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So, my neighbour, a childmidner.

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Saltire · 20/07/2009 15:02

You may remember some of the horror tales I have told about her - well a while ago I reported(anonymously) her for leaving under 5s in the house unattended while she was in the garden, leaving them with a friend and for never ever taking them out.
I don't know what the outcome was but she has "decided" to stop minding under 5s.

Today,I heard something which has really upset me, but I'm not sure what OFSTED would say if I report her AGAIN, I ahve a feeling I won't have been the only one to hear this and be shocked by it.
7.15 am I heard what I can only describe as screeching. I was in the garden and she was in her house, all windows and doors wide open.
For the sake of this sstory I shall call the mindee BIll .
"Bill you are being really horrible today, what is your problem are you jealous because it's X(her son) birthday and he got presents? is that it, well let me tell you now you are not spoling his birhtday do you hear me, if this carries on you are going into the garden and you can stay out there all morning till school time.........did you just try to kick me? DID YOU?ANSWER ME> Well you deserve to be kicked back and if I do kick you back it will be your own fault, and if you tell your parents I shall deny it...what, don't you swear at me" followed by me hearing teh child say "I didn't swear" Then she starte dagain "well it's swearing in ym house,a dn if my children said that to me I would smack them, is that what you want me to do, smack you becasue you really are a nasty horrible child and if I did smakc you it would be your own fault for being a jealous horrible little boy and stop whining at me, I don't want to listen anymore LALALAL I HAVE MY HANBDS OVER MY EARS. I@M NOT LISTENING TO YOU,lalalalalala come on everyone let's cover our ears and sing really loudly so we can't hear slefish BIll moaning" and then I heard lots of voices singing alalalalalalalala.
Now I thought that childmidners do not bully, humiliate or intimidate mindees? Thats word for word what I heard this morning. There is a lot of animosity between us and I'm really surprised she hasn't twigged that I reported her last time

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thebody · 20/07/2009 16:41

I would have thought threats like that to a child and that sort of behaviour is a police and social service matter not simply Ofsted. She sounds a cruel bitch and I would go straight to social services, personally.
And DefinatEly TELL THE PARENTS WHEN THEY PICK UP.

LuluMaman · 20/07/2009 15:28

you need to record her if she says stuff like that!! i can't believe she is a childminder

jeminthepark · 20/07/2009 15:24

Good point, but how easy is it to do that?

Littlepurpleprincess · 20/07/2009 15:23

Tbh I wouldn't have listened to that. I would have intervened immediately. I think the best thing to do would be to have gone round immediately, and very calmly, told her what you heard and that you are going to have to report it to OFSTED straight away. Bullies need to be told when they are out of line.

jeminthepark · 20/07/2009 15:19

SALTIRE

jeminthepark · 20/07/2009 15:18

Oh Salyire- just re-read- sounds awful....what can you do then, practically speaking?

jeminthepark · 20/07/2009 15:18

Do something about it- she is being abusive.

Don't feel guilty, she is fucking up children

PuppyMonkey · 20/07/2009 15:17

Can you spy tonight and catch a glimpse of who they are as they take him home?

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 20/07/2009 15:16

Could you get there telephone number of another mum in DS2's class - someone must have it and then give her a call.

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Saltire · 20/07/2009 15:15

Bill is 9/10 he is in Ds2s year 4 class. There was minders own children who are in years 2,3 and 5. Then there was Bill and his sister (year 3) and another brother and sister, years 4 and 5, another girl who is in year 4, and then another set of siblings who go to infant school.
10 children in total. I was shocked, inf act so shocked that I actually told my mannager at work because I just couldn't get it out of my head

I don't know what Bill's mum and dad look like I'm afraid

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littleducks · 20/07/2009 15:13

IS 'Bill' over 5 then? IF so i would tell Bills mum so he knows there is someone to back up his story

That is evil

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 20/07/2009 15:12

How old's Bill btw ? Not that it matters poor kid

shootfromthehip · 20/07/2009 15:12

I would have to be physically restrained if I knew that my childminder was treating my child like that. You need to intervene. Can you record these things if they happen again?

PuppyMonkey · 20/07/2009 15:08

Tell Bill's mum and then both of you report her.

Lifeinagoldfishbowl · 20/07/2009 15:07

CALL OFSTED NOW!! I would also write to them so they have it in writing - As the parent of the child I would also want to know - can you let them know somehow.