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Gossiping Nanny - I have been so stupid

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KatieDD · 15/07/2008 22:27

As much as anything I wanted to warn other parents not to make the mistake I have.
My nanny has left because she's pregnant, in a foul mood all the time and her rather dominating boyfried has told her she has to. All fine but she is still working as a cleaner for somebody who's child is at school with mine.
Now for the past few weeks I have been getting odd looks from people at the gates and wondered why.
Well it's all come out today, my nanny has basically repeated all our business, over heard conversations, some true, some exaggerated. She's now not answering my calls, not texting I have had to resort to facebooking her to ask for my house keys back.
Please do not make the mistake I have and confuse a nanny for a friend, I am having to tiptoe around the neighbourhood at the moment.

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QuintessentialShadows · 15/07/2008 22:55

Katie, dont worry she is digging her own grave. Who will employ somebody who is spreading gossip about her employers? I would approach the person you know at school and ask her if she is comfortable with employing somebody who is so lose in her mouth.

A nanny with a lock on her mouth is hard to come by, I think. And you have perhaps been a little naive. A paid help is just that.

My last au pair told me how she was shocked that when the group of nanny / au pair friends met up, they were all discussing the private business of their employers. Some even made a point of finding their bank statement and had pleasure in disclosing salaries, and other outgoings.

One nanny, who I shared with a friend, was "confiding" in me about my friends parenting techniques, and other personal business.

The thing is, such behaviour scare people off from employing you!

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KatieDD · 15/07/2008 22:50

I agree but that doesn't help me and as she's pregnant anyway she doesn't want/need another job.
Little minx, I wish I could think of a way of shutting her up.

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stitch · 15/07/2008 22:40

how completly horrible for you
tbh, if she is talking abotu you like this, she wont keep her cleaning job for long either.
discretion is possibly more important than the ability to wipe a bathroom sink

and she wont get a nanny job with anyone who has heard her gossip either.

eandz · 15/07/2008 22:29

ohh, this is why i only employ non english speakers. theyre cheaper and my secrets are safe.

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KatieDD · 15/07/2008 22:29

I should also add that I thought we'd parted on good terms, she's been back to visit and cried the day she left

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