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Live in nanny announces marriage and baby plan!

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sus19 · 03/09/2008 14:45

Scenario - Live in nanny announces arranged marriage about to happen and would like husband to move in to seperate accom with her. Potentially no problem with that. Then she says she plans to have a family straight away. No problem with providing mat leave etc but don't want their baby in the house and how can she provide care for children with own baby to look after. What are my options? Should I write and say potentially can house husband but not babies. Want to do the right thing by her but such a mine field.
Any thoughts appreciated

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annh · 03/09/2008 15:14

Oh dear, LEGALLY he still doesn't have to house her husband or the baby but if we assume that he isn't paying all/any of her her tax/NI, then of course she could threaten to report him to IR - it's him who gets into trouble, not her! So she does have a bargaining card and maybe is aware of this. Also if she is not legally employed, she will not be entitled to maternity pay and if he chooses to pay it himself, he will not be able to reclaim it from the govt, which is what usually happens. Of course, she's not actually pregant yet.

On rereading your original post, when you say she wants her husband to move in with her do you mean, she wants him to move in to her live-in accom or she is planning on moving smewhere else with him and becoming a live-out? If the former, I would say a big NO, if the latter then it would be a good time to "update" her contract as live-outs generally get paid more than live-ins.

flowerybeanbag · 03/09/2008 15:08

Even if there's not a written contract, which obviously there should be, the unwritten contract is that the employer will house the nanny.

She can ask for housing for husband and/or future babies, and it's up to employer whether he agrees to all or part of this request. And of course as annh says, there's no obligation to allow nanny to bring baby to work after maternity leave.

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sus19 · 03/09/2008 15:07

He said he is but I think not somehow! Thanks for your thoughts I agree entirely with your POV.

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annh · 03/09/2008 15:04

Hmm ... obviously having a contract would help. He should not have to house either of them, should he choose not to. It is a bit fo a cheek on the part of the nanny to assume otherwise. If the nanny has a baby, they have to allow her to return to work on same terms and conditions as before but do not have to allow her to bring the baby with er, so she would have to organise her own childcare. Do you think your boss is employing her legally and paying her tax and NI?

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sus19 · 03/09/2008 14:58

its not actually me - its my boss at work which complicates it slightly!

No he doesn't have anything formally I don't think. I think he can legitimately write and say I will house the husband (assuming he's not an axe murderer etc) but am not prepared to house the child. I would say that standard employment legislation applies.

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cupsoftea · 03/09/2008 14:47

Where do you stand legally on this? - mat leave yes but housing the family no. Is your contract for a live-in nanny?

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