The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

Oh - excitement on my day working from home!! The recruiter called me about a role that I have been dying to interview for and they want to see me tomorrow afternoon. Good job I am at home and can spend the rest of the day doing research into the company!!!!

Yep, this is what I am worried about re the medication. I should really go and see GP, I shall do that a bit closer to the TTC time, I think it's a wee bit premature to be asking things now, I don't need worry at the moment.

Ah, glad someone likes my idea, I'll let someone else start the new thread though :)

100 years we x posted- i remember when i was pregnant last time and i was suffering from a chest infection and the only thing they told me that i shud take is paracetamol :(

AC- i forgot to mention b4 about your work situation, i really feel for you, i am in a similar situation i work for complete bullies who it seems there aim is to make my life miserable, when they took me on it is only a 6 month contract but they took me on and gave me a verbal agreement that bcos of DD i cud work 2 days from office and a day from home, now basically i do nothing at work i have no specific job role and spend my day bored out my brain, now last wk he had a go at me in front of everyone saying i have to do my hours from the office bla bla bla, i replied about having an agreement to do a day from home, his answer things have changed
all i have left at work is 5 wks till my contract is up, i asked whether it was really worth me trying to find an xtra days child care for 5 wks his reply yes, i was almost in tears and close to punching him, in the 2nd breath he told me theres not really anything for me to do in there anymore and he wouldnt be renewing anyones contract NO S**t i just cant wait to leave now, hopefully something will turn up for u on the job front soon

100years I like the idea of "in it together". It would mean those of us having to wait linger can get tips from those who graduate early (who's going to be my TTC mentor?!?!?)

Correction to my post ^^ it's NOT as opposed to nit!!!

morning all

WHYWAIT- u will just end up falling into your roles altho it may take sum time it took me a while to adjust to my new role and to begin with bcos i went from working full time to staying at home i ended up finding myself very lonely, as my DP was at work alot and none of my close friends had kids etc, it took a bot of time but i now love being at home and wud prefer to not have to work even part time :) hopefully one day finances will allow me to

JS- rubbish bout tube strikes but atleast u get to work in the comfort of your own home and skive a lil bit more than normal :o wow thats really great that u r going to do the half marathon that is something i would really love to do, just not sure whether ive got the motivation to go running afta DD is in bed each nite, im not the best with exercise hehe

AC- i think even when i got pregnant it would be nice to stay on this thread and c wot everyone else is upto u never know a few of us mite end up getting on the bus at the same time

BEBE- thats bad knew bout tax fingers crossed your tax will be fine and nothing will come of it, it made me worry a bit when they sed about all the people who wud be getting a big tax bill thru the door

AC sorry to hear of your work situation. It's nit nice being somewhere like that and working for a bully. I was once pushed by my manager at work and was out of there within a week!!! I look back and would have done things differently, but you live and learn, I was only in my very early twenties at the time.

Maybe we should rename the thread/start a new thread, something like 'in it together', and stay in the same thread, then we would know how each other are doing, especially if dates for TTC change and the like. I know I'm only a newbie in here, but what do you think. Obviously if you think of a different/better name then cool.

JustShagging I suffer from migraines, mostly due to food intolerance. It's not nice to have symptoms from eating stuff when everyone else can eat what they like. I do feel for you.

I also need to know what I can and can't take during pg, as I have a list as long as my arm for pain relief and anti-sickness, which I doubt I will be allowed. I'm not looking forward to having to suffer a migraine with only taking paracetamol, but I shall cross that bridge when the time comes. Also on a preventative, not sure if that's OK either. Eeep [scared face]

Hi Bebe - hopefully there will be nothing from HMRC in the post today. Never a nice piece of main to receive :(

I'm also taking supplements and (until today!!!) I have been feeling so much better. I guess it's also coupled with exercise and so they must have some impact on our health adn wellbeing. It's great that we are all taking out health and fitness so seriously pre TTC, our OH's should be very proud of us!!!

DH and I have now signed up to run the Bath Half marathon in March so I have to keep on with the running now!! Have persuaded my Dsis to join us and am also planning on recruiting a few more friends too!

whywait Gluten intolerance is a blooming nightmare to manage. I am usually pretty good but sometimes when I go out for meals I assume that things will be ok and they aren't. Last night was Thai and usually I am ok but I went for something different to what would usually order and that wasn;t such a good idea!!!

Hi All

Appologies for ridiculously long post yesterday. It didn't look so bad in a small font in word!!!

Am working from home today thanks to the tube strikes and my bloody gluten intolerance. The good news is that it's a lot easier to come on here when my boss isn;t sitting next to me

AC I have no idea where to go from here when I eventually graduate. I guess I'll have to wait and see but am hoping that I stay on here until I get my BFP and that someone else graduates around the same time!!!

So sorry to hear that you had bad news at work. There is nothing worse that working for a bully and I can totally sympathise on the job hunting front. I'm in a similar (but no way near as bad) position as you and at times it can be utterly soul destroying but I find that if you can learn to switch off to their comments then it does help a little bit!!!!

