Denying Access to My Child

This is total bollocks. You could have got married in the UK and give on honeymoon. You could have TOOK YOUR CHILD WITH YOU 😂🤷🏼‍♀️. Are you shit heart broken, you are one of THOSE dads clearly.

This kind of works both ways as I’m not convinced that it was her who moved away from the op. He’s already proven himself a liar. If there was even the slightest hint that she would have denied her daughter the holiday, then I’m sure he would have used that in his list of excuses. But neither of us should be making stuff up that the op has not even said. What we do know is that she’s happily given eow and half holidays to the op with no court order, which is obviously how it should be but certainly not how it would have gone if she’d wanted to be awkward. And the op has said himself it was a child free wedding, apparently arranged at the only possible time he could do it, and he wasn’t pulling her out of school for it. It’s completely unfair for you to make something up to blame mum when going by the ops accounts it’s not even true

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Can you honestly not see that not inviting your own child to your legal ceremony to create a new family unit could be seen as at best uncaring and inconsiderate and at worst as though she's not even part of your new life?

Jesus fucking Christ.

Unless one of you is from the country where you had the wedding, you and your wife were unreasonable to design the wedding like you did. That was a crappy and selfish decision.

You would be perfectly reasonable to get a Child Arrangement Order to protect your time with dd. It’s pretty shocking that you happily disclose that ex has had SS involvement but you accepted her moving away (you could have legally stopped this ) and happily fuck off for a couple of weeks to get married. If your dd is in danger then you wouldn’t have made that decision. If SS was involved for minor stuff then you would have at least gone for 50/50 custody.

It was a deliberate choice in order to exclude her. And only one he could make because her mother has her nearly all of the time.

You see Im not convinced this mum did really want her 6 year old to go abroad for two weeks. She's moved away and doesn't facilitate the journey for her dd to see their dad, so if he didn't do all the driving home would that child see their dad? He didn't move away. Maybe the wedding is another excuse to distance the child from her other parent?

Reading back all he says is ‘she has a history with ss’. That could be anything. I got a phone call once after one of my children was admitted to an and e with an injury after what was admittedly a bizarre accident. Luckily said accident had taken place in an adventure park right in front of cctv which had already been pulled and viewed by health and safety due to equipment potentially failing. I guess that means I have a history with ss 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm afraid OP that yes, this is on you. it doesn't sound like your ex is behaving very well, but I imagine she's been dealing with the fallout of your dd being devastated that you didn't include her in your wedding. And it's very difficult to convince anyone that a 2 week trip abroad to get married without your child was literally your only option and your DD is very unlikely to be stupid, so she knows perfectly well that this isn't okay.

is your ex possibly hyping it up and making it an even bigger deal? Possibly. But then, do you have form for being a bit selfish and inconsiderate?

I can just imagine one of my daughters at 6 years old being told that daddy’s getting married. 100% their first thoughts would be shall I be a bridesmaid or a flower girl? I can’t begin to imagine their heartbreak at being told ‘oh you’re not allowed to come on holiday and to daddy’s wedding because you’re at school’. That’s one hell of a core memory to give your child because she’ll never forget it

You have implied that you think her mother is an unfit/unsuitable parent and you want to "protect" your daughter

And you've done what exactly about that before now? You've been happy for your daughter to live with someone who you feel she needs protecting from?

And now you're being denied access, you've done what? Sent some texts to your ex saying "pretty please"?

What legal routes have you taken, and if you've not taken them why haven't you?

Indeed. If I actually had a child in a situation that merited SS involvement, there's no way I'd tamely be accepting EOW at my ex's discretion.

A wedding with no children - your own words.

How would she not know anyone. - you’re her dad, she knows you.

You’ve been called out on you insensitivity and you’re trying to justify it to yourself.

Because if he was really worried about his ex wife's parenting, he'd have asked the courts to give him custody.

I think he just made that up.

So would I.

And I'm not sure that the OP was being entirely truthful about SS involvement.

The ops clearly already blamed the mum for everything else. I’m wondering what this ss thing was?

Maybe the daily fail will pick it up. I’d love to hear mums side to this.

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In other words, "I've been rumbled and I'm not even going to try to defend my shitty behaviour".

Pathetic, OP. Your poor daughter.

You were expecting everyone to agree with you and denigrate your daughter's mother.

Planning your wedding when your daughter couldn't attend will have been damaging to her, both now and in the long run. I'd question how much you have her best interests in mind, rather than just your own

My ex used to go on "family holidays" and not take our DC. Clearly they aren't family.

Oddly enough they don't speak to him anymore (they are late teens). According to him my fault.

I’m praying it makes trending. Honestly I was full of sympathy when first reading the op, but I think most people usually are when reading it from their point of view, especially when withholding contact is involved. It only takes a minute of thinking about what he’s actually done though to realise how nasty and unnecessary his actions were. Also full of backtracking and excuses as to why he’s done this

Court order.

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