Hi all, I posted the other day about AP that won't eat. That now seems to be the least of our worries.
I know Geisha has posted a similar thread, so I'm sorry if this is repetitive, but here goes.
AP only arrived a week ago, so I've been putting things down to settling in issues, but I feel really upset this evening.
Basically, she has sole care of the dc in the morning until they go to the childminder/nursery after lunch. As she is here predominantly for child care (which we agreed before she arrived), I haven't burdened her with chores, I've simply asked that she picks up after the children when she's on duty and on a Monday that she changes the girls' beds and does their (one load of) laundry. Now I think that is reasonable. Apparently not...
She complains constantly about the girls' behaviour, "dd1 was so annoying today", "I couldn't do anyhting right for dd2-she was never happy" But today she really upset me. It was dd1's first session at 'big girl's school' (the nursery attached to her primary school) so she wore her uniform for the first time etc. I was really disappointed because as I was at uni all day I couldn't be the one to take her. I thought about her all day and was so excited to come home and hear how she had got on (I knew she'd already be in bed). As soon as I walked through the door I was bombarded by the AP with what an awful day she had had because dd1 had cried and hadn't been helpful etc etc. When I asked about her going to school, she just moaned that she had cried (dh took her in the end). The childminder has also written in their daily diaries that the girls were both tired and upset today-which makes me feel like such a crap mum having to leave them with child carers.
dh later told me that when he got home from work AP hadn't done any of her jobs at all and the house was in a disgraceful state so he did the girls' laundery and changed their beds, before showing the AP again how to tidy the toys away, clear up after their lunch (the breakfast bowls from the girls' porridge were still in the sink too when he got back with the girls at 5pm) Apparently, she ran out of time, but still managed to wath 2 DVDs this afternoon
We are trying to be nice to her, and I think she is being disrespectful of our children (who are usually well behaved) and our home (which used to be so clean and tidy, and now looks like a permanent nuclear fall out zone-sob!!)
She only works 25 hours per week, we buy her special food which she requests, we cook her an individual meal every night because she won't eat our meals, we've taken her out places, we pay her good money-and still she does BUGGER ALL round the house and seems to dislike the children-AIBU??
To top it off, she and dh are downstairs now laughing away together watching a DVD whilst I am upstairs worrying over this situation.
Please be gentle with me, I'm feeling pretty low right now