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Bites on 2 year old legs childminder

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nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:18

I wonder if anyone can advise? My daughter has just discovered my 2 year old granddaughter's legs have been bitten by another child from knee to ankle about 7 or 8 bites in all. She has photos. Nothing was said at pick up. The childminder appears to be playing it down. What is her next step?

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nightcapers · 21/02/2025 22:29

That's what we can't understand why she didn't cry as that is what we were told. The biting child was removed from her once but then must have gone back for more as after the first time there were no marks. A meeting has been arranged.

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PrincessScarlett · 21/02/2025 20:54

One or possibly two bites would not warrant concern but 8 bites indicates a complete lack of supervision. If you see a child bite you intercept and remove the biter. Did the childminder say your GD didn't cry at all or is it a case of them not seeing or hearing her cry because they weren't there?

Donimo · 21/02/2025 08:58

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 22:27

She came out of the childminders perfectly happy no distress at all. After further discussion it appears this happened during rough play in the garden area. The childminder was not present but another member of staff was. They checked my granddaughter after observing her getting bitten one time but there were no marks. After that she wasn't checked. I truly don't think they would have sent her home like that without knowing

Another thought was it actually staff/adult that observed it? Was there an older child whom she had left supervising? As it is half term. Ask to speak to the staff who observed it too

Donimo · 21/02/2025 07:18

This 100% needs reporting. 8 bite marks means a complete lack of supervision. I have twins whom used to occasionally bite each other and love rough and tumble play with each other. The worse they have ever bitten is twice before I have managed to intervene. And that's with me being in a different room cooking dinner. But I heard them and ran in. In that time 1 twin had bitten twice. I only realised it was twice that evening when changing for bed as it can take a little time for the marks to show.

When I took them to nursery the next day I explained what had happened to nursery and they had to fill in paperwork and have me sign it for them to report the bites.

So there is no way your granddaughter could be bitten that many times if she was being supervised. Also the child minder should of completed paperwork about it and discussed it with parents and showed them this paperwork at a minium at pick up. But for something like this I would actually expect a phone call at the time of the incident.

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 22:35

No nothing like that. It's so clear it's a child's mouth.

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SchoolDilemma17 · 20/02/2025 22:30

Definitely no pet in the house? New puppy?

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 22:27

She came out of the childminders perfectly happy no distress at all. After further discussion it appears this happened during rough play in the garden area. The childminder was not present but another member of staff was. They checked my granddaughter after observing her getting bitten one time but there were no marks. After that she wasn't checked. I truly don't think they would have sent her home like that without knowing

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Notgivenuphope · 20/02/2025 22:26

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:30

Thank you @SchoolDilemma17. We are just in shock as the little girl was so happy there. Both little legs from knee to ankle. How.on earth has that happened? The childminder is saying she fell on a baby!

What a load of bollocks. The lie would bother me more than the biting itself.

Hollyhedge · 20/02/2025 22:25

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:18

I wonder if anyone can advise? My daughter has just discovered my 2 year old granddaughter's legs have been bitten by another child from knee to ankle about 7 or 8 bites in all. She has photos. Nothing was said at pick up. The childminder appears to be playing it down. What is her next step?

The most concerning thing is childminder playing it down. I had some issues with a childminder and the deciding factor was a dismissive attitude. I would find a new setting asap

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 22:23

@1SillySossij We did consider this yes but it seems unlikely since she has never been observed doing anything like this before. We are puzzled by the lack of crying but she is a very stoic child

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AyeDeadOn · 20/02/2025 21:55

This in itself is absolutely awful, but when I think of what could have happened if your child was so poorly supervised that no one heard the screaming and crying that MUST have happened when she was bitten.....Please report this to ofsted. God only knows what could happen next time.

SchoolDilemma17 · 20/02/2025 21:48

Anon501178 · 20/02/2025 20:48

Surely dog bites wouldn't look anything like human ones though? :-/

Definitely visit the doctor.
Definitely keep the photos & contact OFSTED.
Definitely change childminders.
The fact that she has been defensive and dismissive rather than mortified and apologetic is a big enough red flag to never go back.

