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OMG my temp nanny who has 28 years experience left me this note in the diary.......

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theoriginalmummypoppins · 21/10/2009 10:15

' DS was disappointed that no one was able to watch his rugby match today. He said what is the point of having parents if they never come to see me '

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MarshaBrady · 21/10/2009 10:22

It may be in her job description, but your ds doesn't have one, and will still have feelings about it.

Talk to him, forget about being outraged at temp nanny.

kitsmummy · 21/10/2009 10:22

I don't think she was out of order for writing it at all, and think perhaps you're being overly sensitive because it's touched a nerve.

MamaG · 21/10/2009 10:22

Maybe she does everything in writing so there's a record? It could be how she was trained, maybe you're not very approachable, maybe she was in a rush etc etc.

I wouldn't get so hung up on the fact that she wrote it down instead of talking to you, I'd be trying to deal with the ISSUE, that is that your son is feeling upset

Fruitbatlings · 21/10/2009 10:21

"Especially as its in her job description to watch him"

Sounds as though he wanted his Parents to watch, rather than your nanny

hatwoman · 21/10/2009 10:21

on the nanny: I would hazard that that is why she's temping...a kind and gentle word (spoken, not written) would have been much more appropriate.

on ds - it is a very sad thing for him to have said - but on teh basis of the info in your post I can't really comment

Fruitbatlings · 21/10/2009 10:19

aw, poor DS
Well done to your nanny for bringing it to your attention though!

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theoriginalmummypoppins · 21/10/2009 10:19

the fact that she wrote it. With no other discsussion or comment.

the more professional and sensitive way to deal with it would surely have been to mention it in not so strong words and say how she responded to him.

Especially as its in her job description to watch him !!

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MamaG · 21/10/2009 10:19

wingandprayer - - almost same reply there

ShowOfHands · 21/10/2009 10:19

Good on her. Probably better face to face but if your ds said it then it's important she pass it on.

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 21/10/2009 10:18

Agree with MamaG

wingandprayer · 21/10/2009 10:18

What are you shocked about? The fact she told you or the fact he said it?

Personally would want to know if son was making such comments, and perhaps considering if he had any grounds to do so.

MamaG · 21/10/2009 10:17

What's the issue here: the fact that nanny wrote it, or that DS said it? Either way I'd be GLAD it had been brought to my attention so I could deal with it.

Surely you would wnat to know something like this?

Jujubean77 · 21/10/2009 10:17

oh dear!

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 21/10/2009 10:16

Well if it's something he's said why are you shocked at the nanny I would be looking at trying to do more with your son and or talking to him at least.

Ladyatron · 21/10/2009 10:16

OMG!