Would you have an objection to a lesbian aupair?

The title of it made me angry - it obviously is an issue to even begin a thread about it. I mean, would anyone even consider starting a thread asking if they thought it was ok to have a straight au pair?

Why do people even have to think/ask if it is ok - what difference does it make to anything?

FFS why would anyone object to a lesbian aupair? Who cares what her sexual preference is as long as she does a bloody good job at looking after your kids.

Because almost nobody has said that they would mind. The unanimous consensus here is that nobody would mind.

Other issues such as whether or not au pair should have partners over etc etc etc are predominantly what's being discussed really. So the thread isn't even about being a lesbian, it's about everybody having a slightly different position on how much of their au pair's sex life they're happy to be aware of, condone under their children's roof ....

Yes I have - why do you ask?

droopy have you read this thread?

ffs these threads are so wrong.

Dotty, so sorry you have to read such shit - why oh why are lesbians frowned upon in this day and age? Its LIFE, and anyone who wants to think any different should keep their head stuck in the sand so that they dont stumble upon reality.

Another thread, I've completely missed....
I wouldn't have a problem at all with a lesbian AP or a homosexual AP. In fact we hired a boy last summer who in his words his sexuality was "uncertain" in mine he was very gay. That didn't bother me,...he was a crap AP... that did!
I do agree with ST, I don't want AP's picking up casual partners and bringing them back to my home. For all the obvious reasons and also I take my role of in loco parentis quite seriously and try to give the same advice as I would my own dc. (don't shag on a 1st date, always use a condom etc etc)
Once a partner becomes established then it's totally fine for them to stay, once we've met them, so pretty much what an AP would expect from their own parents. Recently I had an AP who wanted a bloke she'd met on FB to stay the weekend. I refused, she'd never actually met him, she had no idea (and neither did I) of whether he was someone I'd want in my home in front of my children. She wasn't happy, but when I asked her if her parents would allow it, she said of course not...

TheFallenMadonna - like I said, it's not a huge deal. My daughter's "godfather" is homosexual and he is a fantastic role model.

Because of their love lives Quattro... how else?

Unless your au pair is the only role model for your child, in which case you have bigger problems IMO, I can't see the harm with throwing a little diversity into the mix. In fact, I can see some benefit.

Isn't your dd 3?

I am interested in how you can be so certain about your DCs sexuality Anna ...

For my part I really am not keen on our aupair bringing people back when we are not here. Not for any reason of prudery (I hope though subliminally that might be part of it of course) but because I don't know them.

I am very careful about the people I introduce to my children and the people I introduce into the house. How do I know that they aren't going to do something terribly clever with the computers and nick all our cash? Or worse still nick our children?

Misguided because I think exploring one's sexuality is crucial before one decides on a life partner

Why the (not huge) preference for a heterosexual au pair?

Because our children are heterosexual, and I think that any child carer ought to be as relevant a human role model as possible to the children.

My partner's brother was homosexual, and he could have done with a homosexual role model / mentor in his (sadly short) life

why misguided?

May I ask why the preference Anna?

I don't think it is "moral" in any sense of the term to remain a virgin until marriage. I think it is just very misguided.

no imananny - I'm no proponent of promiscuity and nowhere have I said so .

enjoying their sexualty?

so you wouldnt object to them bringing home a new man ( or woman) every time they went out?

I honestly cant see how staying a virgin till you get married is wrong if thats what the person wants to do and is their belief

it doesnt make them a bad nanny

so basically you are saying you would prefer to employ someone who sleeps with lots of people (to explore ) or dare i write on MN a slut/slag rather than someone who has morals?

Yes, but it's not a huge deal.

Far better a sexually-active homosexual than a non-sexually active heterosexual.

But preferably enjoying their heterosexuality?

Because I think that a 18/19 year old ought to be enjoying his/her sexuality and I want healthy sexuality to be the norm in my children's lives.

This is very important to me.

I could never employ someone to care for my children who believed in "waiting for marriage" for religious or other reasons. That to me is wrong, and definitely not the values I want imparted to my children.

anna888- why would you hate and it would worry you for your au pair not to be sexually active ? [puzzled]

I have 2 friends who are strong christians and dont believe sex before marriage - one has boyfriend,other doesnt

Another friend is single and I think might be a virgin but none of my or her employers buisness

doesnt mean either of them would be a bettter or worse nanny than one who is having sex?

No, I would never employ a smoker.

Smoking is on my list of questions and also covered in house rules - no bringing friends round if they smoke, even smoking in garden is prohibited.

Won't employ a smoker.

no we dont smoke. no one allowed to smoke in house