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Christmas ettiquete

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puppie · 01/12/2008 09:17

Hi Ladies,

I found a thread on here about bonuses for Nannies at Christmas, is this the same for childminders. DS has been at childminder for 2 months now and I intended to get her a Christmas present until I read on here that nannies get bonuses. Of course I would be mortified If I am meant to give a bonus and I dont so any advise would be welcome

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HSMM · 01/12/2008 13:16

Some parents buy for my, some for my little girl and some don't buy anything. No pressure whatever you decide. It never occurred to me that they might want to give me a bonus! I might drop some hints! I could do with a good holiday!

NumberFour · 01/12/2008 09:39

Puppie, the fact that you are thinking about her shows that you certainly would not "get it wrong"! I really appreciate any kind of thank you I get, be it words or lovely presents! Don't get me wrong, I love getting presents, as to the best of us! but i would hate for my parents to feel obligated to buy me anything.

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puppie · 01/12/2008 09:32

Phew! Now glad I came on here as I wouldnt have wanted her to be insulted! She is in to her holistic therapies so I may get her something along those lines. She bought DS a birthday present and is getting him a Christmas pressie which I find quite touching so will definitely get her something. All her other mindees have been with her for a long time so I dont want to be the only parent that 'gets it wrong'

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SKYTVADDICT · 01/12/2008 09:25

DS1 been with his since January and I only realised last night that I needed to get her a present! Hadn't even thought of a bonus! Will be going down the line of wine I think. DS1 was on her list to start last year and she bought him a present and his two older sisters a selection box. She told my mum the other day that she was out shopping for presents and she had already bought DS2s! who doesn't start with her until next April! Think I am also going to have to get her two kids something.

NumberFour · 01/12/2008 09:23

I am a childminder and I would certainly NOT expect a bonus! I would be a little insulted, tbh, though insulted is too harsh a word. Also a bonus would usually be paid to someone you employ and no doubt you have been told ad nauseaum that you do not employ a CM!

I don't expect a present - some of my families do give and others don't. Up to you really.

I don't think any differently of those that don't.

tissy · 01/12/2008 09:21

No. Give a nice present, not a bonus. She's not an employee, but someone whose services you use.