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left in soiled nappy entire day

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clearsage · 21/12/2009 20:27

Hi

I'm really concerned. When I picked up my daughter from the childminders this evening she mentioned that we forgot to pack nappies. I apologised, of course, since it was an oversight. But then the child minder said that she had no spare nappies to use so she left my daughter in a wet nappy for the entire day. I was really shocked to hear that! I asked her what is my daughter had done a poo, to which she replied that she doesn't know what she would have done. I asked why she did not use the other childrens' nappies and she said that they wouldn't fit (but those children are the same age as my daughter).

I was so shocked that I just left there and then and my daughter kept whimpering all the way home because she was so uncomfortable. As I walked on home, whoch takes about half an hour, I kept thinking about what the child minder said and it just seems really wrong. Why didn;t she call us? Or buy some nappies and ask for money back? We almost never forget to pack her bag - its not as if this is a regular occurrence and we needed to be taught a lesson?

I'm really worried about the fact that the child minder had done that? Has anyone else had a similar experience? Can I complain about the child minder?

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nannynick · 21/12/2009 20:41

Not surprised you are not happy. If the childminder didn't have spare nappies themselves, then they could have borrowed one from another child's supply if there were plenty available. One Size either way doesn't matter... that's what stickytape is for, even if size is more than 1 different, changing it and using a nappy that's too small held on with stickytape is surely better than leaving your child in a wet nappy all day.

Was childminder snowed in? Did they try to contact you during the day to say there were no nappies and they would get some?

Complain to the childminder directly, complaints have to be logged... so the regulator could see the complaint at a later inspection visit.

Is this just the tip of an iceberg, or are you happy with all other aspects of care?

Ripeberry · 21/12/2009 20:39

I'm a CM and know that parents often forget to pack nappies or I run out, (one child had 10 nappies in one day!).
I always keep a store of my own and if I ran out I would buy some and bill the parent.
There is no excuse for leaving a child in a wet nappy all day.
She was not meeting the needs of the child and even if she could not get out maybe because of snow, she could have rung the mum.
You need to have a talk with the CM to make sure this does not happen again.
If all other aspects of care are satisfactory then this could be a one off, but if this happens again or other things go wrong I would look for another CM.

rubyslippedonastraymincepie · 21/12/2009 20:33

I wouldn't let my child go back there

and i would make a complaint

unforgiveable IMO

FabIsGettingReadyForXmas · 21/12/2009 20:33

This is completely out of order and I would be furious.

GypsyMoth · 21/12/2009 20:33

if that were my child i would not be taking him/her back....ever!!!

FantasticMissFox · 21/12/2009 20:32

I agree. Its not your DDs fault that you forgot to pack the nappies! I would take it up with childminder- maybe suggest giving her a bag of nappies to keep at her house so she will always have spares if you (or any other parents) forget?

Littlefish · 21/12/2009 20:32

I think that is appalling. Did she definitely not try and contact you?

How old is your dd?

xoxcherylxox · 21/12/2009 20:31

well you could complain if you are very unhappy and if you want your childminder to have to a a visit from ofstead and have it put on there record and avaiable for new parents to see or you could just complain to the childminder sit and talk to her but tell her you want her to record your complaint and any action taken.
personnally i would be unhappy but i dont think i would put the childminder through the hassle of the complaint to ofstead and affecting her future job prospects if i was happy with all other aspects and this was a one off.

spookycharlotte121 · 21/12/2009 20:30

Gosh thats awful i think you need to take it up with the childminder.

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