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Should childminder be expected to help with potty training?

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LuckyFlash · 08/07/2023 13:22

My DC is 2 and a bit. We’re not quite ready for potty training yet but thinking about it. When we first met our childminder I asked about potty training and she said she likes parents to start it off and then she will carry it on.

I had a brief chat with her about DC showing signs of interest in the potty. She said when we want to do it I need to take a couple of weeks off work and do the potty training and then bring him back when it’s properly established as she doesn’t have time to potty train with all the children she looks after.

she has 4/5 pre schoolers during the day and lots of school children pre and post school plus the school run so I get that it would be a challenge but I was really surprised that she wants nothing to do with it.

DC goes to her 4 days a week so is with her a lot of the time. Obviously there is also no guarantee that we would crack it in 2 weeks if I could take that time off work!

is this normal? I feel like it should be expected that a childminder should have to help with potty training but maybe I’m being unreasonable?

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AllIwantforChristmas22 · 08/07/2023 13:32

How is she allowed 5 pre schoolers at the same time?

mynameiscalypso · 08/07/2023 13:32

Different setting but our nursery won't help with potty training although obviously they support it by taking children to the potty etc once they're trained. The actual training people have to do at home, usually over Easter or a bank holiday weekend in my experience

Shinyandnew1 · 08/07/2023 13:31

Potty training is hard enough with one child-let alone running around after 4 other preschoolers. I would do start doing it over a summer holiday for you so the bulk of the training is done.

DéjàMoo82 · 08/07/2023 13:30

2 weeks seems a lot - our childminder asked us to keep our daughter home for a week to start potty training and I was fine with that, it made sense to me. We did it over Easter and by the time she went back she was fully potty trained. So I'd say starting off at home with some time off seems pretty reasonable (to me anyway) but I do think 2 weeks is a bit much! Could you coincide it with a time when the childminder is closed anyway - holidays etc?

Palomabalom · 08/07/2023 13:28

I understand both sides but honestly it would be really difficult for the CM and your child as there would be far more likely to have accidents which is incredibly inconvenient and not nice for the other kids or yours. I think expecting you to get your child in a pattern is right .

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