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Is it acceptable for AP to smack a childs hand?

53 replies

NewTeacher · 23/02/2009 10:48

Hi there

My DD can be trying when she wants nothing extraordinarily so, just the usual tantrumy 3 year old.

This morning I heard my DD crying (I was upstairs getting changed and she was downstairs with her brother and AP). Didnt think much of it as I thought she had been told off for not eating brekkie.

When I went downstairs I asked her what was wrong and she wouldnt answer she had a big blob of snot and tears streaming down her face. AP was supposed to have done her hair but has stomped off to kitchen. My DS who is 5 pipes up "Mummy DD wasn't eating her breakfast so AP smacked her".

TBH I was gob smacked and just said "No one is allowed to smack anyone" when AP was in the room. I took DS to one side and asked him if AP had really smacked DD and he said Yes on her hand. I asked DD when we were alone and in the car and she didnt give me an answer.

I'm appalled and dont know what to do. How do I approach with AP? I know my DS and he wouldnt make it up.

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Supernanny19 · 23/02/2009 10:52

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scrooged · 23/02/2009 10:50

Get rid of the AP! Your child will now be afraid of her and there's no way to repair the damage she's done to his tryst in her.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 23/02/2009 10:50

You have to tell her straight away that it is not acceptable.

Perhaps tell her your way of dealing with such a situation.