Whywait I know what you mean about this thread. I really don't want to move on anywhere else, I have come to know and like the people on here, it's a nice little safe group IYKWIM. Feel jealous of people on the e.g. "well our october 2006 babies are nearly four" threads!

Had some bad news today that might keep me here for a good long while yet: the guy at work who took over supervising and training me in place of the horrible bully I worked for before is leaving and I will have to go back to working for the horrible bully again. I have spent the evening applying for new jobs. Can't bear to go back to how things were before, even if it means putting off ttc.

Just shagging that post was absolutely epic

i know r situations sound really similar bebe, see my DP is more of a practical thinker and has to have everything set out and organised where as i plan more with my emotions and wot will make me happy even if we do have to struggle for a while, we have been trying the darth vadar noises to lol god thats a lot of meds dont know how u remember to take them all, DD is now fast asleep so ive got just over an hour of peace on my own b4 DP gets home from work

aftanoon all

JS- hope you had a lovely hol, welcome back, glad your talk went well and u now have fixed dates in mind, wish i cud even get to a fixed date or a talk lol

WHYWAIT- it bothers me sometimes more than others when i do bulk of work but to be honest i have never spoke to one single mother that has not had the same complaint so not to stereotype but i think most the time woman just do a lot more with DC's and around the house than there DP's do.

BEBE- i am really not sure the inhaler works either plus at this age i am never really sure wether dd is breathing it in properly either :S

100 years- try not to worry to much about the loss on the scales sometimes my scales will go down but my clothes feel tighter just think how well youve done up to now :)

JustShaggingForNow ? TTC#1 June 2011. Joined thread July 2010. Waiting because DH is not ready, saving money, holidays yadda yadda yadda!!!!!

100years Hopefully TTC #1 beginning of 2011 tbc, waiting because want to get fitter possibly lose some more weight in the process.

WhyWait TTC#1 September/October 2010 (member since depending on results of Rubella immunity testing.

bebejones (Hopefully) TTC #2 Jan 2011! (Watch this space, subject to change ) Waiting co DH 'isn't ready' (well he better get there bloody fast) & because I have to stop my meds for 3 months first!

jbells TTC#2 hopefully around jan 2011! if i can get DP to change his mind he wants to wait till more like october next year bcos finances buying house, got lots of work to do on house, hes not ready, scared of the way i will be afta birth again, bla bla bla

I need a June/Oct 2011 TTC buddy!!!

Sorry it's a bit longer than you had planned JustShagging, but yes you get to enjoy the next 10 months of extra practice. I know how the waiting feels, although we have only recently had the chat next year feels a long way off.

100 years Hopefully TTC #1 beginning of 2011 tbc, waiting because want to get fitter possibly lose some more weight in the process.

Right????

So? THE CHAT!!!
We were having a lovely romantic supper in Bodrum yacht club about half way through the holiday and for some reason the time just seemed right. Can?t really remember how we came to talk about it but the basic jist of the conversation was:
I want to start trying asap ? reasons listed for this included:

1. Why wait?
2. Age and its impact on fertility, chances of disability, not wanting to be old parents etc etc etc
3. I?m ready and my body is really healthy now
4. Timings of potential DC2
5. Not wanting a Christmas DC Then I quoted the ?average time taken to get pregnant is 6 months? stat at him. I know it?s not always true but it is a statistic I have seen somewhere and supported my case so??. (what was it they say about lies, damn lies and statistics?!?!?)

DH then said that he desperately wants children but he would like to wait a bit to enable him to save some money and give our family stability. He also wants us to have one last holiday somewhere exotic before we have children as things will change significantly after that. He said that my efforts to get healthy and fit have really reassured him that I am ready for this and that the amount of research that I have done into pregnancy, labour and parenthood show that this is obviously something that I feel very strongly about..

We talked about the provisional timetable that we discussed at the start of the year (which was a March 2011 TTC start date) and he asked if we could rethink that. Obviously I was not hugely happy about it but we discussed the reasons why and (much as I hate to admit it) they do sort of make sense. He asked that we try after our trip. As we have decided to go to India it will need to be October and so I have proposed the following compromise (pending a chat with my GP about the safety of the plan)

TTC in June and July 2011. If not PG by then, stop TTC until we get back from India. I basically want to avoid going there in my first trimester but think that I will be fine in the 2nd one. Obviously I will have a chat with my GP about this and follow whatever advice she gives me but I could potentially be starting in June.

I?ll be kicking about on this thread for a bit longer than planned but at least now I have a date that I can work to and can focus on enjoying the next 10 months before getting serious about starting a family. So here is my new and updated stats (maybe we should all update these for the newbies??)

JustShaggingForNow ? TTC#1 June 2011. Joined thread July 2010. Waiting because DH is not ready, saving money, holidays yadda yadda yadda!!!!!

bebe, thanks, After the talk with OH and him saying we would do it whatever the scales say it's helped a lot, and yes my clothes are fitting loads better and I know I look slimmer so I am now OK about it. I was putting a lot of pressure on myself, which I needn't have done.

Hi JustShagging. Hope you had a good holiday