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Am I silly to be upset over this?

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hollynanny · 08/06/2009 17:10

I am going away with the family I work for to help out at their wedding. I`ve been working for them for almost two years now.

Theyve booked me into a really crap room at a nearby hotel- it doesnt even have a bathroom attached to it- I need to walk down the corridor to reach the public bathroom shared by a few other rooms. Most of the other rooms at the hotel do have en suites.

I haven`t been invited to the actual cermony or reception either.... am I just being silly and taking it far too personally? I know I probably am...just makes me feel a bit under appricieated.

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thebody · 08/06/2009 18:03

I think it all sounds a bit strange, didnt you know before this that you werent a guest but a helper?
I think you should shore up a few details such as pay and whats expected of you, as you dont seem to be in the loop.
Dont be upset, though I can understand your feelings, they may have no idea you were expecting to be invited.. time to talk I think..

helsbels4 · 08/06/2009 17:29

I think you need to communicate with them and tell them you're not happy!

Maybe you've gone along with everything and they think you're fine with it.

Talk to your employer and tell her how you feel about it all and see what they say.

It does sound as if you're being expected to do quite a lot. Hope they're paying you well!

bigchris · 08/06/2009 17:24

sorry just rewalised you wont be actually babysitting during the ceremoney, yes you are right to feel peeved but maybe they thoght there wouldnt be enough time for you to get ready for the wedding as well as do all the other stuff you have to do?

LIZS · 08/06/2009 17:24

Sounds very complicated , do you know all these kids ? I assume you are being paid and transported back ?

bigchris · 08/06/2009 17:23

well presumably you couldnt be invited to the wedding because your babysitting all those children?!they probably have booked all the nice hotel rooms up for family
does sound horrendous though, can you get out of it somehow, or ask for more money that day/week?

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hollynanny · 08/06/2009 17:21

Will be looking after my normal two for a few hours in the morning, waiting in my hotel till the actual wedding is over. will then be collcted and taken to the reception where i will look after various children till about six, will then be looking after two babies at a relatives house till the early hours of the morning. will also be working thurday, friday, friday evening, saturday, saturday evening and sunday morning, so the only free time i have is thursdy evening.

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Littlepurpleprincess · 08/06/2009 17:19

mmmm the hotel wouldn't bother me but not being invited to the wedding would. esp if you've worked with them for 2 years.

LIZS · 08/06/2009 17:15

Seems a bit tight - what is your role on the day ?

Ivykaty44 · 08/06/2009 17:13

Don't take it to heart

Weddings are really expensive for guests to attend and putting you in a hotle without on suite isn't personel

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