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I need your advice to help me make a childcare decision!!

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:14

Hello all, would appreciate your input on this one.

I have been accepted on a PGCE course starting Sept 12th. We have had a nanny for this year while I was finishing my studies but she is abandoning us for more ££ in London.

I have been interviewing and have found a lovely Kiwi nanny who would live in, for £220 pw. She would work 40-45 hrs, mainly sole charge, some light housekeeping (family laundry & cooking). We also have a place for DS (2 yrs) at a college nursery (9 kids only so v nice), which shuts at lunchtime. So nanny will do housekeeping 2 mornings pw when doesn't have DS.

I will be out of the house 7.45am-5.30pm most days, although some weeks will be Uni based so less demanding. I will also have school hols off. We are trying to negotiate that nanny takes some unpaid leave (she is Kiwi so wants to traval a bit). All in, this option (nanny + nursery) will cost us £13500. My bursary is £6000. DH can make up the rest.

I have now been told by the CHildcare Officer at Uni that the new uni nursery is likely to have a place for DS, but they won't be able to confirm until late July. This will cost £5500 for the year, as it is part subsidised. I have not been able to visit this nursery as they don't do visits unless you have a place there, as they are overwhelmed with enquiries.

My questions are:

If money were no object, what would you choose?
Given that I have looked at about 12 CV's, and interviewed 4 nannies in person and this is the only one we all clicked with, how on earth do I keep her on board until I find out about teh nursery?

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crunchie · 16/06/2005 15:38

Personally if you can afford it I would still go with the nanny option. I know that money will be tighter but it would also be more of a hassle racing to and fro at times. The money thing is personal, £220 for a live in nanny outside of London sounds OK to me, I am also assuming that this is net pay (not gross) I paid a live out nanny less than this (around £200 a week) Also it might suit her really well as you are giving her some additional unpaid leave (I guess in holidays) so she can travel, most familes cannot do this and therefore it could be a real bonus to her. I am assuming you will also give her 4 weeks paid leave , which you have to give her by law.

This woule be my preference as also other factors come into it, what if your son is ill? He can't go to nursery, but the nanny could have him. OK if she is ill then you will need to take time off, but live-in nannys are rarely too ill to work (IMHO) as they cannot scive back to bed with a hangover like a live out one can.

Good luck, if you can afford it, do

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:34

Re illness, I have found with current nanny that she tends to soldier on unless absolutely wiped out. This one seems the same. DS cannot be expected to soldier on through chicken pox etc. Mum and MIL live about 2 hrs' away.

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bundle · 16/06/2005 15:32

gotta factor in nanny being sick too, if someone is sick at nursery, they can get cover.

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:32

soapbox maybe you are right - course tutors told me to expect to be out of the house 8 til 5. but maybe they weren't taking into account how far away the school was.

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gingernut · 16/06/2005 15:31

I'd tend to go with the nanny if money really is no object. What if your ds is ill, for instance: nursery wouldn't take him (e.g. if he has tummy bug, chickenpox etc, and they do tend to catch a lot of bugs when they first start at nursery). Who would then look after him? And IMO, what you'd get with the nanny (i.e. care at home with a couple of nursery sessions) is a good balance for a 2 y.o.

catgirl · 16/06/2005 15:31

Personally, IF your nanny would go for some unpaid leave during school holidays I would go for that option, because as well as drop off/pick up at a nursery you will then have the added housekeeping stuff on top of your studies. In the meantime could you not explain your dilemma to the nursery, begging for a visit?

soapbox · 16/06/2005 15:30

The teachers will be hotter than me on this - but I would have thought if you were on placement you would be expected at school long before 8.45???

I would have thought most teachers get in around 8am and would expect a placement to be in at around the same time as themselves????

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:30

Hi IssyMum. You don't think that I am taking the p*ss with £220? It's just that I nkow that some days she won't need to work all the hours in the job desc, they are just there as a worst case scenario. She really likes us so is happy to drop her salary expectations (which had been £250). I hope that this doesn't mean that she might find it hard-going halfway through the year.

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bundle · 16/06/2005 15:30

i can count the number of times my dd's have cried when i left them at nursery on the fingers of one hand (they both went at 8 mths for 2-3 days). but a nanny would be v useful because of the unpredictability of traffic/placements.

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:28

These are all good points.

Financially, what are treats?! Sorry I dont' mean to be flippant but I am more in the mindset now where as a parent I am more concerned to spend the money on DS. It was a hurdle with the first nanny but now I don't care about new clothes etc as long as DS is happy and I am not dissolving into tears everytime I dopr him off. which is sort of how I imagine nursery.

As for location: It's across town during school drop off times - obviously, as I will be going to schools to do work placements. The schools will be about 30 mins extra drive away, from nursery. So I will need to get him there at 8 on the dot, leave by 8.15 in order to be at placement by 8.45 if I am lucky with the traffic.

Maybe I need to do a dry run of how it would be, with him in the car, at exactly that time of day.

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Issymum · 16/06/2005 15:24

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soapbox · 16/06/2005 15:22

Hi

One thing to consider is how much of a hassle it would be to take DS to the uni creche on teh days you are not uni based. It could be a bit out of your way and add to your travel quite a bit!

Also how you would get there. If its a short journey in the car I think its okay, if its a major treck on public transport then I would go for the nanny option.

vickiyumyum · 16/06/2005 15:19

i think that because of the cost implication i would have to go for the nursery! i would especially like the fact that it is on site with me all day so that dropping off/picking up is easy and if ds was ill not too far for you to go to pick him up.
the nanny sounds lovely, especially the housekeeping part, but it depends on how much money your dh makes and how much you want to spend on childcare! i would look at it as paying childcare from my bursary and having dh's money for luxuries/treats for the family.

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PhDMumof1 · 16/06/2005 15:15

Sorry if too much information btw.

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