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APs and family holidays

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Bettyboobird · 28/09/2008 13:15

Do you include (and pay for) your AP in your family holiday.

We are just beginning to look at booking our summer hols for beginning of July-she is planning on staying til end of July, but is flexible ATM about staying on longer (although IMO that's too far ahead for her to decide now.)

Should we include her? We would have to pay as she only brought £50 with her and has already spent that on clothes, so the only money she has is what we give her in pocket money. Depending on where we decide to go, it could restrict things quite a lot financially if she came, but I don't like to think of her home alone for a fortnight.

What is the norm?

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Quattrocento · 28/09/2008 19:02

Watching this with some interest as well. Am of the school of thought that AP should be invited but DH most certainly isn't ...

QuintessentialShadows · 28/09/2008 18:59

90% of the time AP was left at home. I would pay her the usual pocket money, as she would still need to eat and live, and it was OUR holiday and not her decision to take a holiday if you see what I mean.

SimpleAsABC · 28/09/2008 18:40

I agree Weegle, as long as the employer is up front with the ap, I don't see why there should be a problem!

Weegle · 28/09/2008 14:38

It depends as to whether we include the AP. We tend to include her on self-catering where the difference to cost is minimal. We include her on weekends away where there is room. However, anything that involves flights we don't. Anything that involves a hotel room we sometimes will offer that she shares with DS and pay her extra for doing the early morning... this means she gets to see a new place, and we get to enjoy a mini lie in. If we aren't going to include her in a trip away we just say upfront and explain the reasoning - usually cost. There's absolutely no harm in our AP knowing we're not made of money and an additional adult on flights, room, entrance fees, food etc is a lot.

stellabgh · 28/09/2008 14:30

I haven't had an Au Pair but no way would I pay for her to come on holiday. I'd imagine she'd like some time off anyway.

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Bettyboobird · 28/09/2008 13:50

Exactly Harriet. If we decide to go to France in a villa for example, then it won't cost any extra for her to come, as we'd travel by ferry. But if we decide to stop off at Disneyland Paris (which we often do) for a couple of days, the hotel bill will be considerably more, ie. double, as she's need her own room.

If we choose to fly somewhere, again, that will bump up the cost quite a lot...

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HarrietTheSpy · 28/09/2008 13:18

Watching this with interest. My family is in the US and when au pair comes, no way we can stump for another ticket at Easter, if we decide to go.

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