Denying Access to My Child

I agree with this, you’re acting like you had no choice which is just bullshit.
im sorry it’s so difficult with your ex now but some degree of responsibility has to be taken for hurting your daughter. She shouldn’t be withholding contact.

Weird how you could manage to arrange a 2 week foreign wedding abroad, arrange a fake party at home for a consolation prize, but couldn’t just arrange a normal real ceremony also at home. Are you trying to kid us, or yourself?

EOW is not shocking. Lots of separated parents have this. It would be usual to have the child once in the week but distance means that's not possible I guess.

OP - you'd have her every weekend and let her mum just do all the shit school nights and homework etc? And you could have squeezed in a civil ceremony locally plus dinner at any point. Taking two weeks to do it abroad wasn't necessary. You chose to exclude your child.

You should have included your daughter in your wedding.
There was no need to go abroad, surely?

The only time you could get married was a two week trip abroad?! You couldn't have possibly managed a weekend here? I get it, you wanted a wedding abroad and that's fine but don't try and pretend you had a gun to your head!

Every other weekend is shocking. Who chose to move away?
'My Ex has a history with social services etc.'
What does this mean? Should you be resident parent?

Go to court and get a court order.

Fwiw I think living away from your dd so you don't have any meaningful time with her really and excluding her from your wedding were really shitty decisions, especially if your ex has had SS involvement (bad enough to bring up here to make her look bad, but, surprisingly, not bad enough for you to have more contact or even have your dd full time).

She's not wrong to be pissed off, she shouldn't be withholding contact though.

YOU were there op. YOU!! Are you one of those incapable fathers who cannot take care of their own child without a team of helpers? When I go on holiday I do not leave my children behind just because they don’t know anyone else there? They’re my bloody children! As it is you were there with close friends and family! And why was the only options apparently to pull her out for 2 entire weeks, or her not attend at all? Why couldn’t you have taken her for a long weekend so she only had a day or two off school? Or we’ve just had a half term, you could have booked it for then? I’d have flown her out with me, and then taken the time to escort her back home and then flown back by myself rather than have my own daughter miss my wedding. You’d have only really needed someone to watch her for an hour during the actual ceremony. You’ve excluded her from your new family and you’re now upset that your ex is pissed off at dealing with the inevitable fallout and is lashing out at your nasty decision

Yes OP, sorry but I agree that you were cruel to create a wedding that your DD couldn't attend.

You obviously had a million options for where and when to get married, and deliberately made choices such that she couldn't be there. You do need to own that, and stop making it seem like the circumstances were beyond your control.

Your DD is hurt and your ex is angry - as many mums would be on behalf of a child whose feelings have been hurt. You should start by apologising.

If it was you who moved away and created the distance between you and your DD then you really need to re-think your priorities - you're at very real risk of letting your child down.

Your decision not to have your own child at your wedding was ridiculous and guaranteed to cause hurt.

Your ex wife/partner shouldn't be withholding contact though.

Go to court to get access arrangements in place and if they are then you can enforce them either, through your ex, through court or as a last resort the police.

What was the social services involvement previously?

I agree with pp though, it was a dick move arranging your wedding specifically when you knew your daughter couldn't attend. That's on you.

Btw what was in her best interests would have been to arrange it so she could attend. Not arrange it to make it impossible for her and then give the excuse it was in her best interests because of your inconsiderate decision

You need to get a court order for contact. Your daughter’s only young so the ex has the opportunity to piss you around for years every time you upset her. Can I ask who it was who moved so far away that she cannot see you much? Withholding contact is out of order. But honestly if my childrens dad moved hours away so he couldn’t see me much, and then made the decision to get married on a date and at a place that his own child couldn’t attend, I’d be a little salty too. Your daughter may be already upset at the exclusion?

You would need to consider going to court to obtain a child arrangements order.

Here's the govt pages about this: Making child arrangements if you divorce or separate: If you cannot agree - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

Do you have court ordered access arrangements? If so, just tell your ex that you will be collecting your DD at the relevant time and if she refuses to hand her over, the police will be involved.
Also, what a dick move planning your wedding at a time when your child was not able to attend! Your DD must be heartbroken.