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leaving present for my nanny

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beforesunrise · 08/07/2008 12:10

hi all- my nanny is leaving at the end of the month after two years with us. she's been v good and reliable and my daughter has grown v attached to her. i would like to give her a leaving gift, any ideas? she is really not into clothes or accessories and i don't want to buy something hugely expensive, just a token that will make her remember us and our dd. any ideas? thanks!

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DarrellRivers · 09/07/2008 17:27

no jura, but just it had never occurred to me

jura · 09/07/2008 16:47

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DarrellRivers · 09/07/2008 14:52

yes, iamananny, she is part-time so the 2 days paid holiday will be the same as her redundancy payout, it is not less, so rephrasing it redundancy does not short-change her

I have been a good employer, but having been employed most of my life within the NHS on fixed term contracts, have never had the luxuryinsurance myself of a redundancy payment.
I understand where you are coming from about her entitlement, but I was essentially giving her the payment anyway.

imananny · 09/07/2008 14:31

true, even after a few months children get attached to their nannys/child carers - so even if the child has only had nanny for a year - sure they will love and miss her - till the next one comes

that is the downfall of nannying, often the childs memory of their nanny will dissapeer as the years go on - the nanny doesnt forget the child though - children are fickle!!

pmsl at your reasoning of mummys stay and nannies go

AtheneNoctua · 09/07/2008 14:21

Yes, Imananny, I'm well aware of the downside of a high nanny turnover. However, I selfishly like that it has taught them that nannies leave and mummies stay. Seriously though, the more nanny changeovers we have the more routine it becomes for the kids and for me. It's much more traumatic when a nanny you've had for 5+ years leaves.

itati · 09/07/2008 14:13

Nothing I can do about it now. They were fab employers so it doesn't worry me tbh.

imananny · 09/07/2008 14:07

itali - if your job came to an end and you were there over 2years then you should have got redundancy

athene - under 22 get 1/2 a weeks wages per year - and no if you only have a visa childcarer for a years contract then you dont have to pay anything, though it also means your children get through a lot of carers - rather than one nanny who might stay from birth to school age - although no guarantee they will

AtheneNoctua · 09/07/2008 13:21

I think how much pay she is entitled to is also dependant on how old she is.

Another reason to hire a holiday visa nanny -- she can only work for 12 months and you don't have to fork out any redundancy.

itati · 09/07/2008 13:17

I was never paid redundancy money when my jobs finished. Reasons were - family moving away, mum giving up work. Leaving present wise I have been given lots of different things.

imananny · 09/07/2008 13:14

suppose you could rephrase the pay from holiday to redundancy - she deserves and is legally entitled to up to £330 or less if to match her weekly salary

jura - a weeks salary is more than enough for a temp position - would never expect a bonus in a perm job let alone a temp one

darrelrivers - if you were in a job for over 2 years you were legally entitled to payment - its nice of you to give her generous holidays/birthday/christmas etc but your nanny does LEGALLY deserve the money

DarrellRivers · 09/07/2008 12:21

well, she was getting a few days extra holiday (at the end of her notice period) as goodwill so I shall retitle that redundancy pay

AtheneNoctua · 09/07/2008 10:02

www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/Employees/RedundancyAndLeavingYourJob/DG_10029836

AtheneNoctua · 09/07/2008 09:57

Sorry be the bearer of bad news, but I think you have to pay her redundancy (unless you wrote a fixed term contract).

DarrellRivers · 09/07/2008 09:41

2.5 years

AtheneNoctua · 09/07/2008 09:28

Darrell, how long has she worked for you?

DarrellRivers · 09/07/2008 09:16

crikey, I'm not paying her redundancy money
I've never had a redundancy pay out myself, she had generous holiday and sick leave, plus christmas and birthday bonuses, and I will buy her a lovely pressie to remember her by, plus we gave her about 8 months notice of when her job would be ending.

imananny · 09/07/2008 07:46

jura - yes really

Im a good nanny, and stay in my jobs for years - and normally leave them as children ago to school, or famillies move miles away, so i get made redundant, so yes I normally get a 4/5 weeks redundacy money AND a months bonus as well

The bonus is always a suprise but i EXPECT and DESERVE the redundacy pay off - just as if any of you lose your jobs after 5 years, you would get money

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bonnibaby · 08/07/2008 22:37

I once got a silver bangle engraved with "thankyou,love from X"
Thought it was a lovely keepsake,

imananny · 08/07/2008 19:29

i have got in past photoframe from every job of charges and I

normally get jewelley (though not tiffanys) earings/bracelet etc

clocks, more photoframes,perfume,kettle ( had just moved in to our house) and normally get a months salery as a thank you bonus

nannynick · 08/07/2008 18:43

I don't get Tiffany presents. I get things like, champange, chocolates, photos of the children.

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beforesunrise · 08/07/2008 18:25

ok- it aint gonna be tiffany's, not only it's way above my budget but i really doubt she would appreciate it! i think i will go for picture frame with a pic of my dd (i suppose she can always take dd's picture out...). plus a really cool swiss sports water bottle to replace the rather grotty bottle of evian she keeps refilling.

thanks everyone!

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sophy · 08/07/2008 17:11

Love that turquoise box.

I was given a Tiffany bracelet as a leaving present when I was an au pair in New York 25 years ago, and still wear it.

lindseyfox · 08/07/2008 16:55

why not a lovely photo frame one of those big ones and get pics of your daughter and make a collage in the fram of all the photos.

AtheneNoctua · 08/07/2008 16:48

Does everyone give Tiffany presents to their nannies when they leave??