Trouble with the CM

Ah, if she only has one child of her own who is not potty trained then she is probably really worried about it and thinking its a much bigger deal than it really is (I know I did with ds1!).

I think if you try a few days of potty training yourself before he goes to her, ie start potty training after the 3rd visit to her in the week, then he will have 4 full days of potty training before you take him again. If he is ready he will crack it in that time. Tbh, if she looks after 2 x 2 year old boys then I can understand why she thinks that keep putting him on the potty might be a big ask.

By the way, my two go to nursery and regulations state that each child should have its own potty (nursery provide them but each one is allocated and labelled for a particular child when they are having a potty training stint), so she may just be following regulations.

I know when I had never potty trained a child, I thougth training pants were essential, but now I know they are not (I sold all mine on the nappy lady ).

Oh and first two weeks with both mine, we only went to very local places like the park where accidents wouldn't matter, and kept car journeys to the shortest possible.

I agree with everything Rosie Girl says. I am quite happy to carry on potty training that has been started properly at home first, over a long weekend or maybe a holiday if possible.

I have been asked to start from scratch and refused, it really is the parents job to start the process and the cm should support this as it goes on.

I think pull ups are a total waste of time.

However parents should remember that most cms have other childrens needs top consider so the child being trained must be ready for it.

I provide all equipment and would only expect parents to provide extra clothes.

She should see it as a challenge then, because I personally feel proud when a little one achieves it, they give brilliant smiles when they see they have done their business, especially if they manage independantly and bring it too you to inspect, and of course you tell them how wonderful it is and how brillant they are, with a pottyfull under your nose!

Is shes worried about changeing car seat covers and pushchairs getting wet why not get some of those pampers bed mat things. I used to fold one up for the car seat and one for the pushchair. They are disposable but would save a lot of washing.

your cm should be a professional and respect your views/requests(yes she is not employed by you but still needs to follow how you do things)

it confues the child to be in nappies and pants

tbh if a child isnt potty trianed within 2weeks then i personally fele that they are not ready - you dont want to spend months doing it

though obv you have the odd accident

I work with the parents as closely as possible. Most of the parents I work with usually start it at home, and have a few days or week "concentrated" effort. I then happily take over and will do my very best to support the child.

You are not overeacting as you feel that your own instincts are being doubted.

Please do take into account that your childminder may have several other small children and it can be quite difficult if a child has had an accident and there is a baby crawling around the floor, or if she does lots of school pick-up's and finds it quite difficult to regularly get him on a potty quickly (especially now its winter - lots of layers). I do try and work out times when I am a little quieter or over school holidays when I am not running around, to ensure continuity in the early days.

The most recent lo I helped potty train, I brought him his own "special" potty (not an expensive one) set up a chart next to it, was all geared up and within one week, he didn't want the potty, he wanted to use the "big toilet" like the other children - even refusing the inner seat, clever chap.

I personally dislike pull-up's don't see the point at all.

i would only have them in nappies if the parents hadnt been doing the toilet training at home for a few days before coming to me but once they had done it at home for a few days then i would not have the child in nappies. the only time i used nappies is when we go on outings at the start of toilet training as they dont no when they need the toilet plus cant keep it in and if your in the middle of a park or on a bus its not the best place to have an accident or take them to toilet. but then again most of my parents if going out shopping or something would put there child in a nappy if they had just started training then you slowly get them off them.
i started a we boy toilet training we use to walk to the school that would take 5 mins in car but 25mins walk he could not keep it in so had to wear a nappy for the 25mins there and back slowly i started getting him to go to the toilet before we left but somedays on the way bk he needed so luckly had a nappy on, slowly he started to last longer ie at first we would be 20mins from being back at house then 15 then 10 then at the top of the street then eventually when he had dry nappies i stopped putting them on him.

i presume he will still have a night nappy but wont be confused by that so it should be fine if serious about toilet training dont use pull ups to replace pants only use them if you intened to use them as a nappy as thats what they feel like for a child where as at least pants they can tell thats not a nappy

im the same as moshie i will continue it once it has been started at home. if however i feel after trying that the child is not ready as they just keep having accident after accident then i will speak to parents and discuss this and tell them i do no feel there are ready as you would be surprised at some parents they just see and age and think they must be toilet trained they dont actually see that the child has to be ready and they think that its upto the childminder to do all the hard wrk as we have the child most of the day where as alot of parents tend to start it while they are off for a few days and then return with the child already use to being taken to toilet reguarly.

i do have a potty but maybe she sees it as a hygiene thing that he has his own also some children will only be happy to use there own potty as it is familiar to them.
car seat covers i dont no where i would be with them as when i last toilet trained a child a didnt drive at the time although it can be a great inconvience if they wet it say on the nursery run and then you need to use the car again for school pick up the car seat wouldnt be wash and dry in time.
i know that i hated it if the child had an accident in the buggy as if we were out there was nothing i could do apart from change the child and try and put a blanket down for them to sit on also same problem again when washing would it be washed and dryed in time. taking pram seats and car seat covers off can be quite hard to do you sometime has to take the pram or car seat apart then build it again.

I'm a CM and always tell parents that I will carry on potty training after it has been going well at home first.
I do provide my own equipment though.

I don't have a CM, so not really sure how it all works, but I would imagine that potty training is something that CM's see alot, and therefore should be prepared to take you ds to the toilet every 20 mins, and change his clothes when needed.

There should be no talk of putting him back into nappies without your permission. You are his mother, you decide, and you are paying her to look after your ds, and part of that is helping to potty train him.

I'd be annoyed with what she's said, so no , YANBU.