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What does nanny do during baby naps?

413 replies

i123i · 19/06/2023 10:09

We are looking to employ a nanny for our 10 month old. One of the things we are wondering about is - what does a nanny do while the baby naps (at home)? Our DC naps around 1-1.5 hours in the morning, and 1.5-2 hours in the early afternoon.

I understand nannies usually do baby laundry and ironing, and tidy away used baby items, but this wouldn't take up 3+ hours every single day... we don't want to pay a nanny to sit around while baby naps (this happened a while ago when we trialled a nanny).
Is it reasonable to expect her to do some light housework like emptying the dishwasher, and prepping some meals etc (we have a cleaner so wouldn't expect her to do a full on clean)?

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StrangerYears · 22/06/2023 03:32

Phoebo · 22/06/2023 00:20

Hardly the same when a teenager is being paid minimum wage, nkt t entuon its a one-off thing. I never know why people use completely irrelevant examples on here thinking they're clever 🙄

How is hardly the same thing?😮 Someone being paid to look after your kids when they are asleep.

It is totally relevant.

Phoebo · 22/06/2023 00:20

StrangerYears · 21/06/2023 23:40

What do pesky teens do when they babysit and my kids are already asleep?

Is it OK for a teen to repaint my house?
Just not keen for them to sit around, getting paid for nothing while my kids sleep.

Hardly the same when a teenager is being paid minimum wage, nkt t entuon its a one-off thing. I never know why people use completely irrelevant examples on here thinking they're clever 🙄

StrangerYears · 21/06/2023 23:40

What do pesky teens do when they babysit and my kids are already asleep?

Is it OK for a teen to repaint my house?
Just not keen for them to sit around, getting paid for nothing while my kids sleep.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 21/06/2023 23:10

The nanny should have a one hour break for her lunch where is entirely at her own leisure (except for checking baby monitor that baby isn't crying). If she wants to watch TV or go on computer she can. After that she can prepare for afternoons activites, cook baby's tea, tidy up from morning session if needed. She may also do baby laundry or sorting out toys.

Wantosleep39 · 21/06/2023 22:18

Nannies don’t have to do much while your baby is napping. Very young babies can sleep a lot during the day but they are hard work.
your nanny is looking after your precious. If you find a good nanny that loves your child, treat her well. Her main duty is to make your child happy, keep them safe and nurture. Children take so much energy physically and mentally. Let her rest and do nothing while your little one sleeping. As others said your child won’t be sleeping in few years time but it’s up to you to keep her that long

drspouse · 21/06/2023 22:04

I do my job sitting down (possibly even "perched on a chair") though I do I work in an office.

CantFindMyMarbles · 21/06/2023 21:45

Yes, you’re being unreasonable. She’s not a maid or a cleaner.
your kids aren’t guaranteed to nap that long. An hour twice a day is enough time to tidy up from whatever they’ve been doing and prepare anything that needs preparing for later - eg, baby food, stuff for outings etc.
Plus - they should be using some of that time for a break!!

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/06/2023 21:42

Nowdontmakeamess · 21/06/2023 21:33

The baby is only 10 months old and OP is already on her second nanny. She also has a cleaner. I think she has no idea how hard it is to look after a baby with no support like most of us.

Using some kind of childcare to go back to work is what most people do.

Emptycrackedcup · 21/06/2023 21:42

Talia99 · 21/06/2023 12:18

Also, what nannies do you know who work 9 to 5? Or do you think the baby just gets left on his / her own for a couple of hours a day while the parents commute to their 9 to 5 jobs?

Also, people I know who have nannies tend to be the higher earners who don’t work from 9 to 5 themselves.

Chances are the least hours worked will be 8 to 6 and more likely 7.30 to 6.30 or 7

All the nannies I know do this, of my four friends with nannies, one works part time, one WFH and the other two only have one partner doing long hours. Another one has a nanny for her twins who I think might do longer hours but she makes all the meals (for the whole family). I also assume you get what you pay for and this part don't know, so maybe the people who don't pay that much also don't do anything when the baby naps, all the ones I do know definitely do light housework.

Creamteasandbumblebees · 21/06/2023 21:36

Please don't hire a Nanny if this is going to be your attitude, when I was a Nanny I was treated as part of the family, it's a demanding job and while I was always happy to help out around the house some days were long and exhausting. I often listened to how unhappy my Nanny friends were as their employers treated them as housekeepers. Nannies are trained professionals and deserve to sit down with a cuppa/lunch and unwind if baby is sleeping, surely it's beneficial for her to be fresh and alert whilst looking after your child?

Nowdontmakeamess · 21/06/2023 21:33

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/06/2023 21:05

I don't agree with OP but this comment is just ridiculous. Of course she knows what it's like, this is her baby.

The baby is only 10 months old and OP is already on her second nanny. She also has a cleaner. I think she has no idea how hard it is to look after a baby with no support like most of us.

