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I'm not sure I want to be a CMer anymore...

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GwarchodwrPlant · 29/07/2009 18:58

It just gets me down sometimes. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm doing it for my DS and my future DC because it's the only way I can afford to be a SAHM.

I couldn't even think about leaving my DS to go out to work so I probably just have to suck it up don't I?

Are their any other jobs I could do that allow me to be with my son that don't involve the sheer graft and pitiful pay that is minding other people's kids?

Someday's it's great, other days it's mind-numbingly boring and most days it's bloody hard work!

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shoshe · 29/07/2009 19:37

AvadaKedavra I think you are right, most of the good CM's do it as a career choice, (not saying that CM's that do it to be able to stay at home with their DC, cannot do a good job), but those that go into it, because they love being with children, and enjoy the job, 99% of the time are the better CM's

(We all get fed up with the paperwork and 'difficult' parents tho, and most of all we all get FED UP with Ofsted.)

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GwarchodwrPlant · 29/07/2009 19:36

I know! It sounds daft when I read over what I have just written! The kids don't suffer, believe me! If I felt that their care was being compromised then I would give it up tomorrow! I'm a good CMer, I know that but I want to be doing something that I love and that keeps me with my LO but I don't know what that is.

I don't have any money behind me AK and my interests are pretty limited, that or I just havn't discovered them yet! (Or I'm boring)

I love running, I love MN, I love reading, I love nature and walking, I love being at home with DS.

I would hate to work nights, I've been there before and I'd hate to work weekends as they are when DS, DP and I spend time together as a family, providing I'm not working, of course!

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navyeyelasH · 29/07/2009 19:25

Hi GwarchodwrPlant sorry you are having such a downer at the mo. My advice would be to find a job you love doing then it wont feel like a battle. Sorry if that offends!

Could you get a night/weekend job or similar? All children deserve the best and if your heart isn't in it then maybe you should think about doing somethign else as it's bloody hard work even when you do love it!

All the best.

AvadaKedavra · 29/07/2009 19:20

Well that's a pretty big part of the job GP! I think to be a good CM you do need to want to do it for it's own sake as a career choice and not just as a convenience, my opinion is probably going to ruffle a few feathers though!

What do you enjoy to do? Would you wish to stay self employed in some way? Could you build an internet business around your hobbies/interests? Do you have any money behind you to start something new?

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GwarchodwrPlant · 29/07/2009 19:12

Do you know what sammy? I just don't think I'm cut out for the world of work full stop. I've never 'employed' well and am definately better off being self-employed. If only DP could support me being a SAHM then I think I would bite his arm off!

I'm not lazy, I do love to be busy and in that sense CM suits me too. I also love the ad hoc nature of it and the fact it's not a 9am-5pm job.

It's the paper work and the pressure to always be entertaining, and positive and having to plan ahead and be nice to parents and stuff that I don't like.

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SammyK · 29/07/2009 19:07

I left minding and went to work in a nursery, taking DS with me (and getting staff discount and a tiny amount of childcare element). Disappointing nursery though so now unemployed as I resigned!

What parts of minding are getting you down? Is it anything you can improve so that you don't feel as down about it?

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