know the random, spontaneous, boozy times that seem to run seamlessly from Friday night to Sunday lunch?) so am hoping that this feeling all other parents talk about where you don't feel the need for those times quite as often, will arrive when I'm actually up the duff!

And for ovulation brassica! Let's hope your DH pumped some decent swimmers into you last night!

Truffkin - thanks. Know what you mean - the doctor kept asking me what my periods were like before the pill, but after 14 years I can't really remember!

We told everyone we are ttc, and last month we told family and a few friends we were pregnant. Don't mind they knew ttc, but it was bloody awful having to tell people about the mc/chem preg so next time I'm waiting until the 12-week scan even to tell my mum. She's going to be well angry as on the actual day of the miscarriage while I was crying she made me promise her to tell her straight away next time too (she also said, 'I expect you'll be giving up drinking now, won't you' and 'well, perhaps there's a lesson to be learned from this and you won't get so excited next time' ).

She's sort of right though. It'll be hard keeping it secret since I am both easily excitable and a total drunk. I'll have to just keep shagging DH to get my kicks.

My house smells of the chicken stock I'm making. All I want to do now is eat chicken flavour chips (crisps). Agghh.

Congrats on ov'ing (and SWI) Brassica! Let the madness commence huh?

Yeah, Boo and EH?
to all the rest of you.

A friend of mine posted on facebook a few months back that she and her DH had decided to take the plunge and TTC. A couple of weeks later she was complaining of feeling ill and everyone was posting that maybe she was up the duff. Turned out she just had the flu. This was around the time I finally bullied convinced DH to start TTC DC2. There was no way I was going to put myself in that spotlight. To much pressure! Not even our parents know we're TTC.

Brassica it gets so confusing doesn;t it? Glad you sound more upbeat about it now and you got your JSing in so good times!

Takethatandparty sounds like a great night and not even the weekend! Big up from me...

We've not talked to anyone about TTCing mainly because I'm quite private generally but also because I've never wanted to be a parent so am still getting my own head around the idea! I think partly I didn;t want to hear the 'I told you so's from people who always said I would change my mind (and for the record it was DH who changed my mind, not me!) and because my sister told everyone they wanted a baby as soon as they were married and although it only took them a few months to conceive, my Mom did her head in asking about it all the time!

On the flip side, my best friend was very open about TTCing when they got married and now 2 years on her struggle with infertility is quite public as people ask her what is happening, which feels very difficult for her.

Not to be doom and gloom about it though as I love it just being between us for the time being. (apart from that time when we were all really drunk and DH told his brother I'd had my implant out and said brother started drunkenly whining about how he wanted us to have babies so his kids have cousins to be friends with and so we would move back home. am pretending this didn't happen as he hasn't mentioned it again and often gets drunk-related amnesia!)

Hi Hallie and sorry you're not getting great advice and support from your GP. Fingers crossed you can start tracking your cycles so you have a better fel for what's going on (I'm totally with you on this, after no periods for 8 years on Implanon I've had a lot to learn!)

Hello - not posted for ages, but been lurking, thanks for your updates and for keeping me sane (kind of). Well AF still not returned (after 5 months off pill)so have now been prescribed Clomid.... Just finished round 1. Not really had any side effects although finding it difficult to sleep (but often can't sleep so might not have anything to do with it) and dull ache on left side (this might just be in my head :))

Also bit confused as when I had the scan the lady told me I had PCOS, however the doctor then told me he wasn't convinced I do . Anyway won't get any follow up scans or blood tests, just told to go away and get on with it. I wouldn't have a clue if it wasn't for advice on here!

Now just waiting until I can use OPK/see if temp has gone up - praying it works, don't even care if I don't get BFP this month - just want my body to get back to normal!

Cometalk - know what you mean about wishing hadn't told people about ttc. But so difficult when everyone has been asking ever since we got married...

ComeTalkToMe I know exactly what you mean! We've sort of mentioned it in passing to my Mam and in-laws and they're all excited waiting for some news and every month that passes I feel like I'm disappointing them!

Cowboy - very excited for you, got everything crossed!

Takethat - sounds like a good night out!

I see other people haven't told anyone they're ttc - this was my plan and then my big mouth excitment got in the way. Really wish I hadn't now, makes you feel a bit of a failure when you feel like people are thinking 'oh still not pregnant?'

Cross-posted Takethat. PMSL at your bruised arse and memory loss! Sign of a good time I?d say!

Ooooo Cowboy, very exciting! Have you done another test this morning or are you hanging on a bit?

Sorry you got a BFN Crowette but there?s lots of time yet for a BFP.

Sorry you?re not feeling well Truffkin, hope you?re better this morning.

30 sorry AF arrived ERTD is evil red tide of doom

Good luck to everyone testing today, early or not!

Nothing more to report here, and I think I may have imagined the slight pains yesterday If everything has worked like clockwork this time I should be 8DPO, but due to funny pains I could be 6DPO so not entirely sure where I am but either way it?s waaaaay too early to POAS.

PMSL 30 at your murderous PMT and your non-cretin DH!

And congrats cowboy! I had pink lines last month that actually got stronger and stronger throughout the day. At the end of the ten minutes they were faintly there and quite fuzzy, and by the end of the day they were clear and sharp. So it can happen like that.

Can't believe you're waiting 'til the weekend to test again!

Well I had my hair done yesterday. Asked for a blonde shoulder-length bob. The colour is nice, but it's chin length. Whhhhyyyy? Then my sister-in-law came to visit so I skived off work and we went shopping. Bought a lovely new cream dress to wear out. Got home, got slaughtered, fell over and sat on the fake coals in our fireplace in my new dress so it had to go in the wash. Also cut my shin open and bruised my arse. Went to the divey pub down the road, lasted about ten minutes before I had to come home and throw up in the sink. Woke up this morning in a pink dress I don't remember putting on, complete with belt and earrings. At least I took my shoes off.

Even alka selzer isn't helping. I guess it's practice for morning sickness.

Cowboy sounds like we're clearblue buddies tomorrow! I'd err on the side of congratulations for you, but will wait til you confirm things

Enjoy your soggy wet Friday viroids.

ERTD?

cowboy - a very early yeah! from me :)

30 sorry to hear about ERTD. Hope it's over soon so at least you can get to the enjoyable part of the month.

VDs - love it

Brassica, hope you are no longer on MN and in fact are off JSing

Evening viroids, have been feeling a bit worse for wear today (think it's a 24 hour sickness bug that's been doing the rounds at work) so no MNing for me. I did a bit of work from home and mainly slept it off. Luckily for me DH was out tonight with his workmates so I've been able to indulge my illness with weepy / crap films and Big Brother. Am looking forward to well-making cuddles when he arrives home if he isn't too full of beer and curry

Cowgirl sounds very promising indeed, you know what they say; a line is a line is a line

Brassy good luck for JSing, hope you get your way!

Thirty so sorry for ERTD turning up. Onwards to the next cycle we march. Don't be too down, next month could be luck for you.

Hi everyone else, here's to the weekend starting tomorrow. It feels like it's been a long time coming.

Fingers crossed for you crowette