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Odd nanny candidate ---- or is it just me? All a bit suss...(long sorry)

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henrys7thwife · 15/01/2009 01:41

We put up an advert for a part-time nanny a few days ago. We interviewed a lovely Australian girl (Nanny A) whom we got along with very well but who hasn't worked for about 18 months and seems to need a job right away - which is fair enough I suppose. We interviewed her on Sunday and asked her to email us details of her references on the following day.

She emailed less than an hour after leaving our home with 2 telephone references and an email address for a much older position, one that she left about 4 years ago saying that she didn't normally give out this person as a reference but they had 2 children close together as we do and so she thought it would be relevant. She included in the email that she was extremely interested in the position and it was exactly what she was looking for, dream job, etc etc. We only are looking for about 10 hours per week and she hasn't said definitively what she's doing the rest of the time.

Before we can even check references, two days later I receive an email from another candidate, Nanny B, a bit of a vague response, but basically along the lines of 'I am very interested in your position please tell me ASAP if you have found someone or if I can come for interview, maybe you have someone already...' Odd bit? This is from the EXACT email address Nanny A provided us as the 4-year-old reference contact.

I emailed Nanny A asking about this and she quickly replied back 'Oh sorry, it wasn't xxx.xxxx123@yahoo it was xxx.xxxx1234@yahoo'. Also another spiel about how she really wanted job and could we get back to her ASAP.

Am I right in being suspicious of this? Otherwise we got along with her very well and probably would have offered her the job but her extreme exuberance and seeming need to start literally tomorrow. I am scared to even email the reference...thinking it may all be a sham and her mate or something on the other end.

Where are all the good part-time nannies

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TheYearOfTheCat · 16/01/2009 22:03

Wow, what an e-mail!
Maybe she was in jail during the missing 18 months?

MissGT · 16/01/2009 21:20

I too find it frustrating (tho my employer is well aware of how they play up so keeps out of the way during meals/sleep times which helps loads!)... But either way, this nanny is ridiculous! Poor you! its the whole 'you can't break up with me because im dumping you first' thing!

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/01/2009 20:15

u type quicker than me tankie

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/01/2009 20:14

tbh most nannies do hate mums being at home as the children play up,winge more as most parents wont back up the nanny

tankie · 16/01/2009 20:13

thebody - tbh lots of nannies do dislike having mums at home, I know I do. Can make the job much harder and children often play up around mum when they're good as gold for a nanny.

BumpermightsuetheSindie · 16/01/2009 19:56

Wow, lucky escape for you! What a nutcase!

thebody · 16/01/2009 19:40

just that she said 'nannys hate mums at home' why would that be? odd, sounds like she has stuff to hide, lucky escape methinks!

NewAmazingBeginning · 16/01/2009 18:56

You sooooooooooooooo did the right thing!

Well done you and well done MNers for getting it right!!

Now we need a name to make sure no one else gets stuck with her.

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/01/2009 18:00

she turned you down - you must be gutted - not

thank your lucky stars that she cocked up with email, or you might have hired her

goldenoldie · 16/01/2009 17:40

pat yourself on the back. Just imagine her looking after your children.........

henrys7thwife · 16/01/2009 17:32

bumbling can I ask you what happened? I want to try and avoid any trust-based mistakes I might make (since I seem a bit prone to them!) and any pitfalls in general. Sorry if it's too intrusive of a question.

[nosy as well]

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tiggerlovestobounce · 16/01/2009 17:31

I wonder why she hasnt worked for 18 months

bumbling · 16/01/2009 17:29

Wow she has some ishoos. YOu made the right decision, we had a nanny crisis earlier this year and thought we'd done all the right things. Sacked her after 20 months of looking after DS and another child and really, really, really wish I'd been more sensible and less trusting. I took references but from an existing share who we joined and one other and on reflection I wish I'd made more calls to get a consensus vew. And also that I'd been firmer about how I wanted things done and the info I wanted at the end of every day etc. Ho hum. Good luck and stick with treating it like an employer emplyee relationship.

Page62 · 16/01/2009 17:27

oh my god
what a nutter

henrys7thwife · 16/01/2009 17:21

I know blondes! I didn't expect it from her at all.

I said: "We regret to inform you that you have been unsuccessful in this position. Good luck finding another family."

I got back:

"I regret to inform you that your family probably won't find another nanny. Nannies hate mums at home and I don't think I could work with you even if offered the job. I decided this before you even sent me this e-mail so effectively I turned you down first."

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bellabelly · 16/01/2009 15:05

What did she say? [nosy]

RachieB · 16/01/2009 14:58

OMG cant believe she was rude back to you on email !

sounds a right nutter!

AtheneNoctua · 16/01/2009 12:48

You could reply to her and thank her for confirming that you made the right decision.

jujumaman · 16/01/2009 12:34

Good Lord, just shows all our collective instincts were correct

Hope another family isnt unlucky enough to employ her

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/01/2009 08:58

aussie wrote a nasty email back to you?

FFS - no wonder nannies have a bad name

henrys7thwife · 16/01/2009 00:57

Hi Nappy we are in Southeast London.

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nappyaddict · 16/01/2009 00:37

henry - where are you based cos i know someone looking for a nanny position.

henrys7thwife · 15/01/2009 23:59

Hi, thanks for replies but I already have a lovely temp nanny I've used before and would use again if we need her. I don't need anyone to start straight away, it's a shared care job as I don't work so I can take my time looking for someone. Don't feel so bad about letting Aussie girl down now as when I told her we wouldn't be employing her she wrote back a very nasty email. Didn't think she was like that!!

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wickedwitchofwestfield · 15/01/2009 19:00

whereabouts in south london? I'm currently temping so not looking for a long term position but I'd be happy to help while you look - I also used to work for an agency so would be happy to help with the recruitment side of things too if need be as if I learnt one thing it was to smell nanny BS a MILE off lol (am currently helping out twelveyeargap on this board+helped out SalLikesCoffee recently too )
please feel free to email me on westlondonnanny [at] googlemail [dot] com if I can be of any use!

MissGT · 15/01/2009 16:36

I may know someone? Friend of mine was looking for part time nanny work and is based in south London.. (don't think she has found something yet anyhow). I have seen her in action and she is lovely. If you'd like her details/me to pass on yours please let me know!

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