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Would you be offended if your childminder didn't invite you to her wedding?

59 replies

LoveMyGirls · 29/06/2009 12:49

Yes or no answers will do.

TIA

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JenniPenni · 29/06/2009 17:14

'By PotPourri on Mon 29-Jun-09 12:56:17
No. I can see why you would feel offended, especially on children's behalf as she will be like family to them. But alas, she is effectively employed by you. I didn't invite my boss to my wedding, and if doing it again, wouldn't invite any of my team either. '

CMs are NOT employed by parents.

JenniPenni · 29/06/2009 17:12

'Would you be offended if your childminder didn't invite you to her wedding?'

Nope, I wasn't invited to a parents wedding, thought nothing of it tbh.

DavidSussex · 29/06/2009 17:06

no

fuzzywuzzy · 29/06/2009 17:02

no

Tambajam · 29/06/2009 16:59

No
I didn't invite my boss to my wedding.

rookiemater · 29/06/2009 16:55

no

thebody · 29/06/2009 16:50

no. wouldnt want or expect to be asked.. professional relationship and not friends,,,

bigstripeytiger · 29/06/2009 13:17

I wouldnt be offended at all, or even expect it.

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LoveMyGirls · 29/06/2009 13:15

obviously the last thing I want to do is offend but also as dittany says I do want the day for myself and close friends and family, I don't want to feel I need to look after anyone on the day, I know if they all came I'd feel like I had to spend time talking with them and entertaining the children (I know they wouldn't expect me to but I know what I'm like, the dc's would want me to play with them like I usually do) I'd also feel uncomfortable about drinking because I have my professional head on when I'm with them. I want to be able to really enjoy and relax and it to be the happiest day of my life.

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Reallytired · 29/06/2009 13:12

no

Its a professional arrangement. Ie. parent pays for childcare and childminder provides childcare.

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LoveMyGirls · 29/06/2009 13:09

Phew thanks everyone, I'm the cm'er and it's my wedding later on this year, I've been minding for the famillies I have now for approx 2yrs and my dp asked yesterday if I was going to invite them and I said no he thought I would really offend them so i just wanted to check what you all thought.

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ThingOne · 29/06/2009 13:09

No.

Tillyscoutsmum · 29/06/2009 13:03

Not at all

dittany · 29/06/2009 13:02

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dmo · 29/06/2009 12:59

i have had 2 parents resently get married i have had their children for 3-4yrs and i didnt get an invite

i made cards with their children for them

weddings get very expensive maybe cm wants it to be her day for exp my 30th i invited everybody but felt like i was nearly working and didnt want to drink in front of the children

MiniMarmite · 29/06/2009 12:59

No

Blondeshavemorefun · 29/06/2009 12:58

depends

need more info

she possibly has 10+famillies and therefore have enough spaces to invite all and partners (extra 20people)

as a cm i wouldnt feel insulted but as a nanny i would if i wasnt invited to the wedding of the parents of whose children i looked after as more personal

MarthaFarquhar · 29/06/2009 12:58

No. But then I wouldn't be offended at not being invited to anyone's wedding .

Hulababy · 29/06/2009 12:56

No

PotPourri · 29/06/2009 12:56

No. I can see why you would feel offended, especially on children's behalf as she will be like family to them. But alas, she is effectively employed by you. I didn't invite my boss to my wedding, and if doing it again, wouldn't invite any of my team either.

theDreadPirateRoberts · 29/06/2009 12:55

No

bamboostalks · 29/06/2009 12:55

know her from Adam.

seeker · 29/06/2009 12:55

no

DebiNewberry · 29/06/2009 12:55

no