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First time employing nanny - need to ask if I should pay nanny for drop-in groups?

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greenday · 28/05/2008 12:48

Firstly, to everyone who responded to my previous thread about finding childcare, just wanted to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH!! I've learnt a lot and this has enabled me to find a nanny that I am comfortable and confident about.

Today is my first day at work (yes, typing this at lunchtime and in secret!!) ... my nanny has taken my DD and DS to music playgroup this morning.

Not sure what the protocol / ettiquette here is - should I pay for it? She has her DD with her so I think she was planning to go anyway for her DD.

Thanks!

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AtheneNoctua · 28/05/2008 13:03

Oh, then I'd give about £5/day. Some days will be more. Some less. Should balance out.

AtheneNoctua · 28/05/2008 13:01

Oh, and you mentioned she has a daughter. You should not be expected to pay for the daughter.

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greenday · 28/05/2008 13:00

Wow, Athena.., that's quite a lot, but I guess with a live-in nanny in London, that's the deal. I'm only working one-day-a-week though ...
Thanks for giving me an idea of costs.

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greenday · 28/05/2008 12:58

THANK YOU ... that's great advice, and great idea about nanny purse/box with notebook. xx

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AtheneNoctua · 28/05/2008 12:58

I think you should give her a reasonable amount to spend on a monthly basis. You should pay for the activities she takes your kids to, but she should not be given free reign to dent your account as much as she likes. I have a live-in nanny and she gets each month:

£70 to spend as she likes
A Greater London bus pass
£30 towards her mobile phone
I pay for all prearranged activities (tennis, ballet, etc.)
Anything else they do (i.e. drop in play groups, trip to zoo, transportation outside the bus pass, etc. is to come out of the £70)

I also give her a membership to the gym where the kids take tennis. This is not a required extra for a nanny. I do it because I want a nanny who is interested in a healthful lifestyle so I use a gym membership to attract that sortr of person to the job.

Anna8888 · 28/05/2008 12:52

Have a little box with a notebook and some petty cash in it. Nanny can take out cash as she needs it and note down what she spends.

Tutter · 28/05/2008 12:51

yes you should pay for all her out-of-pocket expenses

same as any employer woulkd

Whooosh · 28/05/2008 12:51

Should definitely pay for any activities your DD attends.
You may find it easier to put say £20 a week in a "nanny purse" to pay for any activities/drinks when out etc.

Anna8888 · 28/05/2008 12:50

Yes, of course you should pay for everything she does with your children.

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