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snowlady4 · 20/02/2025 21:47

How awful.
I wonder is there any chance they could have been caused by some sort of toy? Or maybe bitten herself as pp said? It seems very strange to have 7 or 8 bites on the legs. No other bruises anywhere else on her- you'd think id she was being repeatedly bitten on the legs she'd be trying to get away?
I hope she's ok and you figure it all out.

SchoolDilemma17 · 20/02/2025 21:47

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:30

Thank you @SchoolDilemma17. We are just in shock as the little girl was so happy there. Both little legs from knee to ankle. How.on earth has that happened? The childminder is saying she fell on a baby!

So so awful. I am so so sorry for your GD. I would be upset by one bite but multiple makes me wonder if the childminder left the children unsupervised. Is there a pet in the house? I couldn’t send my child back there.

discdiscsnap · 20/02/2025 21:45

Agree report it and see gp and don't return. If she had been apologetic and had a reasonable explanation I'd maybe let it slide but her reaction is appalling and how did she not realise it was happening??

Nurseryhuntingmum · 20/02/2025 21:41

Please please report this & go the the GP first thing in the morning. So many bites mean that she was left on her own with a child ( if it’s child bites ) and she wasn’t supervised at all

1SillySossij · 20/02/2025 21:40

7 or 8 bites!! It seems very weird that after 1 or 2 your dd would not have been creating merry hell and screaming the place down, or at least moved away. Is she supple enough she could have bitten herself

Wallacewhite · 20/02/2025 21:36

Contact your local Children's Services department and ask to be put through to the LADO, the fact this was allowed to happen is bad enough, but her then down playing it is even more worrying. It's likely they'll be seriously concerned about the judgement of this childminder and whether any other children in her care have been harmed.

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 21:33

Thank you everyone for your messages and advice. Yes my daughter has spoken to the childminder and they are having a meeting. Fortunately the little girl seems to be in no discomfort and is all tucked up bless her. Thanks again.

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lechatnoir · 20/02/2025 21:25

I would call the Childminder back and make it crystal clear that this isn't going to go away and the sooner she is honest about what happened the better outcome for her. Ask about her formal complaints procedure & reporting concerns to SS, Mention pote Italy escalating to the police & most definitely mention Ofsted.

At this stage, I'd want to know what had happened and I think you're more likely to get this if you confront her calmly now .

Exploringtheworld · 20/02/2025 21:19

This happened to my son before he could walk (and get away). It was awful, he needed plastic surgery to sew his ear back together. Another child from a different childminder, a known biter, caused it. My son needed Hep B vaccinations too. The hospital reported it to the police who investigated and the childminder lost her OFSTED licence (or whatever it’s called). I don’t know what happened to the other childminder but hopefully the same thing. Please make sure you take your child to be checked out and report it.

SerenStarEtoile · 20/02/2025 21:02

Hi OP

I’m really sorry your grand-daughter doesn’t appear to have been well looked after by the child minder.

If you look up “Caring for children in an Early Years setting” there is government guidance.

I think you are supposed to contact the Local Authority LADO to report so that they can investigate, while your childminder should be notifying OFSTED and reporting the incident/s. They will then act to assure themselves that the child minder dealt with/acted appropriately.

I think a GP appointment is a good idea if the legs are still marked.

Hopefully, your daughter can speak with LA tomorrow.

It may be that the child minder thought the children were “playing “, but it does seem as though supervision has been inadequate.

doitforyorkshire · 20/02/2025 20:56

remove child from childminder with immediate effect

take child to be seen by a dr who can document the marks. i would personally contact children's social care and self refer and ask for a child protection medical assessment. reason i'm saying this is it takes an expert to determine the difference between an adult and child bite. a small bite can still be caused by an adult depending on how their teeth are set and the mechanism of the bite. this could be a much bigger safeguarding issue than it first appears and early professional intervention is key to protect other children in the setting. at best this is a significant lack of supervision.

report to ofsted.

nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:54

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon you can see a clear round little mouth

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nightcapers · 20/02/2025 20:52

@littleluncheon No all she said was 'it happened' she's only just turned two and is a very laid back happy little thing.

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