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Boff needs chocolate. Nanny has just resigned.

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SnowyBoff · 03/12/2009 21:38

So folks, there we were being nice, supportive employers to someone who frankly with hindsight has a major attitude problem, and she's just resigned on us and leaves in a fortnight. I am sure Christmas is a brilliant time to look for a new one (not).

This nanny thing is so angst-ridden it's untrue. It also means we may have sacrificed another agency fee for a mere 10 weeks' work as well. And the kids will be really upset and go all funny on us for a bit because they will be so confused about everything.

I am not a happy Boff.

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K75 · 20/12/2009 22:52

Doing you can do to keep her?!

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SnowyBoff · 20/12/2009 21:28

Update ... we've found a lovely temp, very Mary Poppins, so I am now very hopeful of success. But she will only be able to be with us for six weeks or so.

However, further bad news. I have discovered the duff nanny ran off with two of my babyfood cookbooks! These books are old family friends! I've had them for all of the children, and I am now bereft! I mentioned this to DH and he said he had caught her muttering rather negatively in the kitchen one day that she 'had needed to buy her own cookbooks'. I had seen different books appearing around the place but assumed she had bought them out of interest. But if the Froebel thing is anything to go by, I can now only assume she felt forced to buy books in order to do her job, but that she felt we should have paid for those as well.

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 20:43

Thanks for your offer Amie. I am in Cambridge.

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amie22 · 18/12/2009 20:40

Are you still looking if so wot area do you live in, I am currently a nanny to three children but am looking for a new nanny job starting in Jan as there mum is giving up work. If you want to e-mail me on [email protected].
thanks, sorry to hear you have had so much trouble with your nanny there is nannies out there who are far better and look after your children like they were their own and thats what you need :-D

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 19:35

Have just checked with other DSs, and no present for DS3. Odd that.

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 19:30

Wouldn't have drunk her bubbly anyway.

Just had a nice family dinner with kids sitting nicely, and without her hovering at the end of the table, bulimic-style, refusing to eat but pointing out "Well, I'm sitting here like you asked".

Kids are surprisingly unflustered after the initial wails of grief. They are more resilient than I thought. But as DH said, she has only been here a couple of months after all.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 18/12/2009 17:45

she didnt buy ds3 a pressie but did other 2 or get you a bottle of wine/bubbly eyc

i would have taken chocos back off her and been scoffy boffy and eaten them myself

my bubba is going to love her noisey toy mb db wont

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 17:40

DS1 got a drawing set, DS2 a teddy, DS3 nothing as far as I can tell, nothing for us as mb or db.

I spent £30 on her birthday present (including champers) in her first week!

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Blondeshavemorefun · 18/12/2009 17:31

did nanny - now ex nanny give you/mr boffy or boffets xmas pressies/bottle of bubbly?

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 17:17

Well, she has now gone - we let her off early because it's snowing again and we didn't want her and her family having to sleep in the car if they got stranded somewhere. The kids gave her a small but highly posh box of chocolates DS2 had chosen - we didn't give her anything although DH wanted to go out to get her something, because frankly he is a softy.

We collected the nanny car from the body shop ourselves today as we didn't trust her to drive it back in one piece in the snow. We shelled out the £400 (again because DH is a softy). I have cancelled the magician for DS1's birthday to offset some of the cost of this. It actually allowed me to feel a bit of a martyr, which is quite satisfying.

For Xmas I want a dead fit manny who loves cooking, can drive and who isn't fazed by extended bf and norks flapping about everywhere. Not much, eh?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 18/12/2009 14:57

god yes - want sorching sun to get rid of my snowdrifts!!

mp - you are soooooooooooooooooooo lucky to not have snow

bah humbug

Skegness · 18/12/2009 14:56

"a three hour a day commute and a five hour a day commute respectively in opposite directions"

How utterly hideous. Deep sympathy. I would move!

MilkNoBrandyForSanta · 18/12/2009 14:40

Can we also ask santa for warm weather!?

Oldest charge has wanted it to snow for WEEKS so he can have a snow day as even though we're in london many teachers live outside london...and i snows on the last day of term

Actually am really going to miss them over christmas !

back on the subject! have you had any vaguley promising replie?!

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/12/2009 14:34

mp - no snow

bloody hate it, got a good 7/8inches at home and parents had possibly more - work prob 10+ unless stopped snowing now

milk - not london, cambridge but agree we will ask santa for boffy xx

MilkNoBrandyForSanta · 18/12/2009 14:11

Have been following your posts Boff, can't believe the shit you've had to put up with!!

Are you in london by any chance? have 2 weeks off work for xmas and could come and give you a hand if you needed it for 2 weeks?

really hope you find someone that won't let you down/hospitalize your DC/crash your car/etc etc!!

You really deserve it! I'll put a nanny for you on my letter to santa x

theoriginalmummypoppins · 18/12/2009 14:05

OMG Blondes. We dont have any snow here at all !!!

Good luck snowyboff. Breathe a sigh of releif when she has gone !

FabIsGettingReadyForXmas · 18/12/2009 14:04

Have you bought her a leaving present?

Blondeshavemorefun · 18/12/2009 13:57

is it her last day today?

im finally home -was working thursday/bs last night/this am to 1am - mb tried to make me stay but after being snowed in jan this year when pp for them (and they went skiing in switzerland, yet gatwick shut and couldnt get home) decided lesser of the 2 evils to go home - then have 3dc+woofa on my 4days off

took forever to get out of their drive/down hill/country lane and then couldnt actually get to my house so went via my parents - took 80mins to do a 8/10min journey and stayed there, luckily i still have a key, tho havent lived there for over 10years and crept in and suprised my mum this morning

so i got totally spoilt with tea+biccys in bed and then a fry up breakie - took 5 men to push my car out of their road and finally home with mr blondes

not back at work till tuesday so hopefully all snow gone then

sorry for complete hijack/woffle but you know me boffy+mp

and yes would like to join your gang - hate mulled wine but brings champers and choccy biscuits and mb homemade brownies

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 12:56

Two contenders from an agency and one from Lady ad (who hasn't responded to an invitation to be interviewed so maybe isn't serious).

Luckily DH is home because of the snow so at least I won't have to do the fake jolly all seeing her off thing all by myself.

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theoriginalmummypoppins · 18/12/2009 10:24

Im in........

Any more responses Boff ?

Hope you get something sorted soon.

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SnowyBoff · 18/12/2009 10:01

If we're going to do all this snuggling, we should probably think about doing a Christmas bedpeace protest in the Amsterdam Hilton (like John n Yoko)against crap childcare, with a tin of Roses and a vat of mulled wine to keep our strength up .

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Blondeshavemorefun · 16/12/2009 22:46

awwwwwwwwwwwww that is so nice - thank you

and if i lived closer to you i would help you out if i could xxx

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SnowyBoff · 16/12/2009 22:03

Blondes, if I had one hour a week of your nanny time I would count myself lucky indeed.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 16/12/2009 21:11

tbh boffy no one seems to read ads properly - i get people ringing/emailing me asking if i want a full time job and my ad clearly says thur/fri work

frakkinaroundthechristmastree · 16/12/2009 20:47

Oh dear

Fun is most definitely not part of the job. The job is keeping them alive, safe, well and healthy. If you can squeeze some fun in there then fair play, but half the time it's not fun and people who expect it to be fun all the way are going to be rudely disappointed...

This is the nanny who schedules 'boredom time' speaking though.

sends Boff a lovely nanny for Christmas