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Help! Our nanny has given notice & her last day of work is...today!

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Maria2007loveshersleep · 17/11/2009 16:16

I have already posted a thread here a few days ago about our situation & some of you have given me great advice.

I'm posting a new thread because our situation has changed & I'm very stressed! Our nanny, as I said in the previous thread, told us yesterday that there was a possibility of another job in her previous field (journalism) which meant she might have to resign. She is only able to legally work 20 hrs per week (which is what her new job would be) but offered to stay with us & get paid cash in hand until we find someone new. I don't really want that because I don't want to do anything illegal, but I'm sure she'll come by & visit our DS since they have an excellent relationship.

The problem is, today she did the interview, was offered the other job & is starting...(get this) tomorrow! This means that, for one thing, all appointments etc I have for tomorrow I've now had to cancel. She has given us no notice & I haven't shown my unhappiness to her at all because I care for her, we have an excellent relationship & she loves our boy (and he her). But I feel very hurt & tbh a bit angry mainly because I'm at the last stages of finishing my PhD- submitting in january- (which she knows) & am under a huge amount of pressure, so will have to lose loads of time now to find new childcare asap.

Anyway, rant over. As I said, the main thing for me is to remain on friendly terms.

In any case, I'm now on a mad hunt for a part-time nanny for 27 hrs a week. After all the info / advice you've all given we've decided to offer 9£ per hour net & then to look for a nannyshare after we find our nanny. I feel that with 9£ per hour is a fair price for this area of London.

Any advice on what's the best way to find someone quickly? Any good agencies in North London that you recommend?

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orangina · 17/11/2009 16:39

Our last nanny was going into a non nanny job, gave us plenty of notice, and then the new job insisted she start the next week, giving us 4 days. When she called me at work to tell me this, I remember asking her "are you calling to ask me about this, or are you telling me?"
She was telling me. She didn't need the nanny reference. In fact, I don't think she ever asked for one.

You can't MAKE someone stay and look after your children. In fact, the idea that someone is looking after your children under duress is horrible.

nannynick · 17/11/2009 16:37

Oh no, not good. Pity she couldn't have given you a week or a bit longer notice.

Post an ad on NannyJob if you haven't already.
Look through CVs on NannyJob.
Contact agencies (you could try Eden and LittleOnes) though the cost of recruiting via an agency can be quite high.

alarkaspree · 17/11/2009 16:34

Wow. I would be furious too. What does her contract say? Can't you insist on her giving you proper notice?

HarrietTheSpy · 17/11/2009 16:34

I do think that when you work from home part of the time, childcarers can be more likely to perceive your schedule as flexible - even when it's not.

BusyBeeKim · 17/11/2009 16:33

If you need some help I run Busy Bee Nannies. My email is [email protected] if you would like to get in touch.

Maria2007loveshersleep · 17/11/2009 16:31

I've put an ad on gumtree & other places & am calling agencies atm too. I'm angry but also upset because she's such a lovely person & we've had an excellent relationship for a year. The contract says 1 month notice. It happens that both me & DP are working from home (although DP only a few days a week) so that means we can take time off etc. But what if we were not working from home?! Already as things stand it's hard enough, what with my PhD deadline looming ahead...

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orangina · 17/11/2009 16:28

(oh dear, rather a lot of hopping!)

orangina · 17/11/2009 16:28

(Last nanny did this to us and no matter how hugely fond I was of her, I was HOPPING mad.....)

orangina · 17/11/2009 16:25

have a look at gumtree....

HarrietTheSpy · 17/11/2009 16:24

Do you not have a contract with her? I'd be hopping mad. Is she expecting a reference from you?