Parent gone AWOL

My c/minder is very well paid. She has my ds 5 days a week from 12 to 4 and my dd 4 days a week from 2 to 4 & she gets paid £180 a week.

I would never in a million years dream of making her wait for her money. Even if I know the kids aren't going to be there on a Friday I pay her on the Thursday.

I think it's extremely bad manners for her not to have called you & explained why her dd wasn't with you on the arranged days.

I really appreciate my c/minder & reading this thread makes me realise that the relationship we have is a very good one!

Hi Kew.

I can;t beleive parents treat the person who looks after their child like this

Jeez, this woman is horrible. I'd cancel the contract as soon as I found someone else to take her place.

I think, sadly, that a lot of people don't see child minding as a proper job as it is generally not very well paid and they think the people who childmind do it for pin money; therefore no biggy if they pay late.

pink chick good point - am reading this and am genuinely shocked that people are treating you like this. As you say -no nursery would put up with this so why shoudl you?

right girls, i think we need to sort out our policies..DRUM them home when intervew=iwing new aprents and the least little sniff of disregard, pullt hem straight away!..we succesfully run our own business' for gods sake!

Sue9398 I know exactly what you mean! One of mine always says can she pay me a bit late because she is "skint" Yet, if her work paid her late she would really kick off wouldn't she?! And then her DS turns up at mine wearing a new pair of Clarks trainers at £35 a go that she 'just couldn't resist' as she puts it Grrrrr
I do think it is a total lack of respect and they think we do this job for a bit of pocket money while our husbands go off and earn the real money!!! This particular mum is also bad at not turning up with barely any notice..... Thank god I start maternity leave in two weeks!

this realy makes me so (angry) one of my parents asked if she could pay me next week instead of this week as she could not afford to pay and that i have got a husband so i don't need to be paid of cause i said no pay me this week

Because they think we sit on our backsides all day. The fact is that I only got into childminding because then I can look after my disabled son.

I am also in the same position, and it is no comfort that I am not alone, in fact it makes me really . Why do people do this?

Hi, if it makes you feel a little better i'm in a similar situation. I have 2 mindees 2yr old and 6yr old, Mon-Thurs. Thursday before half term week mum told me that she wouldn't need me on Tuesday & Wednesday, so because she didn't give me any notice I charged her full price. When she dropped the mindees off this Thursday she told me that she didn't think this was fair and thought that she would only be charged before/after school hours for 6yr old. I explained that in the contract we never agreed term time only or adhoc days during holidays. Then she told me that she will be sending 6yr old to a club 1/2 days week during summer holidays (Do I charge for these days?). To add to that she only gave me 3 days notice of a holiday during the last easter break, so out of good will I only charged half fees. I'm wondering whether to stick to my guns on the latest headache or find a compromise, any advice?

Ps. I did also point out to her (in a fairly nice way) that I can't afford to be messed about like this, I have bills to pay aswell.

guess shes not been back then..why take the P**s..so annoying for you

two weeks ago i had the friday morning off work cause mondee was sick so i nipped to the doctors then to town rushed back threw a butty down my neck and rushed to music class where i meet 2 mindees (they come 1pm till 6pm mondays and fridays) i waited and waited and got really worried after half an hour so ran home and phoned their home (no answer) so phoned their works (was told dad was not at his desk) decided their must have been an accident and was quite worried
at 5pm mum phoned (after seeing missed calls on the mobile) to say she was so sorry she forgot to tell me they had gone away for a long weekend
was so cross but monday afternoon a bunch of flowers and chocs arrived with the children along with a list of hols they were takin

So did she come back yet?

Hi...do you know she's just on hol, or could something ahve happend and shes taken emergency hol(ie something ahppend in family?), careful not to jump in if you dont know for certain, but if you do, then bill her for this past week, send in it a copy of contract with hol notice highlighted and tell her the amount for this week should be received by you in cash no later than x day, also say that until you hear otherwise you will continue to send invoices and alert her to her contracted termination terms(ie notice period) good luck..been there, done that..won!

Ok, they only need to communicate once.

SHe is ou of line. Aside from the financial/business side, it's just plain inconsiderate to not tell you she is not showing up. What if you were on the phone to the police because you were worried something terrible had happened to them (say a car crash)?

I can't stand people who don't have enough common courtesy to take 20 secondds to communicate communicate.