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Travelling with nanny

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jmap81 · 14/01/2023 22:04

I am planning on taking my nanny to a work meeting. We would be in an apartment and I would do overnights, bedtime etc. she would need to then babysit while I go for dinner with colleagues. But would be off duty overnight. Obviously I need to pay her babysitting hours and I am guessing something for the inconvenience for being away from home. This is UK travel. Does anyone have any experience of this?

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Clymene · 18/01/2023 16:18

Oh sorry @NuffSaidSam! Teach me to read properly

maddy68 · 18/01/2023 14:49

frozenpeasforever · 14/01/2023 22:34

You definitely don't need to pay for every hour she is away from home, that isn't how things work.

Companies that send people away on business for a week don't pay them for every hour they are away from home, only the hours they work. If they get an inconvenience payment that's on top.

I have always been paid an additional allowance for being away which ever company I have worked for

maddy68 · 18/01/2023 14:48

She needs to be paid for the 24 hrs. And something for the inconvenience of her not being at home (unless she lives in with you )

NuffSaidSam · 18/01/2023 14:40

Clymene · 18/01/2023 13:40

The OP's contract (and yours presumably?) include overnight travel within your annual salary. The OP is paying her nanny for standard hours with the requirement to travel paid on top, but hasn't negotiated how much that will be. Therein lies the problem and the reason for this thread.

Indeed @NuffSaidSam
But the OP seems to fundamentally misunderstand thaf:

I do not get paid more from my employer when I am away from home but it seems like the nanny industry does seem to get something for the inconvenience.

Good nannies are like gold dust. If you don't pay them properly, they walk.

Incidentally, I am not a nanny nor have I have ever had one. I have used childcare extensively when my children were younger though and I know that if you pay well and treat your childcare providers well, you are rewarded.

I wasn't responding to your post I was responding to the person who quoted your post in their reply.

I totally agree with you.

Clymene · 18/01/2023 13:40

The OP's contract (and yours presumably?) include overnight travel within your annual salary. The OP is paying her nanny for standard hours with the requirement to travel paid on top, but hasn't negotiated how much that will be. Therein lies the problem and the reason for this thread.

Indeed @NuffSaidSam
But the OP seems to fundamentally misunderstand thaf:

I do not get paid more from my employer when I am away from home but it seems like the nanny industry does seem to get something for the inconvenience.

Good nannies are like gold dust. If you don't pay them properly, they walk.

Incidentally, I am not a nanny nor have I have ever had one. I have used childcare extensively when my children were younger though and I know that if you pay well and treat your childcare providers well, you are rewarded.

custardbear · 18/01/2023 12:46

jmap81 · 16/01/2023 18:53

Hi all, yes the nanny did agree to this. I would not have hired her otherwise as I expect a bit of travelling with work. It's in the contract that she would travel sometimes but we did not go through the financial side. When I do, I would like to have a couple of ways of approaching it hence asking on here. As always, seems like there's lots of different ways of doing things. Just aware that since it's the first time, I am setting a precedent! I do not get paid more from my employer when I am away from home but it seems like the nanny industry does seem to get something for the inconvenience. I will mull on it but thank you so far for the input.

You probably get a better rate of pay than a nanny to be honest.
My employer gives financial support to staff with children to help with travelling and extra costs for us, if your company does the same then maybe the could be paid extra.
Failing that I'd be inclined to give them time to explore and some extra money for babysitting extras and some extra spending money would be nice considering she's away from her 'home'

NuffSaidSam · 18/01/2023 12:42

pocketvenuss · 18/01/2023 11:08

@Clymene Of course the OP doesn't get paid extra for overnight travel. I've done it a lot. But it was in my contract and it will be in the OP's.
It was in the nanny's contract also

Yes, but the pay wasn't! Hence the need for this thread!

The OP's contract (and yours presumably?) include overnight travel within your annual salary. The OP is paying her nanny for standard hours with the requirement to travel paid on top, but hasn't negotiated how much that will be. Therein lies the problem and the reason for this thread.

monitor1 · 18/01/2023 11:19

pocketvenuss · 18/01/2023 11:08

@Clymene Of course the OP doesn't get paid extra for overnight travel. I've done it a lot. But it was in my contract and it will be in the OP's.
It was in the nanny's contract also

Foolishly, the OP didn't put in the nanny contract what she would be paid for travelling. So it's all up for negotiation.

Can2022getanyworse · 18/01/2023 11:16

Companies that send people away on business for a week don't pay them for every hour they are away from home, only the hours they work

No, but they are usually paying far more than a nanny is, with overnight travel written into the contract, accommodation AWAY from the 'office' and 'colleagues', all meals and usually some sort of paid evening entertainment.

