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CMs - got to stop having new mindee (all within settling in period) - advice re telling parents........

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looneytune · 09/11/2009 13:48

Hi everyone

I can't believe we're having to do this but we need to get rid (I HATE those words but didn't know what else to call it as not actually giving notice) of a new mindee of ours.

We're in the 4 week 'settling in' period where no actual notice needs to be given by either party. We've not taken this decision likely, will loose lots of money until we fill the space but we really have no choice.

We're trying to decide how to go about it? Ideally we'd tell them at pickup tonight but that's at a time when other parents pick up and others are eating dinner so we're busy sorting all that out. This mindee only comes for half day tomorrow so we could tell them face to face tomorrow at pickup time. Just leaves me with stewing over it all night.

Do you think it would be acceptable to send a notice letter to them once they've left tonight, sent via email (they should go on email anyway as I send a daily diary sheet at the end of every day and they've always read it)? I feel that's wrong because it should be done face to face but it's just bad timing tonight. It's not like they thought about me and my business when they did the things they've done to make me decide to stop working with them.

If I tell them face to face tomorrow, should I follow it up with a formal written notice type letter (although with no notice period as no notice is required).

I feel sick to my stomach thinking about this, I really do. The child is adoreable which makes it all harder but I think it's much fairer on the child to do this now, before they get too settled in.

ANY advice would be great. Feel very

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4kidsandlovingit · 09/11/2009 14:06

Oh and yes put it in writting as well that way you`ve covered yourself from all angles and possible comebacks.

4kidsandlovingit · 09/11/2009 14:04

Hi, obviously I dont know the reason behind all of this but Ive always followed the old saying "do as you would be done by"

I `ve never had to do this myself but I think that from a parents point of view that they should be spoken to face to face.

Put yourself in their shoes, would you like to recieve an e-mail?

If one of your kids was naughty at school would you like to recieve an e-amil about it or would you have preferred someone to tell you. Or if one of your parents was giving you notice would you prefer to recieve an e-mail or be told?

At least if you do tell them you can sleep well tonight and you will probably feel better for it. An e-mail is all very well but what if they dont read it for any reason and then turn up tomorrow as if all is well?

Bite the bullet and tell them. Once its out it the open you can look to putting it all behind you.

Good Luck x

LittleHarrysMum · 09/11/2009 13:57

What's the reason behind all this?