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My childminder left my daughter all day with her assistant

82 replies

Glamourgal1989 · 27/10/2022 21:39

And I have just heard about it ! I’m absolutely furious. Her husband got really sick so she needed to go with him to hospital, I could have accepted the first time it happened but it happened more than once and she left the children with the assistants for much more than 2 hours. I only know about it because a friend mention it in passing and I put 2 and 2 together.

I mentioned it to the childminder and she admitted it but also got very defensive when I told her I was unhappy and that I should have been told. I never would have left her in the care of the assistant. I want to take my daughter from her care and complain to Ofsted. Would you do the same ?

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NiceTwin · 27/10/2022 22:03

As you aren't happy with the assistant looking after your dd, you should ask the cm to tell you if the situation arises again.
That way, you can look after your own dd.

I think you are overreacting. Her dh was ill, have some bloody compassion.

MajorCarolDanvers · 27/10/2022 22:02

I don't see what the problem is.

This is her employee who will be disclosure checked and will know your child.

And it was an emergency. Have some compassion.

And stop overreacting.

Guessie · 27/10/2022 21:59

youagainomg · 27/10/2022 21:48

Her husband got really sick and she left your child with a person she employs who she trusts to watch people's children's. Complete overreaction from you.

I agree with this. I mean some people literally just find babysitters on the Internet and meet with them a couple of times before leaving them with their kids. You're talking about a clearly qualified person covering in an emergency. I'd be 100% fine with this.

youagainomg · 27/10/2022 21:48

Her husband got really sick and she left your child with a person she employs who she trusts to watch people's children's. Complete overreaction from you.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 27/10/2022 21:48

What is covered in your contract re Assitants stepping in? Does her Ofsted mention anything about Assistants?

Kite22 · 27/10/2022 21:47

I think there are quite a few "it depends" in here.

Who is the assistant ? A colleague with years of experience or a 16 yr old apprentice ?
Although I see you say "assistants" - so the combination of who was being looked after and who was looking after them comes in to play here.

Was this an emergency, that her dh was taken in to hospital for ?

You absolutely should know about it, but I should imagine the vast majority of parents who are at work would be glad that, despite the CMer having to deal with a potential emergency, their dc were still able to be looked after by two familiar people that you are happy that they are looked after by on all the other days, rather than having to shoot out of work and charge home at that minute.

2020firsttimemum · 27/10/2022 21:43

I think we need more info here

Why are you not happy for her to be left with the assistant?
Is the assistant qualified to be left on their own with the children?
Was the assistant over the ratio?
Was anyone else there to help the assistant?

So many questions

But if the assistant was qualified and was able to care for the children (I.e within ratio) I don't think I'd have a problem with it.

Obviously if she was incapable for whatever reason then yes maybe so