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childminder left girls in park with another woman

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booyhoo · 25/05/2010 00:00

today i went to the park with my own two boys. my cousin's two girls were there with CM and her other mindees, i am not sure how many were with her. i spoke to the girls and then played with my boys. the CM was standing chatting to another woman. after a few minutes the CM said, "you two stay here with X (other lady) while i run up the road home." she took 2 other girls and put them in har car and left. she was away for about ten minutes and then left with my cousin's girls and 2 more children. the other lady stayed with her dcs.

should i mention this to my cousin or would it be seen as interfering? if it was my dcs i would want to know who they were being left with.

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majafa · 25/05/2010 11:11

Err, excuse me, Ive never left a minded child with another adult
And wouldnt dream of it either, However I do know off those that have done!!

frakkit · 25/05/2010 09:25

Definitely mention it, possibly in the sneaky 'oh does your CM have a new assistant? I saw the girls in the park with her the other day' then either she does and it's okay or she doesn't and your cousin gets confused which means you can elaborate more.

Or you could just come straight out and say it which is no more than the CM deserves but might give your cousin a heart attack.

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booyhoo · 25/05/2010 09:22

i have no idea who the other woman was so i cant be sure if she was a registered asst or another CM. thank you all for responses, that is what i was hopping you would say as i dont think i would feel right not saying to my cousin.

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StarExpat · 25/05/2010 09:07

Sorry, just reread your post and you did say it was wrong. So, cross out I hope not
sorry.

StarExpat · 25/05/2010 09:06

Are you a cm, wannaBe? I hope not.

looneytune · 25/05/2010 09:00

I'm at wannabe's comment - not round here it isn't!!! We HAVE to have all our mindees near enough to see or hear them at all times!

HSMM · 25/05/2010 09:00

wannaBe - you know at least 2 CM now - me and looney! I have never done this in 11 years of minding.

StarExpat · 25/05/2010 08:54

wannaBe
I trust that my cm doesn't do this. I would be furious.

wannaBe · 25/05/2010 08:51

it's wrong, but I don't know a single childminder who hasn't done this. So tbh I think it's a far more regular occurrence than parents are aware of.

looneytune · 25/05/2010 08:46

Unless the other person is a registered assistant and parents have given permission, it's a massive no no. I once left something at the park (literally a minute away) and took ALL children back with me rather than leave them with dh for a minute. This was before he was my reg'd assistant. I'd definitely ask your cousin if this is something she was aware of!!!

StarExpat · 25/05/2010 08:23

You should tell her. I'd want to know if this happened to my ds. If I already knew about the arrangement, I'd just say to the person reporting it to me that she had my consent/I knew the lady...etc. But I'd want to know.
I wouldn't want my ds being left with someone that I don't know. Anything could happen.

HSMM · 25/05/2010 07:44

Not right, unless your cousin already knew about it, or it was an emergency (which it doesn't sound like it was).

OnEdge · 25/05/2010 07:26

Needs addressing, what other corners is she cutting?

grapeandlemon · 25/05/2010 07:06

That is awful, really worrying. You need to tell your cousin.

SilveryMoon · 25/05/2010 06:56

I would mention it, that's a little shocking I think.

atworknotworking · 25/05/2010 06:12

Erm your cousins daughters were left in the care of their CM's friend, while she nipped home

Was this other lady a registered CM? and if so has your cousin signed a consent for her minder to leave her mindees in the care of a registered named person.

If not then I would tell your cousin immediately, a responsible and professional CM would never do this.