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Childminders, do you make children share their own toys?

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tooprecious · 18/02/2009 14:58

I have a friend who is a childminder. Today I have been round there with my DS who is 5 (half term). One of the minded children (who is the same age and in my DS's class) had bought a toy from home which he was NOT playing with, my DS started playing with it, the minded child said, no you can't play with that (fair enough that is what children do). However my friend (the childminder), said I can't make hime share that as it is his. My DS was visibly quite upset by this and I was shocked. I never say that children can't play with things because it is my DS's. I now feel that when the minded child comes to my house why should I make my DS share his toys (I would'nt do that as it is wrong IMHO) but I am and about this. I was'nt a special toy like a comforter BTW.

Do you as childminders make minded children share their toys or put them away until home time? Am I being precious?

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ayla99 · 18/02/2009 16:37

I expect mindees to only bring toys/books they are happy to show and share with us. If they don't want to share their toy, it should be left at home IMO. (except for comforters, which go back in the child's day bag when not in use).

With my own children, I expected them to keep the toys they didn't want to share in their room (eg new birthday pressie). Anything they brought downstairs had to be shared.

JenniPenni · 18/02/2009 16:26

We share all toys

looneytune · 18/02/2009 16:05

Same here, if they bring to my house and aren't playing with it then it's to share. Special comforters are usually put away for naptime etc. but otherwise they have to share. Same with my ds1, if he brings something downstairs then has to be willing to share. She should be teaching them to share and this is only going to make things worse!

GiveMeChocolateNOW · 18/02/2009 15:41

Share and share alike IMO, unless it is a special comforter he should definitely be sharing ... The sooner they get used to that the better.

HSMM · 18/02/2009 15:24

If they bring it into the play room then they have to share it. If they leave it in their box, then no-one can touch it.