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Cuddles - Should your nanny/childminder or staff at nursery cuddle your child?

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jothorpe · 20/04/2005 10:51

Child Protection is a major thing these days but sometimes it does perhaps go a bit far.

For example, it appears that some day nurseries take the attitude that cuddles are not acceptable in the nursery environment. Do parents really support that view? Do parents send their babies to nurseries that won't cuddle their baby when they are upset?

What about Nannies and Childminders... would you use a childminder who refused to cuddle an upset child because there could be Child Protection issues?

What are your views... should childcarers cuddle children, or is showing such affection to children totally inappropriate these days?

Jo.

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lou33 · 20/04/2005 11:20

First thing ds has at nursery is a cuddle.

UKMickey · 20/04/2005 11:17

This is actually a thread which was started on www.nannyjob.co.uk message board previously & I have just noticed that you have just started one!

NomDePlume · 20/04/2005 11:09

My DD is 3 in August and goes to a private nursery 2 afternoons a week. The majority of the staff on board have been with the nursery since it opened over 10 years ago, the staff turnover is amazingly low. The staff are affectionate (in an appropriate way) with the kids, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

tarantula · 20/04/2005 11:07

wouldnt leave my childwith someone who didnt cuddle her. Luckily havent had to do that yet but when I was teaching I certainly cuddled the infant children if they were hurt etc. As they got older the physical contact obviously was reduced as children could then be comforted by words but small children need the reassurance of physical contact when upset and to not give it moves towards neglecting their emotional needs

madrush · 20/04/2005 11:05

I couldn't leave my child in a nursery where she didn't have lots of cuddles, whether upset or not. Presumably this is some big chain nursery who are going ott to protect themselves from potential abuse claims. The cuddles must be the best bit of nursery work I'd guess!

ragtaggle · 20/04/2005 11:01

I'd be so upset if my nanny didn't cuddle my child. She loves them - asks for a 'duddle' all the time - would definitely refuse to use anyone who didn't think that cuddling my child was something they should do!

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jothorpe · 20/04/2005 10:57

Bundle, nope, just thought I get some opinions as I read this morning over at NJ a thread about this subject and I was quite shocked that a day nursery would tell staff that they were not allowed to cuddle children.

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pinkmama · 20/04/2005 10:55

God, I think cuddles are really important, not just from parents but all their carers. Its really important to me that the children have a lot of affection. If I am not there then I would want the people I trust to look after him to do it.

lou33 · 20/04/2005 10:55

Bundle you beat me to it?

TheVillageIdiot · 20/04/2005 10:55

Of course they should cuddle your child. espeically when some babies are in nursery from 8 weeks old.

bundle · 20/04/2005 10:53

is this for an article?

compo · 20/04/2005 10:53

Cuddling is so important. Would be shocked if they didn't cuddle an upset child. Especially as my ds went to nursery from the age of 5 months