MrsLighthouse · 21/06/2023 21:18

Maybe they look for another job where they are appreciated more ?

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/06/2023 21:05

DarthTater3 · 21/06/2023 20:59

I would instruct nanny to put their feet up, have a cuppa and a rest - for the full duration of each nap if needed! Do you know how exhausting it is to look after a baby of this age by yourself all day?! Surely you want your nanny to be well rested and full of energy while baby is awake?

I don't agree with OP but this comment is just ridiculous. Of course she knows what it's like, this is her baby.

DarthTater3 · 21/06/2023 20:59

I would instruct nanny to put their feet up, have a cuppa and a rest - for the full duration of each nap if needed! Do you know how exhausting it is to look after a baby of this age by yourself all day?! Surely you want your nanny to be well rested and full of energy while baby is awake?

DetectiveDouche · 21/06/2023 20:11

Bloody hell… wealthy enough to afford cleaning staff and an actual nanny… but so wanting to make damn sure you get your money’s worth that you are quibbling over this!!

You do realise baby naps vary greatly in length and that the nanny will still be solely responsible for their well-being even while they sleep don’t you? And that regular napping is a temporary thing anyway….

mandlerparr · 21/06/2023 19:47

I must be a shit mom because all of that stuff plus a meal does take me the entire nap. I mean, I would expect baby-related cleaning. And that may cover wiping counters, cleaning bottles, sippy cups, etc. etc. It always amazes me how soon people forget how much time things take when they are no longer the ones doing said things.

DeeLasVegas · 21/06/2023 19:30

As a former nanny myself, I definitely wouldn’t want to be working for you. Thankfully the families I worked for became family to me and treated me with the respect I deserved. In turn I helped turn their babies into wonderful children. Thirty years later I am still in contact with them all. I can confirm they became wonderful, successful adults too.

Gingernan · 21/06/2023 19:28

When I was a nannies there were always jobs to do, maybe other children to look after.
If I'd been up doing the night bottles I would hope I got a few minutes to catch my breath, just like when I had my own children. They do have a life!

angela99999 · 21/06/2023 19:15

My daughter used to work as a nanny looking after two children, one under one and one under 3. She had them from 8 in the morning until 7 at night and was responsible for making their food (from scratch), doing their washing and keeping their toys and rooms tidy. The two year old went to nursery for a couple of hours in the morning three or three times a week and she usually spent the afternoon out with them in the fresh air. There honestly wasn't much time left over after all this - I went to stay with her for a couple of days when the parents went away and we were really busy.

NurseryNurse10 · 21/06/2023 18:50

Personally I would want my nanny well rested and would want her to get a good enough break. As long as toys were tidied up, preparation for activitiy etc, then that would be all good.
Some parents now except a nanny to be a housekeeper too. Puts me off applying for jobs when they want all family meals prepped, dishwasher loaded, laundry etc. Nannies are there for the kids, not to clean and cook vor you.

AllyArty · 21/06/2023 18:47

Whilst your baby is asleep your paid help/nanny/au pair (whatever) is making sure your baby is safe and minded. And instead of trying to make sure every minute of her time is utilised to your satisfaction how about focusing on finding the right person who is kind and trustworthy and who is going to love yr little one unconditionally?

BajaBaja · 21/06/2023 18:40

It’s interesting how everyone who works in the office has a lunch brake but a nanny apparently isn’t allowed one. Why can’t she sit down while the baby sleeps and eat something without having to feel like she’s doing something wrong.
Also you are paying a nanny for her time. She is still there in your house minding your child, even though your child is asleep. What happens when they’re ill and need supervision while asleep… she still working. Honestly some ppl

lookingforchangenowww · 21/06/2023 18:31

By the way, doing other little things for the child is not a big thing to ask as well.
just ask for that in the interview.

lookingforchangenowww · 21/06/2023 18:30

That’s a greedy ridiculous way of thinking.
She is right there to make sure your child is safe and not choking on their sleep, I see what you mean but 1:30 hours - 3 hours a day being there for your child when you can’t is not much, she deserves a rest.
if you are one of those who count minutes and pennies, you won’t ever get someone who will settle with your family and be there for you whenever you need or that extra nights or weekends. Pick your battles !

Daffodilsandtuplips · 21/06/2023 18:29

i123i · 19/06/2023 10:27

Wow, that is a strong response. I did say we have a cleaner so I don't expect her to do a full on clean. We've just been burned by a nanny we trialled before who didn't do anything during baby naps (and this is when DC was much younger and therefore napping for 5-6 hours a day).

Well bearing in mind she’s still ‘ on duty ‘ during nap time and responsible for his welfare during said nap times then she should get paid wether it’s for 5 hours or 1 hour. She doesn’t ‘clock on or clock off’. She’s there the whole time so she gets paid for her time not by the nappy change.