I would expect to receive a huge pay uplift in OP's nanny's shoes, unless travel and overnights are included in the contract that is a HUUUUGE ask!

pocketvenuss · 18/01/2023 11:08

@Clymene Of course the OP doesn't get paid extra for overnight travel. I've done it a lot. But it was in my contract and it will be in the OP's.
It was in the nanny's contract also

Clymene · 17/01/2023 23:31

pocketvenuss · 17/01/2023 15:36

@Clymene lots of people who are not on high rates travel for work and they don't get paid extra. If it's in the contract then they just get paid as normal. Not only super high flying executives travel for work

Of course the OP doesn't get paid extra for overnight travel. I've done it a lot. But it was in my contract and it will be in the OP's. So either the OP tells her employer she can't do the travel since she had a baby or she finds another job. The nanny shouldn't be shortchanged.

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/01/2023 23:29

@Aintnosupermum I've always said that childcare should be take off a salary as an expense - then taxes on the remainder

So isa pays well and good tax - but isn't it bad for maternity and back at work /not paid after 6w or has that changed

Tho for every good there has to be a payoff iyswim

pattihews · 17/01/2023 22:53

I have no 'nanny emotion' at all, never had one, will never need one. I just think people who work for many hours a day need to be adequately recompensed. I take the line that if someone can't just walk out of the house/ hotel and go off and do their own thing then they're working, even if they're watching TV. If she's a good nanny, OP, you'll know how valuable she is to you.

Perhaps you could contact a couple of agencies saying you are looking for a nanny prepared to travel with you for business and asking what hours and pay would they expect? I'm sorry to hear of your difficult personal circumstances, I know times are hard for all sorts of people.

Aintnosupermum · 17/01/2023 22:52

@Blondeshavemorefun I am sunk without childcare. Two of my children have ASD/ADHD. My third child needs their mummy cuddles too. My nanny is the most important resource/asset in my life and it’s what I spend the most on. I drive a boring car, live modestly and vacation for me is working in bed with cameras off!

The other thing to point out, wages are ridiculous low for middle and senior management in the UK. I work for an American company, as an American (despite being English), from their American office. Hell will freeze over before I go full time in the UK. I wouldn’t make enough to pay my nanny. It’s awful that it is this way, but there needs to be serious reform around childcare costs and how that all works with people’s tax paid.

Currently, if I was in the UK, I’d be paying 65% tax on my income if you included the NI and pension contributions I have to pay for the nanny. That is just not sustainable and it’s ridiculous that someone with my sort of income, for the hours that I work (12-14 hrs a day) even as a lone parent, can’t make it work.

I think people don’t realize how much taxes are paid by those earning over £60k a year and how many hours they have to work to earn that money. I work over 100hrs most weeks and I’m lucky I’m remunerated for it. So many people are not paid fairly for the hours worked.

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/01/2023 22:33

Maybe ask nanny to write down what she would like

You write down what you would like to pay as well

if less And try and find an inbetween

In the end your nanny has to be happy with it or she may end up leaving if travelling is a regular thing

jmap81 · 17/01/2023 22:24

Thanks everyone for your replies. I didn't expect to be opening a can of worms here. Clearly this is a sensitive topic with differing views and various parties represented on this thread. I have to take my child away with me for various reasons. My salary is not relevant here (assumptions that I have lots of cash to spare are wildly wrong). The bottom line is I want to do the right thing, be fair, treat my nanny fairly. I realise it's a murky area. But I am in the red each month despite living modestly because of my personal situation so I have to find the right balance of being fair, generous where I can be but not setting up the wrong precedent. I will of course be thinking about how I enable the nanny to have breaks, cover all expenses etc. I am not ready to share my "proposal" yet and plan to do it in conversation with my nanny. It seems like whatever I say here will be critiqued! There seems to be so much emotion about nanny treatment, in general, which I have unearthed by my post.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 17/01/2023 22:19

@Aintnosupermum you sound a lovely employer

@jmap81 what were you thinking of paying

pattihews · 17/01/2023 21:03

Everydayitsgettingcloser · 17/01/2023 17:22

But the person you quoted suggests £75 as a bonus/inconvenience payment - almost twice what your friend got for a sleep in shift where she could be woken for an emergency whereas the OP is planning to deal with any emergency. £75 seems pretty reasonable to me - what figure did you have in mind?

