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Dealing with a child you don't like

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Fadge · 29/07/2008 16:15

I am sure plenty of Childminders here will have taken on children only to find they don't gel, bond, get on, fit in whatever.

There's nothing bascially wrong with this child, I just plain don't like her. I cannot afford to give notice though, so what to do? Any tips on how I can force myself to like her? I feel guilty as sin for feeling like I do
I really work hard at not showing this to her and I hope that it is working, but I find it such a strain and after a session with her I am knacked mentally.

Please tell me I am not alone!?

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Fadge · 29/07/2008 17:08

MGLM - it's never happened with me before, I just cannot put my finger on what it might be that I could rectify. For what it's worth I have been thinking of handing notice, but as I said I need the money, mum is happy with how it's going, the child seems to be settled and enjoying her time here, I just cannot warm to her at all.

I do not let it affect my care of the child, just as I am sure there are reams of teachers who do not like particular children in their class who continue to work with them.

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RachieB · 29/07/2008 17:08

what is it you do not "like" about her ?

MamaGLovesMe · 29/07/2008 16:53

sigh

As a mum I would say I wouldn't want you looking after my child if you didn't like them.

I nannied for years and found it impossible not to like any of the children - their behaviour at times, yes didn't like that, but not them.

dmo · 29/07/2008 16:51

your not alone
i have had this and i dont know what to say as we just ticked along
i dont know why we didnt gel its not like i let them come to any harm but i could not force myself to cuddle the child

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