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friends new nanny always on the phone.. should i say something?

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chainstitch · 14/03/2009 14:57

i'd like some opinions please. including, if appropriate, that it is none of my business, and i should butt out.
the children are in my childresn school, and i am friends/acquaintances with their mother. but was and still am good friends with their nanny, who has just finished working with them. the new nanny has now been working with them for three weeks, and i have noticed that she is always on the phone. they walk a lot, and the entire walk, she seems to be chattingon the phone, rather than to the three year old walking paitentlybeside her, holidng onto th e buggy.
also,i have noticed that on the walk back, all three kids seem to be running at least a mile in front of her, including the three year old.
my friend, their old nanny would not have done this. am i feeling excessive loyalty to my friend. or is this innapropriate? should i say something to the kdis mom? or keep my mouth shut, and mind my own business?

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chainstitch · 14/03/2009 18:06

not quite a mile of course, but far enough away, that if the three year old ran off into the road, there would be nothing she could do about it.

crush, i dont know what to say, which is why i am hoping someone else can tell me how.

my friend stopped working with them because it became too stressful for her after teh mom changed her parenting style after reading the book about unconditional parenting, in relation to the older two children.

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FlorenceofArabia · 14/03/2009 15:26

Why did your friend stop working for them?

CrushWithEyeliner · 14/03/2009 15:26

I would find it v hard not to say something but be careful - she may get offended you are undermining her choice of Nanny. YOu have to chose your words quite carefully on this one but I would want to know this info if it were me.

Nabster · 14/03/2009 15:22

A mile in front?

What would your reason for telling the mother?

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