DLA Waiting Times Part 6 2022

I feel your pain I hope you get what your daughter deserves hopefully they don’t keep you waiting to long my scan date is the 22nd Aug feeling really anxious now fingers crossed o hear something soon

Yes my daughter also has anxiety but doesn’t have learning difficulties. She has huge lack of empathy so she is very inconsiderate of anyone or anything else’s feelings, which gets her into trouble a lot. She won’t eat with knife and fork, just with her bare hands. If left to dress herself then she would literally put on a bikini in the depths of winter - always something completely inappropriate and she will not understand what’s wrong with it at all. I can’t talk to another adult or on the phone when she is around as she literally won’t have it and commands my 100% attention at all times. She has massive meltdowns every 10 minutes, speaks to other adults in a terrible manner, and takes huge risks all the time so she has to be watched all the time. I put her to bed and she gets up 10-20 times per night. She’s always been like this but now that she’s older it’s very clear that it’s a bigger problem than just being a “difficult child” so to speak. Her bedroom looks like a bomb has gone off - she has completely destroyed everything in it being so destructive. She either breaks or looses every thing she is ever given within minutes of having it. She breaks so much around the house or if I turn my back she has paint out and is putting it on the carpet or furniture etc! Something you would expect from a toddler maybe but not an 11 year old as she has been told countless times how wrong it is, but it just doesn’t seem to register 🤦🏻‍♀️ however, she has no learning difficulties and is extremely forward at school! 🤷🏻‍♀️ very difficult to get any kind of help with her at all but people avoid coming to my house because of her 😩

@Mumofminimes would your gp be willing to write a letter to the senco stating she needs to be referred asap? Then if that doesn’t work take it to the principle? X

Hi @dandymum i went to my GP with the emails from the schools care and guidance teacher stating all my daughters issues and stating she feels she needs to be referred and assessed for ADHD but unfortunately all though he was lovely he said he was unable to as in my area it specifically needs to be done by the school to prove it is noticeable in two settings! He seemed just as frustrated by their slowness on referring her. I live in Kent x

@Mumofminimes would your gp be able to do the referral if you have emails from the teachers? X

@Meli3 Good luck with your sons, I also need to do one for my daughter but again it’s a long process with the school to get her referred she is 13 and shows signs of ADHD, has anxiety and is having counselling. She doesn’t show as obvious signs as my son (7 and quite severe traits) but apparently girls are better at masking. Several of her teachers have mentioned it to me through phone calls home, emails etc but trying to get the senco to action it seems impossible. Why do we have to fight so hard for our babies to get the help they need 🤷🏻‍♀️

Good luck to everyone else and hope you all get some good news this week x

@Shellbel10 www.gov.uk/mandatory-reconsideration/how-to-ask-for-mandatory-reconsideration Hopefully this helps a little x

@Mumofminimes I was surprised too because I didn't receive any text I just felt something in my gut to call. I did send lots of evidence and wrote lots on the forms. I am so pleased a relived. Have to do it all again for my son also xx

Has anyone on here done a mandatory reconsideration. I feel deflated with it all

Tomorrow is a new day. Fingers crossed the ones without answers get some and hopefully all positive outcomes!!!

Congratulations for those who were able to awarded.
Good luck for who is going to go for a MR. I really hope you are successful.

I called just before they close to see if new evidence I sent was scanned…. It was not…. She was lovely and put a notes on the claim. Once is with DM they will be able to see and call me for details.

My forms were scanned on the 26th. I’m just so nervous now… hopefully not long now.

Thankyou @Meli3 i really didn’t think I was going to get it: no diagnosis. No senco statement (school is rubbish) just his initial paediatrics report saying he needs to be assessed for ADHD and ASD. I am also surprised decision was made on 19th Nov. No text or anything so glad I called today, first time calling is been trying to put it off incase it was bad news. So glad our little ones have got what they deserve x

@Mumofminimes exactly same award and decision on the same day as yours. So pleased for you xx

Hi All, long time lurker here. Called before they closed today and my DS has been awarded HRC & LRM. Scan date 24th August. Apparently decision was made on 19th Nov and letter was sent out. This thread kept me going so thankyou and good luck to you all still waiting x

@Poniesandproseccobubbles OMG your daughter sounds like a girl version of my son his exactly the same but also suffers with Anxiety and learning difficulties, I agree with the bit about the older they get the harder it is I’ve only just made a claim scan date 22nd Aug so hopefully should hear something g back soon

Really sorry to hear you was unsuccessful please do a MR I will keep my fingers crossed for you all xx

Hi all. Been lurking for some weeks and reading all posts. Congrats to all who have been awarded and I’m sorry to hear those who haven’t. Keep up the fight! My scan date is 19th august. My 11 year old daughter has ADHD referral from GP to CAHMS, and other than that all I had was a witness statement (which was extremely detailed) and the forms I sent in, in which I also went into a lot of detail. But looking at this I’m not overly hopeful. I called them Friday and they said it wasn’t with a DM yet but haven’t been able to call today as I’m working until 10pm tonight. Anyway, good luck to all those still waiting and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for a miracle! My daughter has been a nightmare (bless her little heart) since a toddler but I’ve managed to cope. But now she’s older, it’s so much more noticeable and she acts so much younger than an 11 year old, and is constantly in trouble with everyone around her for being destructive, rude, swearing (I never swear in front of her) etc etc. When told off for swearing she is always suprised as she has no idea that she’s done it 🤷🏻‍♀️She can’t wash herself or clean her own teeth and will still run out into roads with no warning so has to be restrained.. I’ve just coped with it for years but seems to be getting worse and am at wits end. She also hardly sleeps. GP says she’s sure it’s ADHD and has referred but refrral times is months, but GP said apply for DLA 🤷🏻‍♀️ here’s hoping as it would help cover the cost of all the things she destroys at least!

@Kay96 i found out my sons was unsuccessful also today. I will do mandatory reconsideration but not received letter yet

@Kay96 I’m really sorry to hear that, make sure you do a MR xxx

@Kay96 what evidence did you send? i feel like mine will also not be successful as she’s only just been diagnosed at 14, adhd and asd. i sent both diagnosis reports and pupil passport from school

Thankyou to all of you, really wish you all the best xx

@Meli3 Congrats! What a lovely Bday present for you little one!

Just rang up again unfortunately my sons claim was not successful

@georgiesmuma yeah the 19th too. It’s been with a decision maker since Thursday but no decision yet! Congratulations I’m made up for you 😊

With DM but no decision yet x