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Nanny - need some urgent advice please

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:19

I need some urgent advice.

My nanny who has been with us for 5 weeks is leaving in 2 weeks. to cut a very long story short she has been unsuitable.

What i am asking about is the following - on my pc in the playroom is 2 log ins - one is the childrens and one is ours. All the children and the nanny know the children's log in and use it to access the internet. I always use ours ( the adult ) log in . Today I used the pc after one of the kids who was already logged in and clikced the drop down box at the top to see whether the site I wanted to access was already there ( to save retyping it).

There were lots of sites there in Macedonain - my nanny's language. Idly I clicked on one and got a sharp shock. It was a sex shop or a porn channel - I couldn't tell which in macedonian. the front page was dildos and pictures of hairy vaginas - I kid you not. I was absolutely horrified as this is in the kids log in drop down box and any of the kids could easily have clicked on it either out of curiosity or by accident ( they like to access fantage which is also on drop down and could easily have misclicked).

My oldest daughter is 12 - this could also affect her fairly badly - to see a page full of dildos and vaginas. I am certain none of my kids found this site ( rather than nanny) due to fact it is in eastern european langauge.

I am very upset and usnure what to do. I am considering changing kids log in tellng them there is a problem with pc so that nanny can no longer access during last 2 weeks she is here. I want to know though how to get rid of the site from the drop down box so kids can't access it any more.

Please help......

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Notquitegrownup · 03/06/2009 14:45

No expert here, but for your next Nanny's contract, it would seem sensible to say - even if she has her own log in - that the family computer should not be used to access sites which contain explicit sexual imagery or violence. Bit of bolting the stable door, but it's best to be clear about expectations, isn't it?

FabulousBakerGirl · 03/06/2009 14:42

I would send the kids in the garden/out of the room.

Tell the nanny you want to show her something.

Click on the hairy vagina pages and ask her what is going on?

Then send her upstairs to pack.

Seriously.

She is entitled to a private life but the fact she has done this without considering the children might see it, makes her unsuitable in my book.

catepilarr · 03/06/2009 14:38

if you are using mozilla firefox and windows, go to tools on the top bar and choose clear private data wher you can choose browsing history.
internet explorer has a similar function but i cant find it now.

willowthewispa · 03/06/2009 13:55

It could have been a spam link she clicked - I've had a couple on Facebook recently that look like they come from people I know, so it might have been innocent on her part.

Blondeshavemorefun · 03/06/2009 13:32

nope still cant find the pron site on either of those address

but least you have found a replcaemnt lisalisa

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lisalisa · 03/06/2009 13:16

I can't log on to it to check addy as I'm at work but recall it as either

www. valentino.com.mk or www.valentina.com.mk.

Dh didn't take it that seroiusly - said she's an adult and all that etc. An IT friend looked at site in detail and said its a sex shop not a porn channel and is going to help with deletion from drop down box. Dh says not to tell her as it will embarrass her and she's gonig soon anyway.

On a brighter note I think we have recruited a lovely replacement who seems more mature, hard working and committed. Current nanny is only focused on how many breaks she can squeeze into the day and in refilling her coffee cup contstanly and checking her look in the mirror.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 03/06/2009 13:08

same here rachieb - i got clothes

maybe nanny is innocent>

RachieB · 03/06/2009 12:14

its a fashion site?!!

and if you add MK after the .com it doesn't bring anything up for me ?!

PixiNanny · 02/06/2009 23:43

I go on ann summers and durex etc on my lappie, but would never on host fams PC?! Why would you?! Stupid woman she is, obviously has a screw loose or something. Tell her that you know what she's been doing and to not do it again!

AtheneNoctua · 02/06/2009 22:34

I think leaving porn on the children's computer is definitely gross misconduct. It also quaifies for putting the children in danger.

But it might be easier just to take the computer priviledges away and ride out the rest of her time.

But, you definitely need some firewall/pron protection on your computer, and that amounts to more then deleting history and cookies. Porn writers are much cleverer than that. You probably still have stuff on your computer. Yuck. I would be seething.

Blondeshavemorefun · 02/06/2009 21:58

weird i got a clothes site

LesbianMummy1 · 02/06/2009 21:52

just let her finish her contract and tell her you are upset don't think you could sack her for misconduct as she is adult but would emphasise how stupid she was

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:48

Pay her? That I wouldn't do ,no as I'd have to bring a temp in and surely that could amount to repudiatry breach of contract? Just not sure if I want to bother .

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:47

blondes =- add mk after the .com. It is pretty foul as you go down - lots of tits and bums naked too. Bloody cow!

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LesbianMummy1 · 02/06/2009 21:47

once saving absolutely anything and I stress save absolutely anything you would need from their log in, I would go to control panel on your start menu then user accounts then click on change accounts and you should be able to remove their log in and create 2 new ones one for kids one for nanny. This works on windows xp maybe slightly different on other windows etc but not majorly

willowthewispa · 02/06/2009 21:47

Is she live in?

I'm not sure if it's grounds for instant dismissal. Maybe ban her from the computer for the next two weeks.

snickersnack · 02/06/2009 21:47

Deleting browsing history should be on the General tab if you're using Internet Explorer...

I would consider that grounds for instant dismissal, I think.

Blondeshavemorefun · 02/06/2009 21:46

guess if she isnt a danger and you have to work - to keep her for the 2 weeks

but if you can survive without her then let her go and pay her

willowthewispa · 02/06/2009 21:45

Have a look round Internet Options - there should be a bit that says "browsing history" and lets you delete. You can also delete cookies, web form info, saved passwords, temp files I think.

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:45

OK blondes - its www.valentino.com. I'm sure its a sex shop having just re peeked. But I still want it off. You have to go through a few pages to get the vaggies but thte dildos and others are on front page!

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:44

And btw - what would you do about nanny? Let her work her 2 weeks out or dismiss her instantly? My take is that she is just stupid rather than a "danger " to the kids - she's entitled as an adult to access these sites - she's just not switched on enough ( or doens't care enough ) to realise that she shouldn't do it on her employer's pc or on the kids log in!!

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Blondeshavemorefun · 02/06/2009 21:43

blonde is brave

waits for site

i will do it on my lappy and not mb

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:43

Ok - so I go to internet options - I've found that (!) and then do what?

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willowthewispa · 02/06/2009 21:42

Do you have Windows lisa? Do you know which version?

I think if you delete everything through Internet Options it shouldn't show up in the browser box anymore.

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lisalisa · 02/06/2009 21:38

If I just keep accessing different sites won't it eventually fall of the bottom of the drop down list so to speak? I don't care about it being on the pc history as long as its not some illegal site. It didn't seem to be - thank god no kids on it othewise nanny would have been out pronto - just a site for adult pleasure - may have just been a sex shop and not porn channel but it was very very explicit for sex shop. I can give you the site addy is anyone is brave enough to check it out.

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