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Would you use a newly pregnant childminder?

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FourArms · 06/05/2009 14:14

I'm just in the process of looking for a childminder for my two DS's. I've had a reply from a lady who lives very close by to DS2's preschool which is ideal, but she has said upfront that she is pg.

Personally I found early pregnancy with DS2 absolutely knackering, and really wouldn't have been able to do anything else.

Aside from standard questions, is there anything extra you would ask a CM who is pg? She also has a 10m old baby. DS2 is 3 in July and (IMO) very hard work, although my mum has said he is fine when I'm not around!

Thanks

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muddleduck · 06/05/2009 16:28

This is really tough one because as others have said in any other job I would go nuts if someone didn't get the job just because she was pregnant. But on the other hand when choosing a CM one of my highest priorities is continuity for the boys so I probably wouldn't sign on with a new CM knowing we would have to move them again in a few months time. The boys were once looked after by a pregnant CM which was fine because they had been with her for a while, but I must confess that I wouldn't start them with someone who was pregnant.

has really made me think though about the double standards when it comes to maternity leave.

LittlePaws · 06/05/2009 16:02

I would use a pregnant childminder, personally I have been full of energy through all my pregnancies, in fact when I was pregnant with number two I minded 2 year old twins without any problems.

Laquitar · 06/05/2009 15:49

Aren't they many women who work when they are pregnant? In various jobs. In offices, in shops, in factories. And imagine if you apply for a job, say in an office, and you dont get the job because they would think that you will take too many days off for your baby etc. I guess in this case we would sream SEXISM and 'what about the father? he can stay home with the ill baby' etc . But whenever someone posts here asking about a pregnant CM or nanny the replies are always negative

FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 14:29

Don't lose heart. There are other Cms.

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FourArms · 06/05/2009 14:28

You're probably right. I imagine that being heavily pg with a 12m old, 3yr old and 5yr old might be a bit much during the summer hols.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 14:22

Depends what you want really.

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FourArms · 06/05/2009 14:21

The baby isn't due until November, so this situation could work until the end of the school summer holidays couldn't it?

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FabulousBakerGirl · 06/05/2009 14:15

I wouldn't.

Childcare issues when she has the baby.

Might decide not to go back to work and then a chnage for my child which might not suit me.