AIBU to be annoyed that my nanny's phone was off all day so DS was not collected from school when he was sick

skrimbo - dont worry - many do

its def blondes have

not blonde shave

I keep reading that name as Blondes shave more, sorry .

i am a dedicated nanny

i am a dedicated nanny

well blondes that is what i call dedication, bringing you phone to the loo i mean!!! lol

phone is gen in my pocket, so yes has been known to have it in loo with me

doesnt mean i have to answer it

blondes - you take your phone to the loo with you??

there isn't a call in the world important enough that would warrant the caller needing to hear my bowel movements LOL

actually breaghsmum that is excalty what i said - i rang agency and explained what happened and refused to go in the next day till mum rang me in evening and appoligized

what she did - though wasnt a proper appology imo

tbh i felt like not returning for the next day but as i am a professional, i said i would go in for last 2 days (happened on a wednesday) and i did my week for her

You should have checked she had the message.

The other point is, if she was meant to still be working for you, then of course she should have her phone on, in case just such a thing happens.

I do night shifts, and you should have fetched him yourself, then dozed on the sofa/in bed with him.

agree tankie, if i hadnt answered phone/returned call after an hour or so but ten mins

i could have been having a poo in her loo (though mobile would have been in my pocket )

sorry naughtymummy - we have totally hijacked your thread

really how do these people get anywhere in life when that is how they treat the people thay are depending on!! but then again, they probably just blame every1 but themselves. that is a disgusting way to treat anyone, never mind an employee. if it had of been me i would have rang her back and said either come and take your child or arrange for someone else to sit with them because i would not stay.

You can understand the mum feeling anxious that you didn't pick up immediately as you were a temp - but leaving abusive messages like that is so not on!

often wonder how the perm nanny stuck it out tbh!!

blondes - that is appalling!!

www - i had a temp job like that - was there for a week as nanny ill

child had a cold, and mum a bit said to stay in the house - not a prob

child was sick from coughing/flem etc, and as i was clearing up the mess/the child - home phone rang and mum rang to see how things were

i ignored as clearing up piles of puke - she left a message, where are you, rang my mobile, i ignored it (was in other room), she left an angry where are you message, she then rang again 5 times on house phone, in 5mins leaving vile,swearing message of where the fuck are you, i pay you to look after my fucking child, i told you stay in the fuckinghouse etc on my mobile

when i listened to them about 10mins later - i was appallled at the mums behaviour!!

if she couldnt get hold of me for several hours,maybe a slightly rude mess be left, of i asked you not to go out

but 6 rude mess on ansam and alos 3 on my mobile in less then 10mins is MAJORALLY OUT OF ORDER!!!

yes a nanny should have her phone with her at all times/with in reach but there are sometimes when you dont

my current work house has dreadful signal.but luckily my mb is not not weird

i didnt mention dad as op didnt mention them, did school ring dad as well?

i agree nannynick, if she doesnt feel it is a big deal then this must be addressed.

Nanny left the phone at home.
Child slept most of the afternoon.
When spoken with, nanny seemed to think it wasn't a big deal.

Why didn't the nanny get the phone when they realised they didn't have it?
What timescale are we talking from the inital call from school, to the nanny realising there was something that needed dealing with? - I am guessing several hours.
Nanny's attitude towards it wasn't apologetic for not having phone.

It's the nannies attitude towards the situation that I feel is why a written warning could be considered. To me it just came across as though the nanny didn't care... didn't feel it was a big issue. Was that actually the case? Or am I reading this wrong?

Yes phones don't work in areas, are on silent for periods, don't always ring (mine needs rebooting quite often due to it suddenly stopping sound), may not be checked for messages for an hour or two.

But to me it's not the failure to respond to the phone calls/texts that is the major issue here - yes it's a problem but one that can happen to anyone. It's the way the nanny reacted to it - the not thinking it was a big deal, not thinking of going home to get the phone when they realised it was missing.

I may be on my own with my view, but that's just how I interpret things from the information given.

tankie i agree about the guilt.

Nanny shouldn't have forgotten her phone, but sometimes these things happen. I don't think she deserves a written warning - sounds like you might be angrier with her than she deserves because you feel guilty?

its my own fault for blindly taking a nanny/hk role, I didn't actually expect the hk element to be so hardcore LOL

she made me wash every window in the house!! and suggested that I (wait for it) scrub the kitchen floor!
I actually questioned this as I thought that she meant something else, but no, she meant get a scourer and scrub it, on my hands and knees and everything.

I didn't do it, in case you're wondering

sorry for the thread hi-jack

Not the same job as me then.

My god....I didnt realise there could be 2 of them.

Good luck in your new post, I'm well out of mine too.

just the one - its my last working day next week, I shall be upset to be leaving the LO but there are certain aspects of the job I won't miss
LIKE HAVING TO DO ALL THE BLOODY HOUSEWORK REGARDLESS OF WHATEVER ELSE IS GOING ON!!

sorry

How many kids did you have WW?

Sounds all too familliar.

thenewme - well yes, you'd think that wouldn't you

mind you, this is the same woman who told me to leave her child playing on the stairs or 'in the bath' so I could clean the bathroom+do a bit of housework

conflicting emotions there or what!