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God, my au pair/mother's help just kicked my 5 year old!

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 09:43

Obviously I've told her she has to leave today. I'm so pissed off . Just needed to vent

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:40

I think the 'is smacking acceptable' threads are old hat now. Some people might want to start one along the lines of ' I agree with kicking children if they've got it coming. Do I have right on my side"

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ForeverOptimistic · 10/12/2008 17:34

I am sorry my post was a tad sarcastic.

Kicking a child is unacceptable in ANY circumstances. Shocked and saddened that other people think it should be encouraged.

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:33

moston why don't you change your name to mosotnsupports thekickingofchildren?

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:31

moston if you'd really do that then that is abusive shocking behaviour and I would hope the child concerned would report you . I hope you don't have kids(poor buggers)

Anyway enough of the personal attacks on my child, fuck off and annoy someone else

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moston · 10/12/2008 17:31

if one of my children repeatedly kicked an adult at the age of 5 you are right that I'd support the adult in warning them and then kicking them back - absolutely!

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:28

LL is was a clumsy post written during great upset and distress, I could have worded it better. I meant what you said!

Thanks to all those who seem to think dd is the demon here. Hopefully you'd support an adult who decided to kick your dc then? Thought not

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ForeverOptimistic · 10/12/2008 17:28

Oh what a nightmare! Having to manage a large house and look after children over the Christmas period. God life is really tough sometimes isn't it?

cascade · 10/12/2008 17:28

yes that is well known racial divide alot to do with the percieved notions of the slave trade. with one culture feeling superior to the other

wickedwitchofthesoutheast · 10/12/2008 17:27

why in gods name would anyone spend 15hrs a day cleaning a house? are you mental?

also, whilst I don't condone the au-pair kicking your child, how dare you generalise about 'black' people??
I'm a mixed race nanny, my mother is bajan. I've never laid a finger on a child.
you stick that in your pipe!!

moston · 10/12/2008 17:26

I have to say if a 5 year old kicked me repeatedly I'd kick them back too after a fair warning - what a brat!

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:25

I need someone to do a bit of both.

Cascade there were a good mix of west indians and arfricans from many different countries

The Africans and west indians hated each other

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:21

cascade she knows her behaviour was bad , it is very out of character for her, which makes me think there was something else going on.

I've just remembered the aupair going on about pakis now, oh the irony of this all.

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FiveDollarShake · 10/12/2008 17:20

Kittywise. Why are you spending all day cleaning and getting someone else to look after your children? Surely you'd be better off employing a cleaner and caring for the children yourself?

cascade · 10/12/2008 17:20

Kitty what you are talking about (as i work in inner city london) is nigerian beatings, generally by fathers. Which is definitly uncommon, It is probably the same percentage of white/asian/black parents beating their children. Another stereotype of nigerian parents.

MarmadukeScarlet · 10/12/2008 17:20

What perfect children you must all have, how lovely for you.

Even my wouldn't-say-boo-to-a-goose DD has had her off moments and behaved in ways which I have been properly horrified at.

Kitty, what a crappy day you've had. I hope things improve.

cascade · 10/12/2008 17:15

sorry i was making a point that she was making sweeping generalised statements.

I suggest the OP should put her mop down as she cleans for 15hrs a day and starts teaching her kids how to respect adults. id be mortified if my 5yr old dd ever kicked an adult.

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:15

LL maybe it doesn't in your book, however, I am not racsist.
My experience of west indians/and Africans when teaching in London was that they were much much harsher on their kids, much, much stricter.
Many of the children talked about being beaten.

When my au pair spoke about her family, her upbringing etc she spoke of attutudes to child rearing from a cultural base.

She was very strict with them

Of course there are many many shit white parents and many many excellent black parents. However, i understand the culture I was brought up in and would rather employ someone from a more familiar cultural base.
That does not make me a racsist

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SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 10/12/2008 17:11

cascade is that really any better than saying they all beat their children? Is it only racist to generalise negatively? Interesting.

cascade · 10/12/2008 17:09

well if were gonna make sweeping statements about west african people. In my experience of teaching in a multi cultural school, west african students are hard working, very respectful of adults and have a great appreciation of education. This is due to their parents being very supportive and instilling in their children, very high morals and work ethic.

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kittywise · 10/12/2008 17:03

Yes fio, I guess I was unclear in my post. As I said I am not rascist. Would it have been better to have said "I wish, in fututre, to avoid those people with a west African cultural background because it is too different to my own?

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