Nanny accessing internet to view inappropriate content

I think you lot are making far too much of this post - you obviously don't agree with the concern redhen has for this issue nd quite frankly none of you have offered any support, advice or solutions. Perhaps you ought to worry less what my opinion is and be rather more constructive than critical in your comments!

Urgh, I am getting wound up and it's going to ruin my DIY St Tropez if I get all hot and bothered (that MUST NOT happen or my labour video will be ugly) please don't say anything else silly.

What do the sexual antics of an individual have to do with one's boss exactly? Do you, M369, feel that whether or not you used a condom last Friday is relevant to your boss? Also, have you heard the phrase, lesson learned, or better late than never.

What do YOU think the nanny should do - ignore the possible STI (no longer referred to as STD or STD's as that would be an unnecessary apostrophe) and think 'sod it, I've risked it once might as well carry on in the same fashion'?

Mummy369. Sorry but that is an assumption. There are many, many reasons why someone would look up an STI website. Maybe she is looking on behalf of a friend, maybe has never ever had sex and is merely informing herself and yes, maybe she has caught something at some point. Who cares, it is still nobodies business except hers. And also, if she has maybe caught something and is now making sure she uses protection, then that is a great thing.

People learn from their mistakes.

But then again, some people are so perfect that they never make mistakes.

I tend to feel that if a young girl has some idea what a genital wart looks like, she might be able to avoid getting them. You know, forewarned is forearmed, and all that.

There's only one reason that young girls need advice on STD's and that's if they believe they have put themselves at risk. And don't you think ordering condoms AFTER the event is a bit late?

Back to redhen - I understand your concern and hope you manage to sit down with your Nanny and discuss this with her. Good luck.

What a stupid thing to say mummy369 re what you consider informative. Informative relates to 'information' you numpty!

Might've been better for nanny to wait til she got home/was on a break - which she may have been.

If you would not have minded her buying a pair of socks online while the children were in the garden then you are being unreasonable. if you DO mind her using the internet in work time then you are not. The content of her surfing is irrelevant to this.

None of your business. I'd think she'd be mortified to think that you even know about this and that it would be rotten if you did admit that you know.

Presumably she's an adult, buying condoms is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, as is looking at health information. In what possible way is she therefore risking her health and welfare. Do you suspect she might be having sex in her free time?

Is your garden really so dangerous that your dcs can't be in it without an adult?

i can't believe that you think this constitutes a breach of contract or a reason to get rid of her.

How can you say that looking for advice on STIs, and ordering condoms, is "putting her own health and welfare at risk? Sounds like very good sense to me.

In response to SolidGoldBrass - surely redhen has every right to be concerned? If the nanny's sexual health is her own business, then why did she use the family computer and during working time to access this information? By the way, I consider informative websites to be those that advise you how to practice safe sex, NOT those which describe signs and symptoms of STD's and where the nearest GUM clinic is!!

Are you for real? Both of you? Her sexual health is her business, not yours. The children were playing in the garden while she was viewing informative websites (not Fuckmyjuicybum.com). The only way you could possibly have any grounds to speak to her about this is if you are very demanding in general have forbidden her to use your computer.

Mind you, are you sure it was the nanny not your H who was looking the stuff up anyway?

I've not had similar experience, but I would be worried not only about her lack of care towards the children, but the reasons for the internet search. It sounds like she is putting her own health and welfare at risk and calls her judgement in to question..