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Is it reasonable for our nanny to bring her mother along?

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NannyQ565 · 28/06/2026 15:07

Hello all!

Our nanny comes from a different city and her mom is due to visit soon. She has asked whether her mom can come with her while she is looking after our daughter one day at the end of her trip, so that she can show her the area. The idea is that the mom comes to our house and accompanies the nanny/our daughter when they go on their trips for the day.

The nanny is very kind but we have some problems with expectations/laziness perhaps and I don't know whether this is over stepping the mark and taking advantage (I of course would never take a family member to work with me) or if this is nice and something that is appropriate within the unique role of a nanny.

All thoughts welcome!

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Igmum · 28/06/2026 15:43

It’s one day so shouldn’t be a massive issue for either of you whether you agree or disagree. If it works well your DD will get the attention of two adults, if badly the adults will be preoccupied with each other. Your call.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 28/06/2026 15:42

NannyQ565 · 28/06/2026 15:32

Concerns are that she will be distracted / not paying attention to the child and that our daughter won't feel comfortable with a stranger being around her and probably engaging all day.

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These would be my concerns.
You dont take your mother to work.

I'd give her a simple choice...

She can take the day unpaid or as a days paid annual leave and spend it with her mother....
OR She can come to work...

NeighbourProblems3 · 28/06/2026 15:41

I’d consider it if I knew the nanny for a long time, but I’d ask what the plans are for the day to see if it’s child friendly and I’d also make her confirm to me in writing that the mum will not be left alone with my child.

catslovehairties · 28/06/2026 15:39

I can’t see an issue with this, but then again I’m a dog walker and my mum often comes to work with me 😂

Bobbybobbins · 28/06/2026 15:37

I think for one day I would say yes but mother is not to be left alone with the child.

WorkCleanRepeat · 28/06/2026 15:37

This wouldn't bother me at all

secon · 28/06/2026 15:36

Weird.

I’d insist that any adult working with my child would need a full DBS check or no way.

DidntLikeTheEnding · 28/06/2026 15:35

It's one day. I'd be happy to allow this.

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NannyQ565 · 28/06/2026 15:32

HelpMebeok · 28/06/2026 15:14

as long as the nanny was doing child related activities I wouldn't mind.
What are you worried about?

Concerns are that she will be distracted / not paying attention to the child and that our daughter won't feel comfortable with a stranger being around her and probably engaging all day.

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Mumof1andacat · 28/06/2026 15:23

No. This is work so should not involve bringing family along.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 28/06/2026 15:20

No. She’s at work.

MrMucker · 28/06/2026 15:18

HelpMebeok · 28/06/2026 15:14

as long as the nanny was doing child related activities I wouldn't mind.
What are you worried about?

Well if nanny's mum is there to explore the area then nanny and her are likely to be chatting about it. DC gets less attention, perhaps becomes an accessory to nanny and mum having a nice day out.
I mean, that's not really what you're paying for.

HelpMebeok · 28/06/2026 15:14

as long as the nanny was doing child related activities I wouldn't mind.
What are you worried about?

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePleaseBarista · 28/06/2026 15:11

I don’t think I would feel comfortable with this but that could just be me. I know the due diligence done when organising childcare and I’m afraid I wouldn’t know this woman, have a PVG for her etc so it would be a no. Should the nanny wish to take annual leave I would try to be accommodating.

MrMucker · 28/06/2026 15:11

Erm, no.
Who takes their mum to work with them?

However, you could chat about it and find out whether there might actually be added value in it for your child. Eg one of them has your child on a swing whilst the other one runs around to see where the nearest public loo is for when needed. That sort of teamwork.

Your brief description of nanny doesn't really steer things in that direction.
. It's your call

lightand · 28/06/2026 15:09

If I trusted the nanny enough I would allow it.
It is a big ask though. In my opinion.