I was responding particularly to those who were saying that no one gets paid for the hours they're asleep, but actually, the proposal to pay their ordinary daily rate and then £75 on top may or may not come out roughly similar. If the nanny normally works 8am to 5.30pm, but will be required to look after the children from around 5.30pm to 10pm, when OP returns from dinner, that's another four hours. I would suggest those extra four hours of babysitting need to be at a premium rate to reflect how many hours she's already put in over the day, plus a sleep-time allowance. So probably more than £75.

monitor1 · 17/01/2023 20:59

pocketvenuss · 17/01/2023 15:38

@monitor1 as I just said, lots and lots of people on normal pay travel for work. Why do people think only super high flying executives travel for work? Nanny's can be paid £50-70k a year (much higher in sine circumstances). That's much more than many other people who travel in the course if their work. People need to stop thinking of nannies as little servants. They are skilled well paid employees.

I wouldn't expect someone on £50 - 75k per year to have to travel routinely without getting some sort of recompense. I wouldn't do it for that sort of money.

NuffSaidSam · 17/01/2023 19:40

pocketvenuss · 17/01/2023 15:38

@monitor1 as I just said, lots and lots of people on normal pay travel for work. Why do people think only super high flying executives travel for work? Nanny's can be paid £50-70k a year (much higher in sine circumstances). That's much more than many other people who travel in the course if their work. People need to stop thinking of nannies as little servants. They are skilled well paid employees.

Of course we're skilled and often well paid, but it is a job that is paid hourly. The more hours you work, the more you're paid. It's really that simple. Other jobs are different, that's life.

Aintnosupermum · 17/01/2023 17:43

My nanny travels with me for work and personal travel. I have 3 children and I’m in a senior role at work.

You need to put a lot more thought into the schedule. So, trip to London in March, dates are set and my work schedule is 90% there. I have put together a plan of what the children will do each day. I’m also staying in a hotel with a pool because if the weather is miserable, it’s a great activity for my children now they are proficient swimmers.

She has a card to pay for breakfast, lunch and dinner, treats for the children and other such incidentals. I buy snacks when I arrive. The nanny pays for nothing while she is on the trip. All transport, food, hotel, insurance etc is paid for by me.

When it comes down to pay, I keep her hours to 12/day. I work 6am to 10pm, the kids get up at 7/8, they go down 7-9pm. I hire a hotel sitter for 6pm+. The nanny has from 6pm to go out and experience the city for herself, or do something else, such as spend the evening in her bedroom.

I pay her 12 hours for her time and I pay her half rate at night. It’s not cheap and I let the guys know because I don’t think they appreciate their wives.

Everydayitsgettingcloser · 17/01/2023 17:22

pattihews · 17/01/2023 16:02

But the only reason she is sleeping in a hotel room, without access to all her home comforts and her usual routine and possibly her own family (yes, some nannies have children of their own) is because the OP has required her to go. She needs to be compensated for the inconvenience of that.

Before Covid a retired friend of mine had a job where she slept overnight at a local care home several nights a week. There was a requirement for three people to be available overnight in case of emergency and she was there to make up the number. She was paid £40 a night to arrive by 9.30pm and sleep in her own room. She was only once woken to assist and she got an extra £10 for being woken. Just mentioning that as an indication that people get paid for being asleep when not at home.

But the person you quoted suggests £75 as a bonus/inconvenience payment - almost twice what your friend got for a sleep in shift where she could be woken for an emergency whereas the OP is planning to deal with any emergency. £75 seems pretty reasonable to me - what figure did you have in mind?

pattihews · 17/01/2023 16:02

jclm · 16/01/2023 21:48

Shocked at some of the responses... When working away, usually you would pay the nanny for the hours she has worked plus a bonus rate of perhaps £75 a night for the inconvenience of working away. This is very different from paying a nanny for all the hours she is away from home, given she is not working at night time, for instance.

Not all nanny employers are wealthy. Some hire a nanny because they are a single mum or because they have a disabled child...

But the only reason she is sleeping in a hotel room, without access to all her home comforts and her usual routine and possibly her own family (yes, some nannies have children of their own) is because the OP has required her to go. She needs to be compensated for the inconvenience of that.

Before Covid a retired friend of mine had a job where she slept overnight at a local care home several nights a week. There was a requirement for three people to be available overnight in case of emergency and she was there to make up the number. She was paid £40 a night to arrive by 9.30pm and sleep in her own room. She was only once woken to assist and she got an extra £10 for being woken. Just mentioning that as an indication that people get paid for being asleep when not at home.

pocketvenuss · 17/01/2023 15:38

@monitor1 as I just said, lots and lots of people on normal pay travel for work. Why do people think only super high flying executives travel for work? Nanny's can be paid £50-70k a year (much higher in sine circumstances). That's much more than many other people who travel in the course if their work. People need to stop thinking of nannies as little servants. They are skilled well paid employees.

pocketvenuss · 17/01/2023 15:36

@Clymene lots of people who are not on high rates travel for work and they don't get paid extra. If it's in the contract then they just get paid as normal. Not only super high flying executives travel for work