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Childminder Revenge?

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MoonlitTeardrop · 09/07/2023 21:23

Hi everyone

Complete newbie here. Hoping you can help me figure out what is going on 😣

I have told my childminder on Friday that our little one will be going to nursery as of September giving her almost 2 months notice instead of the required one month to be nice and give her more time to find another child.

No reaction from her until 9pm that same night giving me notice that she will be closed Mondays and Fridays for August - we need full time childcare as both of us work full time and all this time my girl has been with her she has always been Mon to Fri.

I cannot fathom why she did this as this has put us into a very difficult situation. (Her excuse was to spend more time with her son as she has only taken time off with him when he was ill due to the other kids bringing illness into the setting making him ill which is not true.)She already knows that my OH and I have very little holiday left as we used up most of it to cover for her, she has taken 8 days in the last 2 months alone for holiday and moving house, and she knows that we have no one around us to help out with childcare. We have always been so understanding and supportive 😔 Even when we lost the tax free childcare as she had a beef with the ofsted inspector and meant she was no longer ofsted registered we stayed and paid the extra money.

I am going to be calling the nursery tomorrow with the hope that they can take my girl sooner.

Am I unreasonably worrying about this? I am worried if this is revenge she will also somehow take it out on my little girl.

Any advice? 😅

OP posts:
SecretVictoria · 09/07/2023 21:33

Not the pint of the thread, but can’t you have whoever you like looking after your children? If you choose an unregistered Ofsted person, surely that’s your choice?

KateyCuckoo · 09/07/2023 21:33

MoonlitTeardrop · 09/07/2023 21:31

She is now a registered nanny 🤷‍♀️ didn’t think it was illegal

At your house?

So why have you called her a childminder?

KateyCuckoo · 09/07/2023 21:32

I doubt it's revenge but sometimes you do things you don't want to do to keep your clients happy and when they are leaving anyway you lose that incentive. You've not worried about giving her notice so why would she feel a desire to carry on missing time with her child for you?

And I won't even get started on using an unregistered childminder....

TheGoodEnoughWife · 09/07/2023 21:32

Ofsted registration as a Nanny?

TheGoodEnoughWife · 09/07/2023 21:31

Being Ofsted registered is a legal requirement not just a nice to have.

I would have taken my child out from that point. I was a (Ofsted registered) childminder for years.

Hopefully your nursery can start her earlier.

Original poster
MoonlitTeardrop · 09/07/2023 21:31

She is now a registered nanny 🤷‍♀️ didn’t think it was illegal

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vincettenoir · 09/07/2023 21:30

I wouldn’t describe it as revenge. Rather she’s just choosing to do what suits her because she no longer needs to keep you sweet long term. So I don’t think you have any need to worry about her changing the way ahe treats your daughter.

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MoonlitTeardrop · 09/07/2023 21:29

She has given me a months notice but puzzled as I think if we hadn’t told about nursery she would not have done this

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RoseslnTheHospital · 09/07/2023 21:27

I doubt it's revenge. If she's no longer OFSTED registered then is this even a legitimate contract situation? Aren't you breaking the law by having her look after you children whilst unregistered?

DinkeyDonkey · 09/07/2023 21:27

Isnt she also required to give you notice to do that?